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Dilemma on this weird Tinder situation

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Tyrianstoe · 13/01/2018 17:34

Had to nickname change as I'm a regular and to be fair I'm embarrassed. Split up with my ex 2 weeks ago (his fault, broke my trust) and in a fit of anger and suspicion set up a Tinder account on Thursday night to see if he's on there as that's where we met. Anyway, was swiping through and I saw this lovely looking guy who had a very funny profile that mentioned a very obscure band that I love so swiped guiltily right. Don't know why I feel bad because my ex is a lying arsehole, but I'm aware it's too soon. This guy messaged me! So I said 'I like that band loads, nobody has heard of them' and we swapped messages. Then I thought I'm being a bit of a dick here so I deleted my Tinder but said if he wanted to message me off there he could and gave him my number. Thinking he wouldn't.

He found me on WhatsApp. He was telling me about his little boy who is going for an assessment for a disability, I write the assessments as a job so he was asking me what to expect. Then, this is where it gets weird...he asks me where I come from. Told him. He's from the same town. Not too weird. So asks where I live now, I live in another town not far away. He moved to my town 5 days ago. This morning he mentioned he lived opposite an emergency services station. So do I. He told me the name of his street. My house looks onto that street! I can see his house from mine.

So I do t know whether this is just too bizarre and I stop messaging him but...I don't want to! He seems sound. He doesn't use any words on my banned list, is retraining to do a job I'd love to do, likes the same music, doesn't put xxx on anything, doesn't use lol and doesn't call me Hun/babe Grin I'm mad aren't I? This has got big fat rebound all over it. But my interest is piqued. Slap me with a wet fish!

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LittleLights · 16/01/2018 21:16

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alltalknobaby · 16/01/2018 21:23

Placemarking. Good luck!

raisinsarenottheonlyfruit · 16/01/2018 21:57

Have a lovely evening, enjoy yourself :)

DontDIY · 16/01/2018 22:54

Come on, OP! You must surely have needed a wee in all this time Grin

TheSassyAssassin · 17/01/2018 00:06

Maybe they got snowed in and even now are huddling together for warmth...or something...Grin

raisinsarenottheonlyfruit · 17/01/2018 01:53

I imagine Tyrianstoe's resolve to have an early night vanished as the night progressed, and the booze flowed!

Tyrianstoe happy hangover - hope you had a great night Grin

Mummalovex · 17/01/2018 03:22

Come onnnnnnn, so intrigued to know how it went!

happymumof4crazykids · 17/01/2018 04:02

How did your date go op? Hope you had a fab time it sounds like you have loads to talk about!

MoNigheanDonn · 17/01/2018 05:40

OP! How did it go, you're killing me here Grin

MrsTerryPratchett · 17/01/2018 05:52

Big glass of water and some painkillers and an update.

Psychobabble123 · 17/01/2018 06:56

The suspense is AWFUL! I'm about to go into work and no phone for 9 hours so I'll never know!😱 Not that I'm being dramatic at all...m😂

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dontticklethetoad · 17/01/2018 06:59

Either sagged him or she's locked up in his basement Shock

dontticklethetoad · 17/01/2018 07:00

Oh for goodness sake *shagged!

Hellothereitsme · 17/01/2018 07:09

Marking place

Tyrianstoe · 17/01/2018 07:18

Sorry everyone! No shags BUT I got really really drunk (damn you red wine).

He came bag to mine and I remember we were kissing on my sofa...

Then I must have fallen asleep Shock

I have a message from him at 1.35am saying 'I had an amazing evening' with a 'X' Blush

I really really really really liked him.

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Tyrianstoe · 17/01/2018 07:18

*back

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Tyrianstoe · 17/01/2018 07:20

So now I need to work out how the fuck we left it? Grin

But oh shit...I really liked him!

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TheSassyAssassin · 17/01/2018 07:21

Whoop whoop whoop! Oh that's fab! So am assuming he was perfect gent and let himself out? Hope your headache isn't too bad this morning and so pleased you had fun and that you like him. Go you Smile

Tyrianstoe · 17/01/2018 07:24

He must have let himself out?

He is so nice! We laughed all evening and we were walking home, it was snowing and got to outside my house and I said 'okay, it has been really lovely...' and he kissed me! It was like being in a film.

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TheSassyAssassin · 17/01/2018 07:27

You need to reply saying you had a great eve too! Say you are sorry for falling asleep but red wine / getting over being ill / tiredness combo a bit much for you. Hope he doesn't have a hangover and has a good day etc and then am sure follow up texts will confirm how you left things Smile

QuitMoaning · 17/01/2018 07:31

Oh my, just found this.

My OH and I have lots of coincidences and he is a rebound but he is awesome, been 8 years and very happy.

Met via mutual friend that I work with in London but we grew up in same town (he was in adjoined village). He went to the school I should have gone to if I didn’t go private. He knows my cousin very well and dated another cousin. His father worked closely with my grandmother, so they knew each other well, she trained him.
He does say LOL and calls me babe sometimes though.
I forgive him as he is so amazing in everything else.

This is so exciting for you!

TheSassyAssassin · 17/01/2018 07:32

Which is a good thing. And sensible don't-want-you-chopped-up-in-bits me (!) says obvs it's good he was a nice and normal guy and didn't take advantage of you being in a vulnerable position. Lecture over - but stay safe won't you? Remember my finding out guy I was chatting to had assault convictions! Anyway. It's fine and you have nothing more than a headache and a smile.

FluffyWhiteTowels · 17/01/2018 07:36

Awwww this is lovely

yulefool · 17/01/2018 07:39

Sounds like an auspicious start!

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