The man who disappeared part 2

[Carrotgirl999]

Sorry, I don't know if I need a new thread, as it will probably be me just wallowing / getting angry / getting sad. But thought I'd better anyways

At least I can tell you all when his stuffs gone and the chapter is completely closed.

I am so fucking shocked by all this I truly am. And il have to sit my son down tonight and tell him.

Cowardly cowardly bastard.

You deserve so much better. In a few weeks you'll realise he's done you a massive favour

Rub chillies in all his clean pants.

Op is the other womans daughter his child? Just curious

Don't tip him off by hiding your toothbrushes, buy new ones. Hide one of his shoes. Change the locks

Op you are so bloody strong! And your son sounds like an absolute credit to you.
Yes the first week will be rough but he’s an absolute cock and you are a million percent better off without him. They deserve each other.

Oh and I LOVE the tattoo! My ex had my name in huge letters across his back, it gave me great pleasure knowing the ho he cheated on me with had to see it everyday after he went off with her. It’s the small things...

Please don't do the toothbrush thing OP, don't be someone who would think that way.

I've just caught up. I'm so sorry. Glad you're only six months in though. Agree with others, don't let him g to,your house unless you're there. YOU CANT TRUST HIM.

You are showing immense courage. Go carrotgirl! You're going to be great

@TheWickerWoman
My ex husband cheated on me years ago and I found out, the same day I found out I was pregnant. I gave him all his stuff back plus his passport (including a freshly drawn moustache on the picture)

THAT is brilliant ! I actually laughed out load

@TheWickerWoman
Oh no I did t read the rest of your post about being arrested. Still bloody brilliant though

@Carrotgirl999
Your post at 18.01 was spot on !!
You have a lot of class. Defiantly the dignified silence is the way to go. What a mistake he's made

You've so dodged a bullet.

Job sounds a great idea.

Yes yes to the toothbrush thing- he does talk a lot of shit afterall

Right under the rim, OP.

And you’ve been a real inspiration in the dignified way in which you’ve conducted yourself. I hope you are proud of yourself. And of that lovely son of yours.

I don't know if this will make you feel better but...

My ex ghosted me after 13 years of being together (though our relationship was always two years on and one year off). He called one Thursday evening to say he'd be home in 30 minutes. I haven't seen him since.

For five days we thought he was dead. His parents were beside themselves, we reported him missing, his mother and I had to look at photos of a John Doe (DOA?) that matched his description to try to ID him.

On the fifth day he texted his mother that he was staying 'with a friend'. Of course the friend was the OW, he later claimed to have met her on his 20 minute journey home. He claimed to choose her over our relationship because she 'needed him' and I never would.

We have only spoken once (on the phone) since that day.

The only thing I can recommend (and it sounds like you know this already) is to be absolutely beyond criticism, behave immaculately, be reasonable, be rational, be calm, and don't be any of the things he's going to try to paint you as, as an excuse for his behaviour.

Two years later I met DH, two years after that we got married and a year later had DD. Good will come of this. Hold your head high.

You are so dignified, carrot

@Whatkatydidnext1

Oh it turned out ok, nothing came of it after that, no evidence so it’s all good. Hearing about the op’s situation with the passport still being there triggered the memory.

I was so hoping he’d try and go on holiday with it without knowing what was on the photo...... haha

You will have your vengeance moment. Likely in about 6 months time when he tries to win you back after it has all gone to shit with her again and he realises what he's lost. Then you will coldly refuse and it will feel good.

@TheWickerWoman
Well I think your a ⭐️. I have my own little revenge story.
I'll keep it short. After I left my ex h a lot of affairs which I'd suspected came out of the wood work. By this time I didn't give a shit. The marriage was a nightmare and I was bloody glad to be out of it. However one of these affairs was with a friend..... now that hurt. I'd suspected she fancied him but I had a lot going on at the time involving a diagnosis for my ds so I put it to the back of my mind. We then moved away from the area and didn't see much of her at all. And btw I say she was my friend, she wAsnt like s bestest oldest type friend, just more a mate type. Anyway years later I found out that yes something happened.
I had a choice, do I go around her house and scream like a banshee and tell her dh who I quite liked. Really didn't want to be the one to tell him etc. Or do I let it all go after all I'm happy now ?? My revenge took place by accident. I bumped into her in town. Got the usual omg I heard about you and blah blah are you ok ? Mock concern crap. I made small talk then confided in her that I was waiting the results of some tests. STD test results. Because my h had had so many affairs. Her face !! Yep that was my revenge.

@whatkatydidnext1

😄😄 that’s brilliant! I’d have never thought on my feet that quick. It’s amazing how subtle revenge rather than the screaming, shouting and breaking things can make you feel so much more satisfied. Love it!

He is a complete and utter fucking Tool! Carrotand he doesn't deserve you and your Son.

You sound lovely and so does his family and they sound like they really love you so it's going to be far from sunshine and happiness for those two and they deserve all the shit that they get thrown at them.

Yours and your sons lifes will go on and get better and one day in the future you'll look back at this as a lucky escape

@TheWickerWoman
yeah I did a high five in my head. Btw I don't think std are a joking matter but for that second In time I thought fuck it xx
I never even threw it in my ex's face either. What was the point. My revenge was happiness and that's what the op has to do also. Oh and he's still single many years later after fucking up every relationship quick shag he's had since.

Ohtheholidays. Is so right. Total respect to the brother for telling you the truth also. He's more of a man than his brother.

@whatkatydidnext1

Aren’t they always (still single in the future) people like that never change, it’s just a shame they have to hurt decent people along the way.

This is how cheaters end up with moustaches on their passport photos and STD rumours 😄 serves them right.

You are well fucking rid.

@TheWickerWoman
Yes it is !!!! 😂😂😂😂