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Dilemma on this weird Tinder situation

482 replies

Tyrianstoe · 13/01/2018 17:34

Had to nickname change as I'm a regular and to be fair I'm embarrassed. Split up with my ex 2 weeks ago (his fault, broke my trust) and in a fit of anger and suspicion set up a Tinder account on Thursday night to see if he's on there as that's where we met. Anyway, was swiping through and I saw this lovely looking guy who had a very funny profile that mentioned a very obscure band that I love so swiped guiltily right. Don't know why I feel bad because my ex is a lying arsehole, but I'm aware it's too soon. This guy messaged me! So I said 'I like that band loads, nobody has heard of them' and we swapped messages. Then I thought I'm being a bit of a dick here so I deleted my Tinder but said if he wanted to message me off there he could and gave him my number. Thinking he wouldn't.

He found me on WhatsApp. He was telling me about his little boy who is going for an assessment for a disability, I write the assessments as a job so he was asking me what to expect. Then, this is where it gets weird...he asks me where I come from. Told him. He's from the same town. Not too weird. So asks where I live now, I live in another town not far away. He moved to my town 5 days ago. This morning he mentioned he lived opposite an emergency services station. So do I. He told me the name of his street. My house looks onto that street! I can see his house from mine.

So I do t know whether this is just too bizarre and I stop messaging him but...I don't want to! He seems sound. He doesn't use any words on my banned list, is retraining to do a job I'd love to do, likes the same music, doesn't put xxx on anything, doesn't use lol and doesn't call me Hun/babe Grin I'm mad aren't I? This has got big fat rebound all over it. But my interest is piqued. Slap me with a wet fish!

OP posts:
Sugarpiehoneyeye · 17/01/2018 09:39

Me too ! 😄

anxiousnow · 17/01/2018 09:47

This is so lovely!

Mummalovex · 17/01/2018 09:50

Woo! Seems as if he's really into you! So happy for you!! 💃

MoNigheanDonn · 17/01/2018 10:44

Ooooh

GrabbyMcGrabby · 17/01/2018 12:01

Lovely update. Hope things keep going well. Flowers

LittleLights · 17/01/2018 12:16

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Starlight2345 · 17/01/2018 12:35

Lovely update . Less wine or something else next time .

Also I think you are over analysing for now just enjoy what it is

CatsCatsCats11 · 17/01/2018 12:59

How lovely is this!

I'm also about to marry my rebound guy!

gingerbreadmam · 17/01/2018 14:36

Love the update. Great news op.

Did you see him in 10mins haha?

Positivelypeachy · 17/01/2018 14:46

I love this Grin

WellThisIsShit · 17/01/2018 15:29

Yay! Did you tell him any explanation about the drunken ‘go shag other people for 3mths’ defence system?

Definitely avoid too much drunkenness next time. Once is human, in fact one could say normal Wink, but if you really like him then you don’t want to throw up too many barriers in the first few dates.

Such a nice thread though, I’m rooting for you!

luckiestgirl · 17/01/2018 16:15

What’s the plan on Friday?

Tyrianstoe · 17/01/2018 16:41

We are going to the cinema I think.

Yeah, regarding the 'go off and shag other people' thing. I just said I put my defences up when I like someone and red wine sends me a bit strange. He has been very nice about it. Doesn't seem to have out him off. In fact he seems to think it's funny Hmm

OP posts:
fabulousfrumpyfeet · 17/01/2018 17:18

Oh this is so lovely 😀

SmashyCup · 17/01/2018 18:11

Yaaaaay this is lovely OP! So pleased it went well, despite the red wine. Grin

hellsbellsmelons · 17/01/2018 18:54

Loving this thread.
Enjoy it all!!!

MargotMoon · 17/01/2018 18:58

This thread is making me really happy! Sounds like he is just as keen as you, I really hope it goes well on Friday. Oh, and who is the band??

JeezeLouise · 17/01/2018 19:03

Ooooh OP, loving this :) Red wine = truth serum Grin

orangetriangle · 17/01/2018 19:10

following this with a smile:)

stardust18 · 17/01/2018 19:25

Meet him!! Sounds like your meant to be together.

YearOfYouRemember · 17/01/2018 20:02

I married my boyfriend after the two years spent with a prick too... 💕

JustAnIdiot · 17/01/2018 20:09

He sounds lovely Smile

So do you! Smile

ferriswheel · 17/01/2018 20:20

I havent got time to read this whole thread but please let it be positive. I love real life romantic stories.

Doublevodka · 17/01/2018 20:41

Absolutely loving this thread.

Your list of banned words........ I couldn't agree more.

Mummalovex · 17/01/2018 20:47

@ferriswheel this whole thread is extremely positive! Literally like a romantic film!