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Dilemma on this weird Tinder situation

482 replies

Tyrianstoe · 13/01/2018 17:34

Had to nickname change as I'm a regular and to be fair I'm embarrassed. Split up with my ex 2 weeks ago (his fault, broke my trust) and in a fit of anger and suspicion set up a Tinder account on Thursday night to see if he's on there as that's where we met. Anyway, was swiping through and I saw this lovely looking guy who had a very funny profile that mentioned a very obscure band that I love so swiped guiltily right. Don't know why I feel bad because my ex is a lying arsehole, but I'm aware it's too soon. This guy messaged me! So I said 'I like that band loads, nobody has heard of them' and we swapped messages. Then I thought I'm being a bit of a dick here so I deleted my Tinder but said if he wanted to message me off there he could and gave him my number. Thinking he wouldn't.

He found me on WhatsApp. He was telling me about his little boy who is going for an assessment for a disability, I write the assessments as a job so he was asking me what to expect. Then, this is where it gets weird...he asks me where I come from. Told him. He's from the same town. Not too weird. So asks where I live now, I live in another town not far away. He moved to my town 5 days ago. This morning he mentioned he lived opposite an emergency services station. So do I. He told me the name of his street. My house looks onto that street! I can see his house from mine.

So I do t know whether this is just too bizarre and I stop messaging him but...I don't want to! He seems sound. He doesn't use any words on my banned list, is retraining to do a job I'd love to do, likes the same music, doesn't put xxx on anything, doesn't use lol and doesn't call me Hun/babe Grin I'm mad aren't I? This has got big fat rebound all over it. But my interest is piqued. Slap me with a wet fish!

OP posts:
ferriswheel · 17/01/2018 21:44

Mumma

Thank you! Im just off to read it now.

Getting divorced and three small children, i need some light at the end of the tunnel!

Beek84 · 17/01/2018 21:46

Just read this whole thread and now thinking about who would play you in the movie.

Emma Stone maybe? And I'm feeling James Norton for your ginger lover

Truthstar · 17/01/2018 21:49

Know what the best thing about this thread is? The feel good factor and nobody being debbie downers or judge judy!

OP you've done the impossible! You've united MN and created a thread with no sniping or off track debating!

MN HQ ...... please give the OP an award 😊

Mummalovex · 17/01/2018 22:14

@ferriswheel I'm in the same situation with you, spectating from my fiancé and have 2 children! Hope everything goes smoothly for you!Thanks

undertheradarplease · 17/01/2018 22:22

@Beek84 I was going to say Rupert Grint for the male lead but James Norton is fiiiiiiit.

I’ve gone all fan girl over this thread - how bloody embarrassing.

MrsTerryPratchett · 17/01/2018 22:32

Who's that bloke from Homeland? Fit and ginger!

sausagerollsrock · 17/01/2018 22:39

I’m invested now!!

raisinsarenottheonlyfruit · 17/01/2018 23:09

Ah, forget James Norton.

I reckon Sam Heughan - Jamie from Outlander Grin

pieceofpurplesky · 17/01/2018 23:14

Daniel Lewis Mrs P

StrangeAndUnusual · 17/01/2018 23:14

Following this!

Sosog00d · 17/01/2018 23:27

Lovely thread. Delighted for you OP.

Same boat as ferris and others....gives me hope to read this!!

Khaleesi0 · 17/01/2018 23:30

Love this thread! ❤️❤️❤️

Tyrianstoe · 18/01/2018 08:11

Ha! I love that you are all guessing what he looks like! He's very close to this, just a tiny bit blonder and not with a wanky side parting Grin

Dilemma on this weird Tinder situation
OP posts:
Tyrianstoe · 18/01/2018 08:12

mrsterrypatchett think you were the closest.

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TheSassyAssassin · 18/01/2018 08:20

Oooh luvverly ...lucky girl Wink

DavidBowiesNumber1 · 18/01/2018 08:22

Tyrianstoe

he just said I'll see you in 10 mins

Did he come round yesterday morning after this? Wink

Tyrianstoe · 18/01/2018 08:23

Umm....Blush

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DrRanjsRightEyebrow · 18/01/2018 08:25

Loving this thread! So exciting...

TheSassyAssassin · 18/01/2018 08:27

Er....if you have new beans Mrs, you need to spill 'em!

WalkingEverywhere · 18/01/2018 08:30

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Tyrianstoe · 18/01/2018 08:32

Please note I was caught up in the spirit of 'seize the day' and trying to break some shit patterns in relationships!

I have only ever really slept with someone for the first time when I was drunk and in complete darkness.

So...we were sober and it was daytime. And it was extremely lovely Blush (bit quick though, which he apologised for afterwards, but I took it as a compliment Grin)

OP posts:
Tyrianstoe · 18/01/2018 08:33

(We were both snowed in so this will not be a regular occurrence).

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DavidBowiesNumber1 · 18/01/2018 08:47

GrinGrinGrinGrinGrinGrin

I KNEW IT!!

GET IN THERE GIRL! WinkGrin

Glitterandunicorns · 18/01/2018 08:53

OP, this is a brilliant thread! It's lovely to read something nice happening to someone and I'm excited for you! Thanks

ClareB83 · 18/01/2018 09:06

Woo hoo!