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Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Battling on!

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lollipop7 · 31/10/2017 20:06

So I'm starting a new thread following on from 0I don't know what to do" as we're almost full.
Blimey! How did that happen!

Seems lots of you are rather ruddy marvellous and want to keep going on this journey with me so I'm opening a new chapter.
Will be back with a proper update later 💐

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TheMShip · 10/01/2018 10:24

Hope you're feeling better today. I also encourage you to go to the interview. If nothing else, getting dressed for it will give you confidence, and it'll look damn amazing that you're making an effort to provide for your kids. Flowers And if you can't face it, no one here will blame you. You've been through hell.

Groovee · 10/01/2018 15:28

Hugs to you Lollipop

JaneEyre70 · 10/01/2018 16:43

Lollipop I know you dont like the idea of a refuge but I think you would get a lot more help and support ...... I know that my mum would desperately struggle being around young children again no matter how much she loves them and me....... I am so sorry this isn't getting easier for you.

ElsieMc · 10/01/2018 18:10

So sorry to hear this Lollipop. I am a grandparent/kinship carer and have two boys live with me who are in their early to mid teens. I had them from babies. They came to me when I was forty but now I am mid fifties and it does make a difference. I have two other gs's and find I really cannot cope with the toddler stage any more . I just feel I have done my bit now and I have had it. I have brought up two families.

I am not sympathising with your mum op, not at all. I just don't think you can live with her any more. I bet she feels bad about her behaviour today though along with a sore head if she has had a drink or two.

I would go for the interview. Don't let your dm's outburst over childcare put you off op. She sounds angry and resentful and is hitting out at you when it is your ex she should be aiming her anger at.

You need your own space asap. I fully understand why you feel you cannot go into a refuge; at least you are living with the devil you know.

lollipop7 · 11/01/2018 20:52

Well I suppose nothing ventured nothing gained. I’ve put my son in the nursery for a whole day and am going to go and try my best. Good practice if nothing else.

Will let you all know how much of a fool I make of myself!

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RandomMess · 11/01/2018 20:54

Well done on giving it everything you've got, nothing ventured nothing gained Wine

lollipop7 · 11/01/2018 20:58

Thanks @RandomMess
What will be will be!

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MrsBertBibby · 11/01/2018 21:05

Chin up! You can do it.

lollipop7 · 11/01/2018 21:22

Hello @MrsBertBibby !
Well it will be a case of winging it but who knows.......

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Sadmum23 · 11/01/2018 21:42

Oh, go girl ! You never know if you do not try. Getting an interview is a success on its on so congratulations . Be yourself

Slingsanderrors · 11/01/2018 22:32

Go for it lollipop!
As you say, good practice if nothing else. Good luck

iknowimcoming · 11/01/2018 23:18

Good luck Lollipop Thanks

kaiserschmarrn · 11/01/2018 23:23

Best of luck tomorrow, Lollipop.

Idontmeanto · 12/01/2018 06:16

Good luck today Lollipop! Thinking of you!

McGintyii · 12/01/2018 06:31

Good luck today lollipop!

Turnedacorner · 12/01/2018 07:34

Wishing you the very best of luck today Lollipop.

notapizzaeater · 12/01/2018 08:45

Good luck x

Barmaid101 · 12/01/2018 10:07

Hope all goes well today for you!

DO3271 · 12/01/2018 13:19

The very best of luck to you

Doublemint · 12/01/2018 18:58

So.... how'd it go?!?!

lollipop7 · 12/01/2018 19:39

It went ok. I think!
I actually enjoyed it, they were very nice people.
Don’t think I’ll get it but good practice nonetheless. I did my best that’s the main thing.

Thanks everyone for the support and good luck wishes. Appreciate it x

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Idontmeanto · 12/01/2018 20:23

Well done you! I hope this gives you a nice confidence boost.

KarenW · 12/01/2018 21:05

go you! well done to you. if you dont get the job, then you can use this as valuable experience. If they hadn't thought that you were a good candidate then they wouldn't have interviewed you in the first place. You are an absolute legend, your kids are so lucky to have you as their mum. I wish I could have half the resolve and sheer guts that you have.

lollipop7 · 12/01/2018 21:05

@Idontmeanto Thanks x

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lollipop7 · 12/01/2018 21:07

@KarenW Thank you. I’m quite sure I’m nothing special, I’m just bumbling along. Fear is my biggest motivator. Fear of my babies being away from me. Fear I can’t deliver them a future. Fear of him.

I hope you are ok?

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