Hey all,
Long story short been with my partner 9 years. 5 years ago we were approached and asked if we wanted to rescue to staffies. I'm not a dog person, never have been, but my partner fell in love with them. So, I agreed to introduce dogs into our family provided the dogs care was down to her.
She agreed.
Fast forward 1 year later and our garden is full of dog poop. Every time I asked her to clean it she would complain her back hurts, or she's had a busy day. She doesn't work, and about all she does is walk down the road to get food and take the kid to school which is around the corner. She sometimes washes up and cleans the house but most times she's watching Jeremy Kyle or sleeping.
She wasn't always like this. But the past 2 years she has been.
We got evicted form our private rented place because of the dog mess. Neighbors complained to our landlord and the landlord warned us to clean the dog mess. My partner done nothing about it.
We got a new property and I begged her to keep ontop of the dog mess. She said she would. But this didn't happen. Been here 2 years and she has cleaned the garden twice.
We had rats living in our entry because of the poop and next door have rats too because of the mess in our garden. Today the rat man from the council came to install rat traps in her garden and took photos of our garden.
I urged my partner to sort the garden out but it's just exploded in arguments. It's my fault apparently for not helping her around the house. The arguments are silly.
But, we're now about to be evicted if this isn't sorted. She's still sat downstairs watching TV not even interested.
We have a 10 year old, and he's got to go through all this.
I called the council myself and explained that I don't want to be evicted and that the problem is my partner doesn't want to clean up her dogs mess.
Some might say why don't I clean the mess. I'm not a dog person. I puke even going near poop. Call me a whimp, but that's one of the reasons why I refuse to have dogs. The agreement was I'd be happy with them in our family so long as she keeps ontop of them.
They sit in their crate all day. One limps because they rarely go for walks. I begged her to give them to someone who can look after them but once again another argument.
Please , any advice? I can't even speak to her about this calmly without her kicking off and blaming me in some way.