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Dilemma on this weird Tinder situation

482 replies

Tyrianstoe · 13/01/2018 17:34

Had to nickname change as I'm a regular and to be fair I'm embarrassed. Split up with my ex 2 weeks ago (his fault, broke my trust) and in a fit of anger and suspicion set up a Tinder account on Thursday night to see if he's on there as that's where we met. Anyway, was swiping through and I saw this lovely looking guy who had a very funny profile that mentioned a very obscure band that I love so swiped guiltily right. Don't know why I feel bad because my ex is a lying arsehole, but I'm aware it's too soon. This guy messaged me! So I said 'I like that band loads, nobody has heard of them' and we swapped messages. Then I thought I'm being a bit of a dick here so I deleted my Tinder but said if he wanted to message me off there he could and gave him my number. Thinking he wouldn't.

He found me on WhatsApp. He was telling me about his little boy who is going for an assessment for a disability, I write the assessments as a job so he was asking me what to expect. Then, this is where it gets weird...he asks me where I come from. Told him. He's from the same town. Not too weird. So asks where I live now, I live in another town not far away. He moved to my town 5 days ago. This morning he mentioned he lived opposite an emergency services station. So do I. He told me the name of his street. My house looks onto that street! I can see his house from mine.

So I do t know whether this is just too bizarre and I stop messaging him but...I don't want to! He seems sound. He doesn't use any words on my banned list, is retraining to do a job I'd love to do, likes the same music, doesn't put xxx on anything, doesn't use lol and doesn't call me Hun/babe Grin I'm mad aren't I? This has got big fat rebound all over it. But my interest is piqued. Slap me with a wet fish!

OP posts:
Tyrianstoe · 16/01/2018 17:31

Thanks sassy Flowers what is it about OLD? It is scary but it's also quite easy to get into the swing of things. We will help!

OP posts:
tootssweet · 16/01/2018 17:34

Just found this thread & am shamelessly placemarking as it's either a fantastic friendship or a fantastic friendship with a bit extra!

Just don't drink too much & go skidding on your backside in the snow! #lol #awbabe (like the idea of making my own list)

mittensofsteel · 16/01/2018 17:36

I’m shamelessly soppy so have read this thread with tears in my eyes Smile

Tyrianstoe · 16/01/2018 17:36

Ha Toots no hashtags!

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Shhhhhh2018 · 16/01/2018 17:37

#GingerLoveInTheSnow2018 Grin

pollythedolly · 16/01/2018 17:41

👀

passthepotatoes · 16/01/2018 17:43

Glad it's back on.

TheSassyAssassin · 16/01/2018 17:48

OLD is, IME, literally like swimming with the sharks (once caught a Great White - history of violence against women which thankfully I uncovered before any meet up! Shock) but your story is restoring my faith a bit...So maybe I might dip my toe back into the shark-infested sea at some stage! Grin

feral · 16/01/2018 17:51

OP I'm loving this.

Sounds like he's lovely.

Good luck 🙂

TheLovelyOtherDinosaur · 16/01/2018 17:59

I met my husband OLD (match) after coming out of a six year (rubbish) relationship and he’s the most wonderful man in the whole world. We’ve been together 5 years this year (married for 1.5) and are expecting our first baby this month. We couldn’t be happier!

mapmybum · 16/01/2018 18:02

I married my rebound guy too 🤷‍♀️

Firstaidnovice · 16/01/2018 18:13

Yep, I met OH six weeks after coming out of a terrible relationship. Decided to OLD just to stop me moping. Almost seven years ago to the day, and we are married with two DC.

Also, went to a Tinder wedding in the summer. The happy couple met, and realised that they had had mutual friends trying to set them up on a blind date for ages, but that had both refused.

Good luck! Although we are pretty happy seven years in, nothing quite matches first date excitement! (Or nerves). Fwiw, and at risk of outing myself, I drank five pints on our second date, and then had to wee behind a tree in a park on the way to the train station. Just set your bar a bit higher than that and you'll be fine. Grin

Turnedacorner · 16/01/2018 18:15

Met my husband on Tinder too! Married nearly 3 years now.

Ohhdear · 16/01/2018 18:15

Found you on WhatsApp?? 😂😂

Tyrianstoe · 16/01/2018 18:20

Well you know, entered my number, stalked my profile picture and messaged me Grin

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LittleMisslikestobebythesea · 16/01/2018 18:29

Ooh totally placemarking too!

I have a tinder story I will return with once I’ve sorted out tea!

Good luck for tonight Grin

SpiderWilliesOnYourFrillys · 16/01/2018 18:42

Just read TFT good luck OP Grin we will all be waiting for updates. I’m excited for you WineFlowers

Lovemusic33 · 16/01/2018 18:46

So many of us waiting for your date OP Grin

I was my exdh’s rebound, we were together for 12 years.

I hope your date goes well.

Firenight · 16/01/2018 19:07

Aw this is such a lovely thread. Cheered me right up.

Hope you have a lovely evening.

Courtneygainxx · 16/01/2018 19:26

Can't wait to hear all about it!!! Thanks

Psychobabble123 · 16/01/2018 19:26

Eeeek tonight is the night! The whole of MN is rooting for you OP Wine

Drainedandconfused · 16/01/2018 19:58

Meet him, it could be fate! I’m so stupidly and hopelessly romantic that I’d have to! So many coincidences.

Drainedandconfused · 16/01/2018 19:59

Oh gosh, sorry, didn’t read the whole thread, hope your date is totally fantastic!

MeDented · 16/01/2018 20:26

Looking forward to an update - good luck!

Namechanged36 · 16/01/2018 20:42

Have a great time. Looking forward to an update 🤞