Cometh the Hour Cometh the Lollipop!

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Oh my word......
Thread number three.

It is a ludicrous but somehow apt title.

Once again Thank You for keeping the faith. You won’t ever know how much you’ve all come to mean to me. If I write a book it will be dedicated to
My lollipop babies
My mum
You lot ❤️

Not much to report tonight but as “Battling On” hit 980 I have created thread three to chart the highs and many many lows so far.

Monday could bring good or very bad news. I’m fortifying myself with a rhubarb & ginger gin with clementine tonic.

So onwards I go. As I must.

Wishing you all the luck in the world for tomorrow Lollipop

The social worker should be professional. It’s not her place to like or dislike you. If you feel that she does you can ask for a second opinion. What does your solicitor say? She’s supposed to be womens’ aid recommended and experienced at making a court aware of the implications in abuse cases, let her take the stress here. Huge hugs xx

Sorry hearing is tomorrow
I meant that I will need sedating to sleep as it eludes me right now!

In other news I have it in writing that around the time he was refusing court adjournments and I was in hospital he told several people we were still together and were actually relocating to another part of the country after the baby was born. They are willing to provide a statement to that effect. Shoring up that Paternity Leave claim I suspect. Still at least he didn’t need to take Leave to be interviewed by the Police.

Sorry but this is bonkers stuff. How can anyone think this man is mentally stable?

Just read your most recent updates. So sorry to hear what you are having to deal with. You constantly amaze me as you seem to find the strength from somewhere to deal with it all. I am sure you will get that lucky break soon.

It is bonkers stuff. Completely unbelievable the lengths that he will go to.

Wishing you all the strength in the world to get through tomorrow and for a positive outcome

Police won’t submit any new evidence
Apparently the fact I once slapped his face is too damaging as are the covert videos filmed after he’d spent hours wearing me down or doing something to make me lose my temper. They had those before they sent the files so I don’t understand why they sent them in the first place.

It’s seems that setting someone up and then not only filming them but editing them then storing them over a period of three years across two pregnancies is not abuse
That I’m now receiving therapy for PTSD isn’t relevant.

The message is loud and clear

Unbelievable

Stay strong though, you are amazing and you will get through this

Does your little boy ever mention his fears about Daddy to the nursery staff Lollipop?

Huge hugs Lollipop

I cannot understand how the system can fail you so very, very much. its utter shite.

I have PTSD, it's horrible, Im getting help now, are you having CBT or EMDR? If not, ask for it.

Yes Ellie he does and it was in a report.

But as the social worker told the court she thinks I’m coaching him it doesn’t matter

I have such an awful feeling I will lose everything I hold dear.

I am flabbergasted and outraged for you and your poor little boy. I think I would be tempted to go into hiding somewhere far far away.

Where does the social worker get this idea from? Can you complain about her to a senior officer and say what she is doing is potentially compromising your son's safety and mental health?

What do Women's Aid and your solicitor say?

So sorry you are going through this.

Thinking of you today Lollipop xx

Thinking of you today lollipop, don’t forget you’ve got your mumsnet army at your back as well as your RL support. Xx

Thinking about you today lollipop xx

Thinking of you today Lollipop, big hugs xx

Thinking of you today, Lollipop, and hoping it all goes your way. Sending strength.

Thinking of you too

Good luck Lolli. You can do it!

Hugs lollipop, thinking of you today

Sending positive thoughts for today. Hope it goes well

Thinking about you 💐

I’m thinking of you too. Fingers crossed for a good outcome 🤞

Thanks everyone
I decided it was a good idea to agree to supervised contact with the s worker.
He is going to see them sometime. TheY have to do a report.
They’re with him now. My son seems fine. That means I’m a liar in their eyes I guess.

Feel sick and flat

Now the finding of fact to deal with and the awful illicit videos. My behaviour on them has been described as horrible. Well it wouldn’t be little house on the prairie would it. I was being prodded and poked and bullied until I blew my top. And I was pregnant for a lot of them. Four years of my life I was being recorded.

This is all so unfair. I should have just stayed and took it until they were older.

I honestly feel like I’m going to lose my children because of these recording and because nobody will see what he is like before he pressed record. What I endured and cried over asking him to stop being that way.

Right now it all feels like it’s been for nothing. If I don’t have my children my life is over

Nothing constructive to say but his facade will crack.

You have done nothing working here - he is a first class dick

Oh dearest Lollipop!
What does your solicitor say? I feel like all I can say is that we believe you. As Not says, he won’t be able to keep it up forever.