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The Dating Thread Number 122: Colour By Numbers

999 replies

ConorMcGregorsChin · 13/09/2017 18:27

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread.
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PurpleSweetPeas · 20/09/2017 12:29

Zippy I made that mistake before hence being very aware of not doing it again. I'm doing well but just need to relax for the next 7 hrs Grin. There's a certain amount of excitement mixed up in there!

Phoenix - not sure I've give my irons names yet. This is MrMusic. Somewhat different from whom I'd normally go for but very easy going and nice. We work with similar client groups which is a fairly rare crossover so it's good to have someone who understands as it can be intense work.

I also have a date next week with MrExercise (he may be a FWB but can't quite suss it out yet) and possibly another with MrSlowBurn (very slow and I probably wouldn't be as bothered but the other two are taking up my time so I don't mind) so plenty to keep me occupied after the abyss that was facing me beginning of last week!

Interestingly, MrExercise is getting my really laid back side as I'm not too bothered where it goes. It will be interesting to see where it does go now as I've put in not a lot of effort! He's still very keen Grin

RubyRed2017 · 20/09/2017 12:57

Phoenix I've had that happen as well, I had 2 out of 3 agreed dates drop out last week. One went silent, the other made a lame excuse. Normal standards of politeness just don't seem to apply.

I find it tricky to time these things. If I leave it to the last minute then I may end up wasting a valuable child-free evening! Most people dont want to plan things too far in advance and its hard to keep the conversation going.

I have been chatting for a couple of weeks on and off to two guys who both travel a lot with work and haven't been able to meet yet. I don't have a free weekend for 3 weeks now, and have pencilled in a date with one of them then - hope he is still interested by then!

On the other hand I have a date tomorrow that I arranged y'day with someone local who I got talking to on POF.

I met someone at a work event last week who rang a bell- I am pretty sure that I have previously chatted with him on Tinder and the conversation fizzled out. I am going to a drinks reception this evening that I think he will be at, so will keep a look out for him!

Beentherelefthimgotthetshirt · 20/09/2017 14:44

Ooh - good luck tonight Purple! May the dullard not be with you Grin.

PurpleSweetPeas · 20/09/2017 14:46

Thanks Been - I will try not to remember your kitchen work top test Grin

ojojoj1 · 20/09/2017 16:50

Been I went for a date this afternoon and was just waiting for him while I read about your counter test . Applied - not sure if I could see myself in that scenario. I got ma message from guy I was supposed to have a wee coffee confirmed last week . I find him very very hot but he is flaky as hell . Womt give me his no and it's only kik communion I'll just leave it I think

PurpleSweetPeas · 20/09/2017 16:56

Oj I'd be very wary of someone not giving me their number. Sounds like the typical married guy plus then I couldn't google and whatsapp stalk them Grin

ojojoj1 · 20/09/2017 16:59

I know who he is he said to me he was briefly married in 2014 but he has done it before , been there disappeared and back again he is really difficult to talk to and difficult to have any banter with

ojojoj1 · 20/09/2017 17:00

I know who he is he said to me he was briefly married in 2014 but he has done it before , been there disappeared and back again he is really difficult to talk to and difficult to have any banter with

Queenofthedrivensnow · 20/09/2017 18:19

Back to tinder. God help me. What's the kitchen worktop rest?

couchtospecialk · 20/09/2017 18:25

Good luck tonight Purple!!! Interested in the worktop verdict!!Grin

PlsTryAnother · 20/09/2017 18:34

Ok so right of passage for me today. Not only was I sent my first ever dick pic, but I also got a video call (which i stupidly answered) to be shown an ejaculating penis!! Lucky me!! Serious question - does this actually turn anyone on????

Been lurking on this thread since posting the other week and am learning loads! No more over investing before we've even met. A lot more wary over married men. Was supposed to have a date on Friday but have cancelled as he seemed far too over invested himself!

So still no actual dates (although I have DTD with one non-date!! Blush) but really starting to enjoy OLD........now I'm learning the rules. Got a few irons and a nice FTW developing.

