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Dilemma on this weird Tinder situation

482 replies

Tyrianstoe · 13/01/2018 17:34

Had to nickname change as I'm a regular and to be fair I'm embarrassed. Split up with my ex 2 weeks ago (his fault, broke my trust) and in a fit of anger and suspicion set up a Tinder account on Thursday night to see if he's on there as that's where we met. Anyway, was swiping through and I saw this lovely looking guy who had a very funny profile that mentioned a very obscure band that I love so swiped guiltily right. Don't know why I feel bad because my ex is a lying arsehole, but I'm aware it's too soon. This guy messaged me! So I said 'I like that band loads, nobody has heard of them' and we swapped messages. Then I thought I'm being a bit of a dick here so I deleted my Tinder but said if he wanted to message me off there he could and gave him my number. Thinking he wouldn't.

He found me on WhatsApp. He was telling me about his little boy who is going for an assessment for a disability, I write the assessments as a job so he was asking me what to expect. Then, this is where it gets weird...he asks me where I come from. Told him. He's from the same town. Not too weird. So asks where I live now, I live in another town not far away. He moved to my town 5 days ago. This morning he mentioned he lived opposite an emergency services station. So do I. He told me the name of his street. My house looks onto that street! I can see his house from mine.

So I do t know whether this is just too bizarre and I stop messaging him but...I don't want to! He seems sound. He doesn't use any words on my banned list, is retraining to do a job I'd love to do, likes the same music, doesn't put xxx on anything, doesn't use lol and doesn't call me Hun/babe Grin I'm mad aren't I? This has got big fat rebound all over it. But my interest is piqued. Slap me with a wet fish!

OP posts:
GottadoitGottadoit · 14/01/2018 00:01

Don’t worry about calling it a date. Of course it’s a bloody date! It’s a date unless you feel no spark in RL, at which point it becomes ‘friends’ or ‘not friends’.

anxiousnow · 14/01/2018 00:03

I love this story for some reason. Hope date goes well op

butterfly56 · 14/01/2018 00:18

I'm loving this too...hope it all goes well on tuesday Flowers

Tyrianstoe · 14/01/2018 01:04

We just shared a doorstep roll up and a glass of wine (I am drunk and have not smoked for ages) and he's so lovely! I am post flu and have the end of a cold sore so felt a mess! He's really really really nice!

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ThisLittleKitty · 14/01/2018 01:08

How did that come about?? Details? lol

Tyrianstoe · 14/01/2018 01:09

There was a spark from my end. Let's see if he felt the same!

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Tyrianstoe · 14/01/2018 01:12

He got home and messaged me saying that he had not smoked for 7 months but he really wanted one and I said me too, so he said I'll swap you a roll up for a glass of wine and I said meet me on my doorstep (reference to the obscure band lyric) so we did. He just messaged me saying 'You look lovely somif that's your worst I'm lucky' Smile

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confusedhelpme · 14/01/2018 01:17

OMG! Best thread ever .....

Keep us updated

ThisLittleKitty · 14/01/2018 01:20

This sounds so exciting!

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 14/01/2018 01:26

Lovely thread.

Except now I want a fag and I quit 4 months ago....

halfwitpicker · 14/01/2018 01:33

This is awesome.

You had me at ginger.

Tyrianstoe · 14/01/2018 08:45

I woke up slightly hungover but feeling quite Smile

He said last night he still wants to do Tuesday. Hope he hasn't hanged his mind.

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JustAnIdiot · 14/01/2018 09:10

He won't change his mind - he likes you, cold sores warts & all Smile

Truthstar · 14/01/2018 09:13

Love it!
Hes saw you at your worst so it can only go from strenght to strength from here. Romance or a very good friendship may be on the cards
You both sound lovely x

TheSassyAssassin · 14/01/2018 09:14

Midnight Smoke & Wine

CheeseToastie123 · 14/01/2018 09:24

Squeeeeeee!

Tyrianstoe · 14/01/2018 09:39

Even if it turns out we are not attracted to each other I think we could be friends. I don’t have many lone parent friends, in fact I have one, so it would be nice to have that at least. And we have so much in common, it’s really easy to keep messaging him. I need to simmer stuff down in my mind a bit. I’m more —naive— romantic than I thought my cynicism allowed!

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dumbolickous · 14/01/2018 09:57

Mortal and rumpled all over again !! So nice to get happy stories on the relationships board!

LittleLights · 14/01/2018 10:09

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userxx · 14/01/2018 10:49

This is brilliant !! I love these kind of stories, completely random and gives you the warm fuzzies.

Sugarplumvillage · 14/01/2018 10:54

Just popping a 'following' here OP because I love your story so far! I'm soo rooting for you hun!

#seewhatididthere

MollyHopps · 14/01/2018 11:20

Oh my god i'm excited for you OP

Go with it. See what happens. Just be honest with him about everything. What have you got to lose (except glasses if wine Wink )

I met my BF on POF. I'd only gone on there through boredom, to see what it was like, chat to people. Then he messaged me and it just kind of happened. Grin

SmashyCup · 14/01/2018 11:28

Ahhhh OP this is adorable! Really hope Tuesday goes well for you. Smile

mamahanji · 14/01/2018 11:31

I want a doorstep roll up 😕

Oh wait, I don't smoke anymore and I have a partner!

This thread has got me a bid giddy 😂