situation with my colleague 2

[MortalEnemy]

Because you asked for it with such vociferousness, and the other thread, astonishingly, is nearly full...

Dear Mortal,
Please don't PM anyone details of anything unless you know them IRL, in which case don't use MN! Stay private.
Thank you for sharing your confused feelings with us so astutely and compellingly. Wishing you all the best for the future.

Another delurker, just to freak you out even more that there are so many of us! I hope it all works out the way you hope, but it sounds like you have, at the least, a good friend, and that’s worth a lot.

Good decision, Mortal. Should it get more intimate with Rumpled I'm sure you'd hate to be in the position of his privacy being invaded, even if the thread is wildly complimentary towards him.

Wishing you the very best of Christmases and that 2018 brings you happiness.

and if anything happens with Rumpled you must immediately tell us on a new thread even if it's just the one post and you don't ever share any more

I think you are doing the right thing mortal
Sincerest wishes for a great outcome, and you're right to say he's added a lot of colour to your life, regardless.
You're intellect coupled with a healthy self-deprecation are what most look for in a partner.

Time to relax a bit, nurture you and your family. It will all come good.

Best wishes

Thank you for your wit and grace - I foresee good things for you x

What newsquirrels said!!!

We will miss you, Mortal.

I hope you have a lovely time getting to know R.

Delurking to say I've read your thread from day one and wish you all the best!! Have loved reading all your updates but completely understand the need for privacy. I hope you can come back one day to say you got your man!

Good luck Mortal and good decision. Real life privacy is precious and important. I hope all goes really well for you both.

Sorry for how you were made to feel, Mortal. Entirely agree with your reasons to withdraw and I respect your wish for privacy. May Year 2018 bring you and Rumpled many a happy moment together!

If you need any encouragement or support, you know where we are 🌹

I hope it all works out !

I think you've made a good decision Mortal .
I've enjoyed reading your threads and wanted to thank you for sharing your initial problem/dilemma/whatever with us.
I hope the thread gave you some advice, ideas and laughs along the way.
Have a good Christmas and best wishes for the future, whatever it holds.

Totally understand, but I shall miss the updates, because you write so well. All the best to you both.

I absolutely think you are doing the right thing Mortal. Wishing you all the best for the happiest of endings.

I haven't posted on your threads before but just wanted to wish you all the best, both you and R sound lovely

Donr blame you mortal. It has been lovely to share your journey some of the way and I really wish you and rumpled all the best for a future relationship, in whatever form that may take. It would be lovely if one day you felt you could pop back and let us know what your wedding dress was like how things turned out but we won't hold it against you much if you don't.

You both sound great. I really wish you both all the best.

Good luck! And do pop back to tell us when it's time to go hat shopping!

I can't say I'm surprised, it was obvious you were quite private and when you had about 5 pages of well meaning place markers anticipating your Christmas party (including me!) and then speculation of your country of origin I did wonder if you felt uncomfortable at the popularity of your thread.

I hope you can believe that R does like you as more than a friend and things can progress in a way you'd like. The stuff about you being plain is just rubbish, my dh isn't conventionally attractive (he's the guy I mentioned on the other thread who took two years to woo me) but when we got together I thought he was the most good looking man in the world; his funny, clever, intelligent personality just shone through (and 20 years later it still does).

Anyway it would be lovely if you could update us in a few months with some happy news in a vague kind of way - but don't feel like you have to.

Delurking to say thanks for the thread and best of luck with everything in the future.

Another one delurking to wish you every happiness for the future, whatever if may end up bringing!

*it!

When it is all sorted and you are both shagging away like rabbits come and update us! It won't matter if you are outed then ;)

All the best Mortal, have loved your threads :) R has clearly shown that he cares for you and will be there for you, wishing you all the best for whatever the future brings.

Not saying I'm over-invested in this or anything but on Saturday night I had this bizarre/funny dream involving you and R. There was a bit of derring-do in a James Bond type way with R on the top of a very high glass ceiling yelling down at me to make sure I saved the cat (big tabby moggy strutting across the floor towards me)! Not sure what you were doing at that time Mortal, can only assume it was something more important than saving the cat in the whole scheme of things ...

I was a lurker on previous thread. Commented on this one because I wish you well and wanted to be part of the cknversation. Sorry to have scared you away - oh well!

Also - R obviously loves you :)