The Brave Babes Battle Bus - New year, old battles, big resolve

[SweetLathyrus]

Hi, I'm SweetLathyrus, Sweet for short, and I've been on and off Gerald the Brave Babes Battle Bus for years, so this time it's me standing in for our wonderful Mouse to invite you on board.

The bus is a place of support, safety and occasional silliness for those of us struggling with our relationship with alcohol. Some of us are sober, some are trying to be, some are moderating and aren't ready to give up alcohol just yet.

So whatever your reason for questioning the whys and WTFs of your drinking, hop on board, make yourselves comfortable and join in.

If you want to see what it's like, here's the link to the last thread, the one that saw us through Christmas.

And if you want to know how it all started, here is the link to JWN's original, inspiring thread.

Join us on our journey, you won't regret it.

Trying I read Allan Carr's quit smoking book. It didn't really help. I've sort of done it myself now. Didn't know he'd done an alcohol one.

Stay strong Ginger You don't need the wine. Follow Ma's advice!

I'm doing ok without tonight. I've got bad cramps (time of the month has arrived early) so I'm curled up on the sofa feeling sorry for myself.

I desperately want to buy the GoT's boxset. I've seen it all once (borrowed my friends) and I NEED to own it. Unfortunately I have to wait until my finances have recovered so maybe February. I was kind of hoping I'd get it for xmas. I dropped lots of hints but it wasn't to be.

Thanks @bakingcupcakes you can watch GoT on now tv - if you have a smart tv you can download the app and watch it that way I think! Approx £6-10 a month I think

I cant believe i havent drank since last tues. Longest ive gone in 2 years. Longest before that was 6 weeks. I can do this xx

well done last name. You may wear the Smock of Smug...

I dont feel smug.....Im just so annoyed it took a yellow tinge of my eyes to do this. Having increased liver enzymes has hit home xx

Evening all. Myself and DP did the rounds of friends on the way home from work and he apologized to them for his behaviour. He's told them straight, they are not to buy him or offer him any form of drink as he's now teetotal. I'm very proud of him right now. I'm cautiously optimistic about our relationship now.
So ends Day 9 of being AF.

Excellent news mint. Night all...the end of day 4 for me.

oh lastname that wasn't meant to be an insult! it's just one of the things on the bus - like Barrie the squid - that a Babe who has been a shining example and done well gets presented with the Smock of Smug to pirouette up the bus in. it's a highly coveted reward. Sorry, if it sounded offensive.

@Trust2017 thank you and well done for gong to the gym I hope you had an enjoyable workout. I've had a couple of glasses of belvoir raspberry and lemon cordial in a wine glass with sparkling water and a slice of lemon. I'll have a hot choolate in a while and then try and get some sleep as have work tomorrow. Yay 2 days out of 3

Can I just join in with you and explain why I follow the thread another day when I'm feeling brave?

I'm on the end of day three... sipping bitter lemon and chamomile tea and tidying like crazy.

Haha oh gosh i wasnt offended! Dont worry! Xx

Hello bus. I'm back.
Bad bad times. My dad died out of the blue in a horrific way and I've hit it hard since.
I can't continue and I'm really worried I'm doing myself real damage now so here we begin again. Day one and I will not drink today. Except for nice fruity juice and water and coffee.

Razorboy so sorry to hear your awful sad news. It must be very difficult to be strong at such a time. Sending you hugs xx

razorboy I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Keep talking to us
namechanger you don't have to tell us anything at any time. Just check in so we know you are still with us.

Day 2 done. Sorry to hear your news razorboy

Ruined my relationship nye with a hideous drunken outburst that I don't remember. He hasn't spoken to me since. Not even to explain, to end things properly, nothing. Time for NO MORE.

I caved. So fucking tired of nagging three kids to pick up three shit and do their chores 5 times each for one task I bought a bottle of red.
The good news is I've had a couple of glasses and I don't really fancy any more.

Been busy with work and college assignments niwvthat youngest has gone to sleep so have drunk slower than normal which has, for today, softened the relentlessness of my life.

@Razorboy I'm so sorry. We don't know each other, but you have my sympathy.

I now intend to put the bottle away now. Tomorrow is a new day.

Thankyou all - including the original OP for giving me hope.

@appella I was in an sbusivectelationship many years ago that sounded much like that. Always fuelled by alcohol. Took me two years to get out.

Still making the same mistakes but time for a wake up call! Hope you're ok x

Excuse typos. Not drunkenness I promise! My screen is ridiculously cracked and I think unless I'm super precise my words get a bit garbled!!!

Hello all......I'm starting to think I'm either in the Twilight zone or some kind of bizarre Truman show experience as for past 3 nights I e caught up on thread and written am epic long post- only for something to happen and it disappears before I post it!

So like a gift that keeps on giving I'm spreading myself into smaller chunks so I don't keep losing messages!

Arghhhhhh...can’t keep up!

Razorboy, so sorry for your loss.

Spanna, totally forgot to reply to your post on the old thread - WTF is going on at your work? Who is this evil old witchy woman making your life a misery? How on earth could anyone complain about you? Do you want me to send the heavy mob in? I can give a very evil death stare when necessary.

Ginger, well done on limiting yourself tonight, your post about always coming last totally resonated with me, it’s how I feel right now with my ungrateful brother here, his ungrateful girlfriend as well, and my ungrateful Dad, as well as the kids and DH to deal with. I have literally felt like their skivy/slave for the last 10 days and I’m sick of it. But this too will pass.

appella, you’ve come to the right place, we’ve all been in that pit of deep dark regret before.

Welcome namechanger. Mint, good to hear you sounding so positive, that was a really brave thing your DH did. Ma, totally loved all your last few posts, well done on putting the WW back in her box tonight.

Night night every babe, sorry not to NC everyone but thinking of you all.

New ( AHEM...clean!!) Shiny bus looks great by the way girls, like what you've done to the old place...but just WHOIS Fri in by the way? We are hurtling along at a most alarming rate and the roads are blooming narrow!

I was doing so well with lots of AF days through Nov and Dec. I was feeling better.

I positively crapped myself this morning when I looked in the mirror - my god my eyes! My liver must be in a bad way.

I am determined this time, I need my strength, every ounce of it to deal with this awful situation I am in. I can't even have a funeral because they can't ID Ddad, truly awful. I have people depending on me and another close relative dying of cancer so I have to do this and I have to do it now, no more excuses. DH has expressed real concern for me and my health which also has kicked me up the arse.

Hello to new babes, let's ride this bus together and do DJ and onward one day at a time.

Hi everyone,
I was here last year for a few months under a slightly different name (but still grumpy) - hi to anyone who remembers me. I recognise quite a few names :)

I ended up having quite a stressful summer and autumn in the end, so fell off the wagon (and bus) in a big way. Spent November and December being 'high functioning' - doing really well at work, but also drinking at least a bottle a night. Put on half a stone and am now heavier than last January.

The excess sugar and the booze have to go, or at least seriously cut back. Today is day 2. The last time I had two consecutive days of not drinking was probably in about July. Thought I might come and chat here.....