DH wants Holiday extension i dont help AIBU???

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We are waiting to go to breakfast on out last morning in Spain. Weather and hotel lush . Husband woke up this morning saying he wants to pay around 600 quid and stay till tomorrow night. To be clear - That means cancelling our flights at 1pm , extending our hotel booking and flying home to a different airport 2hours away from where our car is . So aibu to not want to ?

Him not you...

Yes . Thank you alternative x I have to wait for a slightly better time than right now for various reasons . Mostly financual. O have to have built my best egg up a little more as have no one I can ask for help in that way.
Sounds a bit pathetic , but security for children comes first.

Frankly laughable that your P spends most of the w/e either drinking or recuperating from excesses of, while you sort out the house/laundry/meals/baths/football....& spend your w/e basically alone (as you would as a single parent)
& THEN, he wants to hijack the remainder of the day once he feels better, & trumping DS's bday invite, & then twisting it into you being negative.
& YES, it does sound like he was the first made redundant as he is an unreliable entitled tosser. So now he does nothing, & is prolonguing this for 2 more months it seems, (whilst potentially frittering away near on £2K on adding a extra "live the day" 24 hrs to the holiday,) with no guarantee he will find a new job in the new year...
Historically he may have provided a good salary, but there is no guarantee that this will continue.
You sound extremely calm under the circumstances. I hope you doing the preparatory ground work getting your paperwork in order, (copies of all & every account/savings/pay slips/mortgage/life insurance etc) also be doubly vigilant he isn't going through your computer when you are out, he has plenty of time after all.
change your log ins, your phone PIN, dismantle any joint fb/whatsapp/instagram/cloud.
He knows your marriage is on shaky ground too.

wanting to enjoy "family time" could also be extended to the holiday when the DC were in Kids club .........

You do realize that not only would life be extremely less stressful, but you would also have more money if you weren't carrying him as well? how often does he waste things by being 'spontaneous'?

He is sucking you and the kids dry and taking up all the time, money, emotion etc.

I really do think that you'll find life much easier, including financially, if he was no longer part of it.

He twists you into knots for his entertainment and ego supply. When you don't kowtow to his wishes, he feels justified in giving you a verbal spanking. He is a special breed of bastard and clearly is not good for your mental health to be around him. If he isn't healthy for you to be around, then he certainly isn't healthy for the children to be around. And now he involves the dc in his needy psychological campaigns.

Co parenting with him will be difficult (together or apart); but you have the measure of him. Please find age appropriate ways to "debrief" the children when these dynamics engulf them.

Thank you x great tips mix - practical. I don't have a lot of my own money but I think I can manage - ironically when we separated I really did feel more in control of the money . God knows how much redundancy he has left ...i don't have a clue . But yes will squirrel and protect everything I can x there is another active thread and the OP has just decided to leave. You can almost feel her determination coming off the screen . Good for her !!
I know kickass in my heart of hearts that's true. But he is not horrible all the time and that is what muddies the water of course . I suspext i will be like the other lady and something will just make me click. Thanks andtheband - true points. Thank you x

God I was married to one of these. He would come up with grandiose, hare-brained plans. Then when I pointed out, however gently, that they weren’t practical he would throw a sulk and complain that I was always having a go at him.
It would then end up with him being a martyr and me feeling guilty for having upset him.
I would be walking on eggshells around him.
It got to the point I’d have to carefully engineer involving him in planning anything to avoid arguments.
When we were redecorating he hated all my (simple, inexpensive) plans. In the end I allocated him a room and a budget and told him to get on with it. Of course he never got round to it and I ended up organising that as well.

Ruby - I noticed the was ...!? How long were you together for if u don't mind me asking ? X was it the crazy decorating thing that did it ?

I do wonder/worry OP if your H enjoys throwing a last minute spanner in the works, in light of your anxiety. Do you think he might be actively trying to wrongfoot and fluster you?