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My partner is going to get us evicted because of dog mess in the garden

133 replies

SomeRandomGuy · 22/09/2017 14:13

Hey all,

Long story short been with my partner 9 years. 5 years ago we were approached and asked if we wanted to rescue to staffies. I'm not a dog person, never have been, but my partner fell in love with them. So, I agreed to introduce dogs into our family provided the dogs care was down to her.

She agreed.

Fast forward 1 year later and our garden is full of dog poop. Every time I asked her to clean it she would complain her back hurts, or she's had a busy day. She doesn't work, and about all she does is walk down the road to get food and take the kid to school which is around the corner. She sometimes washes up and cleans the house but most times she's watching Jeremy Kyle or sleeping.

She wasn't always like this. But the past 2 years she has been.

We got evicted form our private rented place because of the dog mess. Neighbors complained to our landlord and the landlord warned us to clean the dog mess. My partner done nothing about it.

We got a new property and I begged her to keep ontop of the dog mess. She said she would. But this didn't happen. Been here 2 years and she has cleaned the garden twice.

We had rats living in our entry because of the poop and next door have rats too because of the mess in our garden. Today the rat man from the council came to install rat traps in her garden and took photos of our garden.

I urged my partner to sort the garden out but it's just exploded in arguments. It's my fault apparently for not helping her around the house. The arguments are silly.

But, we're now about to be evicted if this isn't sorted. She's still sat downstairs watching TV not even interested.

We have a 10 year old, and he's got to go through all this.

I called the council myself and explained that I don't want to be evicted and that the problem is my partner doesn't want to clean up her dogs mess.

Some might say why don't I clean the mess. I'm not a dog person. I puke even going near poop. Call me a whimp, but that's one of the reasons why I refuse to have dogs. The agreement was I'd be happy with them in our family so long as she keeps ontop of them.

They sit in their crate all day. One limps because they rarely go for walks. I begged her to give them to someone who can look after them but once again another argument.

Please , any advice? I can't even speak to her about this calmly without her kicking off and blaming me in some way.

OP posts:
GotToGetMyFingerOut · 22/09/2017 19:01

If your front gardens also an absolute disgrace with crap for the skip, you could be my mums neighbour. She's going demented with neighbours identical to this.

The dogs need to go. It's unfair on them.

Plaintalkin · 22/09/2017 19:01

Get over your puking! It's shit not nuclear waste !! Put some Vicks under your nose and get out there.

Then tell her the dog(s) will be rehomed because it's not fair on them either or your son.

It's a straightforward choice , clean up daily or get rid of them . I'd hate to live next door to you too!

Ttbb · 22/09/2017 19:07
  1. Clean up the poo yourself just this once so that you don't get evicted-it would be unfair on your son not to.
  2. Tell her to either regime the dogs or leave with them (if she refuses-which I assume she will) call the rspca and have them take the dogs away.
  3. Consider getting her to leave/getting some kind of medical help. Things can't go on as they are.
macncheesewithbacon · 22/09/2017 19:14

She's watching Jeremy Kyle?
Your mum's picking you up?
This is a Royale Family parody and I claim my £10!

StaplesCorner · 22/09/2017 19:37

Google "staff rescue" and contact one in your area.

DistractedByAFatDog · 22/09/2017 19:40

This place gets worse 🙄

womanbehavingbadly · 22/09/2017 19:45

Still loving the name @DistractedByAFatDog .

DistractedByAFatDog · 22/09/2017 19:47

😁

randomer · 22/09/2017 19:47

A place that rescues staff?

ReanimatedSGB · 22/09/2017 23:13

Op's fucked off.

clairecodown · 22/09/2017 23:46

I read this convinced you were my ex neighbours, they were renting the house next door, had dogs, they both lived in a crate at the side of their house on their driveway, right outside our bedroom window, the dogs lived in that crate for the two years they lived there, the dog mess was never cleaned up and all mounted up in the crate and in the garden, they were never walked, let out of the cage to poo in the garden then locked up again.

The dogs would fight each other, bark all day and night, they had injuries, bleeding wounds, never had their water refilled, had no toys, interaction, nothing.

(Not the dogs fault) but they kept us awake for two years with the constant noise coming from the crate, we were so sleep deprived from either being kept awake or woken up all night every night that I started to have dark thoughts about putting the dogs out of their misery to end their suffering (I hate that I thought this, It is amazing what not sleeping can do to you) the smell was horrible and we couldn't have doors or windows open unless we wanted the smell to knock us out.

