Unsympathetic **** of a boyfriend 😡

[babylovexo]

So I'm going to rant because I don't know what to do anymore with my OH. We've lived together for 2 years now. I've basically been really ill for the past month; starting with flu, then turning into a chest infection and now I have glandular fever I've been signed off from work for 2 weeks and just can't do anything!! I went to hospital today for blood tests and was checked over again to see if everything was ok. I have a temp of 39 degrees and just feel crappy!!

Anyway OH just expects me to carry on as normal and if I ask him to do something for me for example cook dinner (it's the biggest problem in the world) slamming pots and pans about in the kitchen etc. He then threw a complete strop saying that he was going to watch what he wanted to watch on tv because I got to watch what I wanted all day (sounds like a 10 year old!) it then got to about 10pm I said I'm going up to bed he's going into the kitchen (where the back door is) and he turns to me and goes "well aren't you going to let the dog out then?" When he was by the back door anyway and I was over the other side of the house!! We then had a massive argument and he said that he's fed up with me being like this and moping about, when it's not that at all I've never been this ill and I've still tried to carry on as normal as I can!

So I'm now sat here in bed he's fallen asleep and I just keep snarling at him because of how much he's p me off!!!!

Is this just men in general or have I got an extra unsympathetic one!! 😡😡😡

My thoughts exactly but he loves the dog more so than how much he loves me! 😂😂

@calmandbright unfortunately not very practical it would be very stressful!! We are joint owners to a property and we're not quite at the two year mark we would have to pay penalties if we settled up early. I'm going to talk to him tomorrow about it all but then again I might not say anything to him and just leave for a couple of days and stay with my parents just to clear my head and get better! X

A fetish for pregnant women? That's sick

Isn't that a step away from being a.......ya know..... Can I say the P word?

Why are you with this guy? He sounds utterly vile.

Keep the dog on your bed and leave the twisty fucker on the couch. Then tomorrow tell him to get gone. He needs to go to his dm not you! For good.

Be thankful you have seen his true character.Rather than be angry see it as a blessing and a warning sign.

He lacks compassion and that is a big flaw in a person.Its would be a massive risk to have a child with him and he is likely to get worse not better.

Lots of girls use their dad as their role model- sadly not the case for me 😂

Wow. Just seen the pregnancy fetishise and Porn bit.

Yeah see how you feel physically and emotionally after having time out.

Even when you are well does he help around the house.

My DP also comes from a house where mum does everything for her boys (and still does). I’ve been living with DP in our own house for 6 months now and got to say DP is doing well- washes, cooks, cleans. So they definitely exist xx

Tell him to leave while you sell the property and move on with your life. If you stay with your DPs for any length of time he will obstruct.

Also my advice would be looking into changing your mortgage to ‘tenancy in common’ rather than joint x

I don’t understand why you are not sure what to do?

He’s a total misogynist....

Why on earth would it be obvious all you want is marriage and DC?! Why on earth would you want to shackle yourself to a man like this?!

How can you possibly love someone who treats you so horribly?!

Are you sure it’s not codependency rather than love?

Run for the hills!

What a pig!!! Get rid - what's there to love? Imagine having a child with him - he will give you no support and expect his bloody tea on the table.
He's cruel really - he thinks you shouldn't be ill or if you are you've still got to do everything!!! Sod that - you've had a rough time - he should be caring for YOU.

Do not get pregnant with this man.

He isn't good enough for you.

Wow I would be handing his arse on a plate and dumping this lazy nasty git. You can do better.

My DH also comes from a family where everything is the woman’s job.

But my DH doesn’t copy his father/brothers and doesn’t want me to copy his mother/sister. He views me as a partner rather than his staff.

Imagine what it would be like if you have children with this man child and you become ill. And would you want your children to grow up knowing that their mother is the doormat for family?

It was a case of complacency rather than love with my ex. Whatever you do don’t wake up tomorrow and think you were ‘just being emotional’ and think it’s all fine. I did that far too much and strung the relationship on for a year before he did the dirty on me anyway 😂

Be strong and good luck xx

Why do you want to marry him?

Go to you mums. You can get a buyer and exchange on the house prior to the deal expiring just don’t complete. 3 months prior is a great time to go on the market.

He is showing you exactly who he is, a bad catch - chuck him back in the pond.

To start off with it was lovely the sort of first year and a half before we moved in together that honeymoon period was great! He couldn't do enough for me took me out places, bought me lovely things always professed his love to me etc! But of course that was because he was hiding his disgusting fetish and addiction!! And obviously had mummy to do everything for him!

We then moved in together and that's when it all went down hill endless arguments of him not doing stuff then he would do stuff and his mum would say how "proud" she is of him because of what a "man" he was turning in to..... no. He's 27!!! He was a man years ago! And he still acts like a child!! That was obviously when I found out about the fetish and the addiction too, if only his mummy knew about that!! Oh and you can tell she hates me too 😂😂 yep I think it takes something like this to realise how kind and caring OH's actually are and I have a nasty baby man child who cares about no one other than himself!!

Thank you girls tomorrow I'm done!! I'm setting myself up in the spare room and getting some sleep in there and tomorrow he's a goner!!

Urgh. He sounds completely awful.

Not all men are like that, there are plenty of decent ones that are partners and not extra children. I beg you to ditch this douchcanoe and find one of them.

my ex was a twat when I was sick, I was usually allowed 2 days maybe, then I was expected to suck it up and get on with it.

LTB, he'll never change and god forbid you ever get anything bad or permanent because he'll make your life hell for 'taking the piss' out of him.

@babylovexo

"because I love him I carry on and forgive him."

Sweetie, can you get some counselling, I mean that most sincerely.

He doesn't look after you when you are ill, but you do everything al he rest of the time, or at least he expect you to! Did you say the dog means more to him? Can you really get over a 6-hour a day porn addiction easily, how did he do it? Fetishes pregnant women! Lovely, that will be fun if you get pregnant, he'll be with you at every appointment. Or rather you won't get pregnant or married because he may well string you along for years.

Do you really love this life he has made with you?

Stay put if you wish to, but don't get pregnant with this joker. Please. As soon as you can an amicable split, sell property or buy him out or let him buy you out. Dont look back.

@43percentburnt "He is showing you exactly who he is, a bad catch - chuck him back in the pond." So true. You can do a lot better, honestly. I feel sure you can. XX

Cough on everything he eats...

Tell him to piss off and find someone who will actually help when your ill not make you worse

@italiangreyhound

I know I've been completely placed under the thumb with him and been expected to be just his woman or slave for so long. Getting so unwell like this to the point I just don't have the energy to move has made me realise exactly what a pig he is! Honestly don't worry I will do the right thing which will be to leave him I know he doesn't love me and just sees me as a figure which is sad because I've just had blinkers on for so long and just always think of that first year and a half where everything was rosy! But it's really not that at all! 😔

@temptressofwaikiki haha!! Brilliant idea!!

Can we hold you to that?

He will do the ‘puppy eyes’ and the ‘but I love you’ bollocks...be prepared.

Honestly, no, not all men are like that, at all. He’s shown you what a selfish, immature, creepy, twat he is. IF you choose to stay with him, remember this night and remember you made the choice to stay with him knowing exactly what he was like.

Plus, you’re much younger than you think! 😊. I split up with my long term partner at roughly your age and I felt ‘so old’ to be starting over. I laugh now, but I really felt like that. So, remember, you’re younger than you think x. Live your life, have some fun & one day meet a man worthy of you. This prick isn’t.