Unsympathetic **** of a boyfriend 😡

[babylovexo]

So I'm going to rant because I don't know what to do anymore with my OH. We've lived together for 2 years now. I've basically been really ill for the past month; starting with flu, then turning into a chest infection and now I have glandular fever I've been signed off from work for 2 weeks and just can't do anything!! I went to hospital today for blood tests and was checked over again to see if everything was ok. I have a temp of 39 degrees and just feel crappy!!

Anyway OH just expects me to carry on as normal and if I ask him to do something for me for example cook dinner (it's the biggest problem in the world) slamming pots and pans about in the kitchen etc. He then threw a complete strop saying that he was going to watch what he wanted to watch on tv because I got to watch what I wanted all day (sounds like a 10 year old!) it then got to about 10pm I said I'm going up to bed he's going into the kitchen (where the back door is) and he turns to me and goes "well aren't you going to let the dog out then?" When he was by the back door anyway and I was over the other side of the house!! We then had a massive argument and he said that he's fed up with me being like this and moping about, when it's not that at all I've never been this ill and I've still tried to carry on as normal as I can!

So I'm now sat here in bed he's fallen asleep and I just keep snarling at him because of how much he's p me off!!!!

Is this just men in general or have I got an extra unsympathetic one!! 😡😡😡

Ironic really. Pregnancy fetish, but would run a mile from caring from an actual pregnant person. Tells you all you need to know.

@annie you can most definitely hold me to that! It'll be difficult because I know he won't go easily but it can't be as bad as my ex I seem to attract this kind of man child 😂😂

I honestly didn't realise how amazing mumsnet is!! You've all had me in a huge grin for the past hour and have all made me laugh (for good reasons obviously) it's like I've seen the light and realise what I need to do now!!

Here's to finding someone I deserve!! 👍🏻❤️

You do indeed deserve someone who loves you and treats you with kindness.

If you stay it will benefit him, if you go it will benefit you. You can choose. It's your choice.

Choose wisely. Not all men are like that.

he sounds revolting, like an actual wrongun.

You need to leave him. Fast.

He's a sexist, porn-addicted, lazy cunt and you want marriage and kids with him? You have serious co-dependency issues to waste a minute of your life with this twat.

👍🏻 But there’s no rush, there’s plenty of fun to be had single!

Get some advice re your property. Stay on the ladder if you can, even if you don’t have huge equity in it, it’s come a toe hold! You don’t have to live in it.

The more you have to rally because of his uselessness, the longer it will take you to get well, so yes, go to your mum's for a bit and be looked after. I very rarely throw LTBs around but I'll make an exception for this charmer. You'll find someone else to love, who deserves it far more. Hope you start to feel better soon.

Lemme guess, when he has the slightest sniffle he retires to bed for a minimum of two days and expects you to go into full Florence Nightingale mode?

FFS get rid of this dick! Can you go back to your mum for a few days and be looked after? While you're ill, you don't want the added stress of having to deal with his attitude. When you're better, you can either move out yourself or tell him to go (depending on the situation with your house ie rented or mortgaged, who owns it, etc.)

I wonder if you will carry through?

How lovely that you respect your dad so much. This man's daughter will never respect him like that, will she? You return to the theme of his fantasy and that clearly bothers you a lot.

It's horrible when they stop making the effort and you see what nasty bastards they really are isn't it? I realised how vile my husband was and how little he cared when my 4yo son showed more care and sympathy for me when i hurt myself. I remember my little boy shouting ' Mum, ate you ok? Quick, dad, mum has hurt herself'. My husband did a ' here we go again face!' I didn't leave and it's still like that today.

Get rid. Good luck.

Re-read this thread if you feel yourself weakening at any point!!

He's just awful Massive tantrum because his domestic appliance (you) is malfunctioning. Please do get rid of him.

You really really must ensure that you follow this through. Get rid and don’t look back

My DH walks to garage to buy me soup, will get cab late at night if he's had a drink to go to late night chemist, make dinner for DC etc if I'm ill
I do same for him
It's being in a partnership
No children with a man like this - it's hard enough without this nonsense

I’m so glad you are seeing sense. Who the fuck would be put out because their GF is I’ll? That is seriously selfish and self obsessed. That’s also putting his needs well above yours. Can you imagine what it would be like having a child with him? Nightmare.

Good luck OP. You deserve better.

You'll all be very proud of me!! I've been awake all night and packed his stuff up so 5am this morning when he got up for work it was all downstairs ready for him we argued and it ended up with him taking his stuff in his van to work with him! Haven't heard a word from him yet! Needless to say I feel relieved part of me feels hurt and upset but I've just got to remember how much he has hurt me over the last couple of years and that I can get through it!! I'm taking the dog and myself to my mums for a few days and my dads changed the lock on the house for now so that he can't get back in the house if he finds out I'm not there! Here's to new beginnings!!!

Wow, well done!

You've been really strong and definitely made the right decision

This is the stage where you find if the man you're dating is suitable for a long term relationship or marriage. It's like a probationary period.

He's failed and yet you've still kept him on. You want kids...he doesn't. Why are you wasting time with him?

This isn't even about you being ill right now ... he's not suitable for you.

Too many women see the glaring signs, but just carry on... till they reach late thirties and don't leave because they feel they've invested so much time.

Then they blame the man for wasting their fertile years. Take action now.

Just read your update. Excellent.

You've made the right decision op. The way somebody treats you when you are of no 'use' to them shows their true character.

Good luck and I hope you feel better soon

A fetish for pregnant women? shock That's sick Isn't that a step away from being a.......ya know..... Can I say the P word

Are you drunk? In what way is having sex with or liking the body of an adult pregnant woman the same as abusing children?

I guess your partner stayed away from you when you were just a baby vessel, right?

Can you legally change the locks on a joint property like that?

I'm so so glad to read your update OP and I really hope you start to feel better soon.
There are some wonderful men out there who will take care of you when you're sick and don't expect to be waited on hand and foot.

so he behaves like this now when you are Sick for a few weeks how do you think he will be with a newborn Baby? How about if like most women you are sick and tired during pregnancy and then like most new mums spend the first year sleep deprived?

I can guess what he will be like and I think you can too. It’s only two years that you have lived together he is in no rush to commit to you, he isn’t kind and is showing resentment when you are sick. All danger signs of a future crap partner. Leave now while you can and build a future with someone like your dad.