Cometh the Hour Cometh the Lollipop!

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Oh my word......
Thread number three.

It is a ludicrous but somehow apt title.

Once again Thank You for keeping the faith. You won’t ever know how much you’ve all come to mean to me. If I write a book it will be dedicated to
My lollipop babies
My mum
You lot ❤️

Not much to report tonight but as “Battling On” hit 980 I have created thread three to chart the highs and many many lows so far.

Monday could bring good or very bad news. I’m fortifying myself with a rhubarb & ginger gin with clementine tonic.

So onwards I go. As I must.

But but but! Those emails! Oh sweetheart that’s awful!

((((Hug)))

No charges? Who made that crap decision?

you can Appeal the CPS decision not to pursue Charges..

Checking in. Sorry about the job but great that they do want you.

Bugger regarding no charges x

I'm so sorry lolli, I feel so sad for you. I really hope you get him for something soon.

That's shit, did they give a reason why not ?

Good on the job though 😀

That's great news about the potential job, but awful about the lack of charges.

How much abuse does someone need to suffer before the police can do something?

@Gemini69 I’m working on my appeal.

God I just feel like I am being punished

unbelievable.
hes told not to contact you, he does
he's told not to sell your things, he does
Makes my blood boil that the people "in charge" just ignore their own orders, & say OK, let it go.
What does your solicitor say?

Oh god, that's unbelievable. You must feel so angry and let down, I can't even begin to imagine. He's teflon coated, isn't he?

Absolutely unbelievable. How low does he have to stoop before anything is done?

This is all so very very wrong.

This is dreadful. What more does he have to do?

Oh lolli it is never easy for you. I tried to go back to work too early with my first and it resulted in me still not working now with two. So yeah maybe for the best just gives you more time to focus on your wee ones.

He’s now sent the social worker a usb stick full of dozens of recordings half of them with my back to him.
I can’t believe he’s allowed to just send a third party this sort of thing without court or judge approval to admit.
I saw them yesterday and they’re of tourer totally edited and out of context.

I really am in his crosshair 😓

[This post has been edited by MNHQ at the OP's request]

He’s an arse lollipop
Surely it will be obvious that they’re edited and out of context. Have you spoken to your solicitor?

Keep strong

Oh Lollipop😢
I thought it was illegal to record someone without their permission. Can you give the social worker the same evidence the CPS didn’t want to use?

Under data protection if he did not tell you he was recording you, and you didn't give permission these cant be used.Get your solicitor on the case

I have no idea about whether it's admissible as evidence but data protection law is not a factor - he recorded on a domestic basis, DPA not applicable here.

God that’s really frightening hic. I was on massive doses of co-codamol post CS and really painful SPD (couldn’t stand without it). Luckily DS is all grown up and fine now.

Sorry - no idea how I was reading one thread and replied to a totally different one

On the whole, judges are pretty unimpressed by recordings. Both in terms of what it says about the person doing the recording, and because esp wirh digital stuff, the scope for selection, editing and manipulation is huge.

My heart sinks when my client brandishes the USB of doom (Although I do remember a particularly hilarious episode when we brought a whole answer phone into court to play answer phone messages, back in caveman times before digital was a thing.)

This is likely to do him more harm than it does you.

@MrsBertBibby I’m hoping that’s how the court sees it.
The social worker sadly doesn’t. She can’t see how edited they are. She didn’t want to look at the text messages to a friend an hour before one of them was filmed writing that my daughter was beside herself teething in the hot weather and wouldn’t stop crying, she thinks I had made her cry.

He is in the background on some of them talking really calmly with all these staged platitudes and behaving in a way he never does. It’s actually incredibly sinister and so obviously staged. The editing is shocking. There were also loads I had no knowledge of and so many where I am clearly unaware he’s filming and I’m putting washing in the machine.

The worst thing is i am pregnant in most of them. And I look so unhappy. My body language is so defeated.

I tried to show her that there were lots of texts and messages or emails describing his behaviour to a third party at the time: such as the night before he’d got drunk, shoved me and CS,led me a fast bitch whilst I was pregnant / I’d been bedridden with PGD whilst pregnant and he’d come home to help me upstairs then told me he was going straight back out drinking leaving me with a toddler to care for / that he had told me he’d got someone else pregnant five minutes earlier etc.
That he has holes in his short pockets to allow his phone camera to record me covertly.

It’s as though I murdered fifty people in a former life and this is karma.