Dh told me I should go on a diet

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I am quite hurt by it. For context I am not overweight. But he has been making unpleasant remarks about my body for a while now and I have said to him that just before Christmas is probably not the best time to be going on about it.

Am I being over sensitive?

Does anyone 100% recover from an ED? I certainly haven't and don't expect to. The fact that you're feeling you should lose weight and worrying about eating in front of him suggests that there is still a tiny devil on your shoulder OP. He is exploiting that. He is trying to reopen old wounds to knock your confidence, to make you feel inadequate.

You have done so well to beat your ED. I aspire to that. Please don't let this apology of a man undermine all you've achieved.

Imagine your daughter feeling the way you felt when you were ill. Unbearable, isn't it? Don't let this man be an influence. He is dangerous. Any father worth his salt would not position an eating disorder as aspirational. When he shows her the old photos and tells her that you looked prettier then, he is telling her that thin is beautiful. He is perpetuating the cycle.

My DH encourages me to sit down and eat with the family, however I feel, however much I eat, because he doesn't want our daughter to see me skipping meals. He lives in fear of her inheriting my issues (as do I). Weight and shape are topics we avoid. He would no sooner dig out an old photo of me at my worst and show it to her than he would child pornography.

Talk to your friend. I bet she will move heaven and earth to help you. You deserve so much better.

He sounds very cruel. He is most definitely wrong to make these unkind remarks and to use your daughter to make his point.
Long term you can't be happy with a man like this.

She would I think but it isn't fair to expect her to. I'm unhappy staying and frightened to do anything about it, stupid isn't it?

I have not read the thread and I am aware that this is not an original response but when effectively employed it is ace...Keep it in your arsenal ladies....

An arsehole ex once said this to me.........

He said think about it...

I promised I would..

The following evening, I said I have thought about it ....and I am going to start by losing twelve stone.

He goldfished and then goldfished some more...

I then quickly interjected, you are dumped.

No, lovely, it's not. It's something everyone in an abusive relationship feels. It's an old adage on here, but no woman enters into a marriage with a man who acts like a bastard from the word go. They're Prince Charming until they're not.

Only you can decide when the time is right, but I am SO glad you recognise the fault lies with him and not you.

Wise words from Amber

Would it be worth giving Woman's Aid a call? You might not be in imminent physical danger but this is a type of abuse, an if you feel frightened at leaving, they can talk that through..

www.womensaid.org.uk/

Thanks. I did talk to them last summer when my friend was over, as I could use her phone. I feel better knowing it's not just me being over sensitive.

Honey - do you have your own mobile phone? You can phone the money and find out what number show up on your bill.

Does your husband monitor you phone bill ?

If you call this number it won’t show up on your landline phone .

www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk/helpline-faqs.aspx

He sounds awful. I would tell him to fuck off and not to bother to come back unless he get's a personality transplant.