Dilemma on this weird Tinder situation

[Tyrianstoe]

Had to nickname change as I'm a regular and to be fair I'm embarrassed. Split up with my ex 2 weeks ago (his fault, broke my trust) and in a fit of anger and suspicion set up a Tinder account on Thursday night to see if he's on there as that's where we met. Anyway, was swiping through and I saw this lovely looking guy who had a very funny profile that mentioned a very obscure band that I love so swiped guiltily right. Don't know why I feel bad because my ex is a lying arsehole, but I'm aware it's too soon. This guy messaged me! So I said 'I like that band loads, nobody has heard of them' and we swapped messages. Then I thought I'm being a bit of a dick here so I deleted my Tinder but said if he wanted to message me off there he could and gave him my number. Thinking he wouldn't.

He found me on WhatsApp. He was telling me about his little boy who is going for an assessment for a disability, I write the assessments as a job so he was asking me what to expect. Then, this is where it gets weird...he asks me where I come from. Told him. He's from the same town. Not too weird. So asks where I live now, I live in another town not far away. He moved to my town 5 days ago. This morning he mentioned he lived opposite an emergency services station. So do I. He told me the name of his street. My house looks onto that street! I can see his house from mine.

So I do t know whether this is just too bizarre and I stop messaging him but...I don't want to! He seems sound. He doesn't use any words on my banned list, is retraining to do a job I'd love to do, likes the same music, doesn't put xxx on anything, doesn't use lol and doesn't call me Hun/babe I'm mad aren't I? This has got big fat rebound all over it. But my interest is piqued. Slap me with a wet fish!

@luckiestgirl that made me shudder.

Hun is too cringey; also babes is a bit of a put off for me 😂

Good luck Tuesday night! Look forward to the update.

Very spooky - he's not a relative is he?

He didn't move to be near me he didn't know of my existence until Thursday. He moved on Monday.

gingerbread I didn't know a list of banned words was a locality thing? I'm in Yorkshire!

Haha I'm North Yorkshire / Teesside. Something else gave it away and I can't remember what it was now haha.

I'm North Yorks / Teesside too

This is the sweetest, loveliest thread I've seen in a while - the cockles of my heart have been well and truly warmed.
Hope Tuesday goes well - and it sounds like whatever happens, you have a nice new friend, which is always a good thing.

Ooh must be close by just

I'm North Yorkshire too but down the bottom west

Ah probably not as close as I suspected then.

Post Christmas Brie arse ... 😂😂
Like your style OP.

Forget him, can you cryogenically freeze yourself for a few years till my sons come of age? You sound fun!
I promise to house-train them and make sure they able to use apostrophes correctly 😁

Does sound a bit weird to me? Too many similarities and he happens to live across the road. I would be careful but the only way you are really going to find out is by meeting him.

Aww. Lovely story OP. Looking forward to your next update.

Following cause this made me smile ☺️ excited for you OP!

Ooh following for the update.

For me there's a few red flags.

Do you share information with him first and he says "me too!"? Or are you both equally sharing information which is hugely coincidental?

Yes ginger we could be neighbours

Equally. He said the names of the towns we grew up in, the name of the town we live in now and that he lived opposite the emergency service place before me.

I said about my course and he said he's doing something related to that. Then he said does your job involve working with XXXX because my little boy has XXXX.

The ginger thing was from profile pictures. And he came out of the house where he said he was.

I dunno. I don't get any weird vibes at all from him. And as my job is in a particular field I'm okay at picking up on different attributes BUT it was a 10 minute encounter so not much to go on. On Tuesday I'll get a better measure of him.

My gut on this is, these are a series of weird coincidences. Neither of us are in the best place for a relationship at the moment - he's on a very intense course with placements and I'm rebounding I think we will just end up as friendly neighbours imustnotshaghim

Def just happy coincidences...and yes could be a lovely new friend with benefits or could be the start of something wonderful

It all sounds positive, and fun.

My only counsel would be to cool it on the messages - make a firm plan for Tuesday and resist messaging in the meantime. You've met him in RL, and I know from mortified experience that messaging sometimes can create a something that isn't there in real life, and you can skip that.

Sounds like the pina colada song.

So many coincidences!

My gut on this is, these are a series of weird coincidences. Neither of us are in the best place for a relationship at the moment - he's on a very intense course with placements and I'm rebounding grin I think we will just end up as friendly neighbours imustnotshaghim

Hah! You are totally going to post on Wed morning that you got the ride and it was lovely

I met DP when neither of us were ready for a relationship. Both of us were not long out of bruising relationships. Both of us were happy to be single after so much fuckwittery. We flirted a bit over text, and shagged on the first date. I blame the texts, I got some amazing fannygallops from them! We are 14 years together this year, planning our wedding and have our DS. I've never been happier.