We asked them nicely to pick up the dog mess, we asked nicely if they wouldn't mind moving the crate, or taking the dogs in, or at least take them for walks, all ignored, we tried to help the dogs but nothing was done apart from the council coming out and telling him to pick up the dog mess, and the dog warden saying they had shelter and food (once a day if he could be bothered) so nothing would be done.

They got evicted. I feel bad for their new neighbours who have to put up with this, and for those dogs who don't have a choice in living this way.

Please, for the sake of the dogs, and your neighbours rehome them and let someone look after them properly, and think of your neighbours who also have no choice in living next to the constant smell of dog mess.

If your partner won't pick it up then you do it, nobody likes the smell of it but rather that than let it fill the garden.

SparklyMagpie · 23/09/2017 01:30

clairecodown can I ask why you didn't call RSPCA or an animal shelter for 2 years witnessing that? ( not trying to be goady, it effected you too)

clairecodown · 23/09/2017 01:43

Sparkly, we live in Northern Ireland, I did phone the rspca, but because I am not a pet owner I didn't know they do not have the rspca in NI, so we rang our version of them, the uspca, they told us to call the dog warden, then we were told to contact the council to try and get him on a noise complaint, that went nowhere either, it seemed like we were going round in circles, we even tried to police after being kept awake until 4.30am, they came, told him to take the dogs inside his house, he did for one night, then they went back in the cage the following day.

We tried everything we could think of and got nowhere, I even asked them if I could walk them and take them to the vet and was refused, short on breaking into the crate and freeing them I don't know what else we could have done unfortunately.

We were still in the process of trying to help the dogs when they suddenly moved out, we later found they were evicted and we have no idea where they moved to.

SparklyMagpie · 23/09/2017 01:48

I'm sorry to hear that and you tried your best to help those poor dogs :( fingers crossed they got taken away from those irresponsible owners!

It just blows my mind! You did what you could! Sorry if my comment came across badly! Was not Intended, have just come how from work an I'm shattered and hungry haha

user1495832265 · 23/09/2017 09:49
Hmm
Bluntness100 · 23/09/2017 09:55

Jesus Christ, I can't believe you threw the cruelty in at the end. What the hell is wrong with you that you could live with those dogs like that. Yes you've reported it now, and that's good but shame on you for not doing it sooner.

RestingBitchFaced · 23/09/2017 10:06

I really hope this isn't true

becotide · 23/09/2017 10:07

leave and take your child with you.Report the dog's conditons to the RSPCA

butterfly56 · 23/09/2017 10:21

If you have any sense you will get the dogs rehomed if they have not already been taken off you by the RSPCA for your cruelty in which you are as complicit as your partner.

You deserve to be evicted because neither of you will accept responsibility for being decent tenants and causing a lot of hassle for your neighbours.

You are both to blame for situation you are in.

PopeMortificado · 23/09/2017 13:39

What a big pile of (dog) shit.

I quite agree. I don't believe this at all. It's a load of bulldogs.

LillyLollyLandy · 23/09/2017 13:46

Don't think the OP is coming back

PopeMortificado · 23/09/2017 14:02

Dog-gone.

Frequency · 23/09/2017 14:15

I'm not sure that dog mess building up is neglect, unless the dogs are living in the garden? I mean, it's not nice but if they are otherwise fed, watered and exercised, it's hardly a serious neglect issue that would result in RSPCA action. It's hard enough getting them to act when serious neglect is taking place, so dog poop ain't gonna bother them.

Do you help your partner in the house? Her not working is no reason to not lift a finger in the house. How do you know she sits all day watching Jeremy Kyle?

None of this is adding up to me. I might be being sensitive as my Ex-H used to accuse me of being lazy, not cleaning enough and tell people all I did was sit on my backside 'leeching' off him. Truth was, he was an abusive dickwad who couldn't even bin his own snotty tissues and there was too much mess for me to cope with alone.

Also, your wife sounds depressed to me.

Shockers · 23/09/2017 14:45

I know you've had a bit of a roasting, OP, but please come back and let us know whether anyone has been out to the dogs.

I'm guessing that the poo has built up to a level where it's almost impossible to remove, if it's sat there through all sorts of weather. I'd get a face mask and some gloves, a roll of bin bags and a shovel you can throw afterwards. Then just get on with it for the sake of the child.