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ConorMcGregorsChin · 20/09/2017 18:38

Ah. The Dullards versus the Hot but Flaky.
The perpetual cycle of OLD...

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ConorMcGregorsChin · 20/09/2017 18:40

Pls Oh dear. Yes. The unexpected video call. One of mine did this to me while I was on holiday with my 5 year old a couple of weeks ago. Duly ended call and blocked. Thankfully she saw nothing as I turned the phone away and had my thumb over the microphone Hmm

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Lovemusic33 · 20/09/2017 18:47

Pls congratualtaions on receiving your first dick photo and wank video Grin 'does this actually turn people on?' No but it often has me in fits of laughter, I find it really funny that a random stranger would send me a photo of there private parts and trust me not to show the world.

PlsTryAnother · 20/09/2017 18:52

I straight away messaged my new FWB (which is obviously what i meant not FTW) and warned him not to ever do that to me!! Grin

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ConorMcGregorsChin · 20/09/2017 19:21

Pls Well done on having some pretty hefty boundaries and telling people in advance. More so with FWB (we knew what you meant) Grin
It's hard to strike a balance. I've been having a shit time lately and not replied to some messages from my FWB. I know Been has some very strict and healthy rules on this after reading her response to another thread, but... I also believe respect goes a long way so when my FWB said to me the other day "Yeah but Conor, I do want to hear about the problems you've encountered with other Men. Because I'm your Friend" I found this quite nice.
The friend part is crucial to me.

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couchtospecialk · 20/09/2017 19:43

Ah that's nice and bloody decent of your FWB Conor. He's a keeper... for shenangians I mean.

Lovemusic - you're so right. They must realise that women talk, and tell their friends, and laugh. There were once 5 of us gathered around my friend's mobile (I was naive and long time married at the time) trying to work out a dick pic. Turns out he was in an upstairs bedroom at his parent's house with a selfie stick eurgh tsk tsk

PhoenixMama · 20/09/2017 19:49

Ugg so Mr Irish had cancelled our date for Sat. His mother was supposed to be here till Friday but she announced to him over dinner she's staying till Sunday! He sounds gutted but I've left it up to him to sort out the rearranging!

So my plan to fill my childfree weekend with dates has bombed. Gutted.

Lovemusic33 · 20/09/2017 20:00

Every time I have a child free weekend my date cancels or disappears Sad

My date for Friday with Mr Mountain is still on, not getting too excited but he keeps messaging and we have quite a few things in common, he's not that attractive in his photos though but I'm hoping he will look better in RL, he's not ugly just a bit plain.

whatisgoingon1 · 20/09/2017 20:03

I'm filling my weekend with watching my ds playing rugby,away match. My own plans come before dates. Not even in the mood for any dates to be precise. Mr Banker said he's going away on lads break sunbathing and playing golf but I didn't catch when he's going and he's not in touch last couple of days. Can't quite work out if he's flaking out or he's just into casual contact before first date. We agreed to arrange to meet up after he's back though when spoke last so will see! Not even remotely interested in other dates so rugby it is.

PlsTryAnother · 20/09/2017 20:03

Ahh that is nice Conor......although I'm not really planning on making a big deal of the friend bit - i tend to get a bit too attached otherwise!!

Although it seems he think I was accusing him when I sent that message - so might be calling a day on that one already....we'll see.

PhoenixMama · 20/09/2017 21:29

I'm so over guys tonight. So my original Thursday date just msg'd asking if we're still on for Fri. When I said 'oh I had us down as Thurs but cancelled the sitter cuz I hadn't heard from you'. I get a huffy "clearly you're thinking of someone else' and then he blocks me!

ojojoj1 · 20/09/2017 21:38

Phoenix what a cowardly dick , typical lack of fucking responsibility for actions

whatisgoingon1 · 20/09/2017 21:43

Phoenix so when did you hear from him last before tonight?

PhoenixMama · 20/09/2017 22:08

Last Thurs/Fri when he asked me out. I'm just so bored of it.

Mr Irish has rearranged for Weds. Which is good but bad I now have to pay for a sitter. He better be worth it lol.

Can't believe after all the chatting I have 3 childfree nights & no dates.