Fiance posting explicit photos and videos of me throughout relationship

[Mummy8912]

Good morning everyone!
I have recently found out that my finance and partner of almost 3 years had been posting explicit photos and videos of me throughout the entirety of our relationship without my knowledge or consent.

I have a beautiful daughter (not his child) and following a harrowing divorce it had taken me a lot to trust anyone and let them into our lives. I came across different email addresses, in different names and confronted him, only to be lied to. I did some more digging to find out that he had been making friends with other creeps on forums and pornographic websites, messaging them, sometimes pretending to be me, other times "pimping me out" and listening to what people said they wanted to do me. I was called a slut, whore, you name it - by the man I trusted. I have cancelled our wedding and never want to see this man again.

I have not confided in my friends because I am very embarrassed. How did I not know that this was happening to me.

He is sorry, he is changed, he is seeking therapy. I have heard it all from him. The thought of him near me or my child makes my skin crawl.

I did not get the police involved because of his family, but I just don't know how you ever trust someone after this?

Help!

you MUST report this to the police. Please.

therottweiler- They raped you and the other woman. It isn't you who should feel guilty.
You are one of their victims.

Killer Filler ypu clearly have no understanding of the law! And it makes absolutely no difference if your sex life os the tamest pf tame or the most unusual. It is illegal to share these kinds of photos and videos of someone without their consent. The police will and do take this very seriously.
OP reporting this will help protect future girlfriends of this vile man. It might also bring to light other places these images and videos are stored or shared to help protect you.

This happened to a family member of mine. Her partner put the photos online she called 101 to report they said hold on a second and LAUGHED.
She went to the police station they said we need to take a photo of your privates to see if it's the same. They took photos of her and they then did nothing !!!

She let the police take photos of her genitals to prove they matched those on a video?? A policeman actually did this? And what did your family member do after that? I just don't believe that.

therealposieparker
You do realise that once something is on the internet, it is almost impossible to remove it completely?

The internet just doesn't allow for photos to be completely removed.

killerfiller either you are lying, or your family member needs to make a formal complaint.

The law has been updated to prosecute people who commit this type of CRIME. That does not include further victimising the victim - one wonders what your motivation is to try and scare the OP out of reporting this?

OP, these men get away with this because they rely on women being too ashamed and embarrassed to report it. Don't be. You are a victim here. I am so sorry this happened to you. This is an horrific thing to experience. Hugs to you.

Killerfiller assuming your story is true then your family member needs to make a complaint to the IPCC because that is neither professional, legal nor representative of how most police would handle such a situation.

Killerfiller your post of 11.18. is utter bollocks. The UK police would never do that.

killerfisher-101 calls are recorded, tell her to make a complaint if that really happened.

Mummy the shame is his, not yours.

Women are allowed to enjoy experimental sex lives. We're allowed to take photos and allow photos to be taken. We're allowed to exchange messages with consenting partners.

There is no shame in any of it.

Ignore the idiot on here.

killer I would suggest that you don't have the full facts at your disposal or that your 'family member' should have made a complaint.

Killerfisher- It is impossible to know who answered a 101 call. Your a liar and I have never called someone that before on line but the potential damage of your lies is huge to potential victims reading this.

www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/law-and-order/11531954/What-is-the-law-on-revenge-porn.html

it is a crime and will be taken seriously. This article is from a couple of years ago.

Killer - complain to the IPCC then! Just because that 'happened' to your friend does NOT mean it is likely to happen again. (Personally I cannot believe that happened in the UK - but IF it did, then there are complaint procedures that will mean it will never happen again)

OP - it is illegal to post photos of people without their consent, end of. Doesn't matter if you were naked and swinging fro the chandeliers, or in a tweed coat out for a walk - if you don't like it, you can complain to the police.

And they WILL proceed with it.

Are you identifiable in any of the photos or videos? If so, I really think you need to report to the police, uncomfortable and difficult as that process might be.

Killerfiller the same police woman who took her call? You do know that's not how calling 101 works? You get through to a call handler who is neither a police officer or involved in the investigation of the reported crime.

'took a pic of her genitals' -

Presumably your friend has proof of this? Including the Police Officers number?

Complain. That is NOT police procedure (you can't be identified by genitals anyway) and - it did not happen. IF it did, she could claim a lot of money from it in damages.

killerfiller even if that did happen to your relative why do you seem to condone it by saying things like 'experimental sex life' as though that is a reason not to be taken seriously?
If your relative was laughed at she should make a formal complaint because that is not what should happen. This is become more of a problem in recent years which is why there were new laws made around it.
And you still need to have a word with yourself about your attitude. It is not the OPs fault her fiancee was an untrustworthy bastard.