Anyone divorced/separated and regretted it?

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The thing that’s keeping me from ending my marraiage is the thought I’d regret it.

A long long time ago I ended a LTR with a man I loved, because my mum said she didn’t think he was demonstrative enough, and that I was too young and I ended it. I regretted it and fell into a couple of abusive relationships which I tried to make work because I felt like I’d failed somehow.

I met my husband, we married 14 years ago and have children but he is disrespectful, manipulative and rude. There is no joy or partnership there and he doesn’t listen to a word I say. On the flip side he isn’t physically abusive, he just isn’t present somehow, and is out doing his hobby 4 nights a week leaving me with the kids.

I don’t think it can get better but I don’t know if it’s so awful that I can disrupt the kids.

WWYD?

Springy I’ve done the freedom program on line and I’ve also read that book and it didn’t strike a chord for me, I just can’t see his behaviour in the way Lundy Bancroft describes. Cognitive dissonance maybe? Or maybe he just doesn’t mean to be a twat but ends up being one because that’s how he’s wired. I guess the outcome is the same though.

Thanks Tracey. I need to find resolve from somewhere.

I posted up thread that imo you need to attend the group. The online course is FYI and imo doesn't necessarily pack the same punch.

I've linked you to finding a course near you. Do please go along.

Oh gosh, unfortunate choice of words there! So sorry