The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Go Sober For October?

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Hello, 'tis me, Mouseface, welcome to the Bus, aka Gerarld.

We're a bus full of various Babes, from those who are as dry the Sahara, those who drink in moderation, those who binge drink and can go for weeks without a drop and then fall arse over tit (pardon the french!) straight off the bus and into the sidecar, and then we have Babes who try every single day to give up.

The thing is, we all do 'this' ONE DAY AT A TIME and with passion too. You have to WANT to stop with every fibre of your being.

And that's what this bus is about. We support each other. No matter how many times you fall of the Bus, we'll always be here to scoop you back up and listen.

So, come and join us. Lurk, or grab a seat, make sure you're comfy and enjoy the journey as we talk about the dreaded drink, plus everything from how expensive Tena Lady's are, to what's in the slow cooker!

We don't judge, this isn't a competition, it's our lives.

And if you'd like to read the last thread, HERE IT IS

Plus, if you'd like to see where the Bus started out, you can RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon xx

Well done iron
I am back to day 1 af -as it's Monday. Fairly reasonable Sat and Sun, following Friday's binge. DH is not doing so great with it. He isn't irritating me too much today though. It's more that I'm worrying about our future together. I really want to stop. It looks like he doesn't so much. I do love him and I knew the issue when we married - so I want to stick it out, but is it really sustainable? If it was going to be a deal breaker it would have been already, wouldn't it? We've been together 17 years...

Guggenheim yes I saw the Louis Theroux on anorexia and thought the same thing. The illness is addiction. It was very sad and thought provoking. I went to OA (overeaters anon) many years ago and it was a revelation to me that the anorexic, the bulimic and the compulsive over-eaters were all addicted and obsessed with food.

I feel fairly pleased with my moderation. Haven’t been drunk in October though haven’t been AF. Had one cider in Friday can’t remember on Saturday - not because I drank a lot though! On Sunday was out for lunch and shared a bottle of wine half and half and (quite proud of this bit) in the evening I had a single glass of white wine and DIDN’T FINISH IT! Just thought “I don’t need this” and left it as well as the open bottle in the fridge. I wouldn’t have been able to do that a few weeks ago so I’m getting somewhere.

Great inspiration here (Iron for instance) and thinking of those still struggling with this and life in general like you MsHoolie. Keep buggering on.

Can anyone recommend a nice dry AF Wine?

Hello I’ve managed an AF night- first in ages. I am finding it so hard. I can’t even talk about it really- but I just thought I would pop by.

Talk to us still

I was doing so well. Fucked up.

I fucked up I mean.

I tried to talk to my husband about it. Fucked that up too. I can’t explain the compulsion.

Sorry to splurge!

I’ve been through the wringer, it took me 3 months to get a key worker who told me I should be detoxed but I couldn’t do it because I couldn’t be at home alone. She told me it was amazing, all the pain, the angst, the insomnia etc just went away.

I hope you’re reading this MsHoolies

Bollocks. I think I fucked that up too.

Thanks for all of your encouraging posts. Hoping my last SI one!
The more and more I analyse it I’m asking myself why didn’t I make my excuses and not go. I can’t change what has happened and I left pretty early. And it was a lovely event. Apparently stuff went on after I left. But I was given a wide berth by a lot of family members, which I completely understand, that made me feel pretty isolated and lonely. Also my DS was extremely hard work at one stage of the evening which is when I hit the booze - hard.
I’m not in good shape; the year anniversary of when ex went ballistic with me had passed a week before. I’d been out nearly every day the week leading up to leaving my house to travel. Hardly fresh faced. All the signs for me getting to the event were saying Just. Don’t. Go. Wrong turns, traffic, stuff. It was a 4 hour journey there and back (with expensive stops and stays). The pressure I put myself under to get there - I had the invite before ex even moved out so I was determined to go.
I do mentally feel better this morning than I have in a long time, life just is generally fucking tough right now..

Iron, not drinking last night was brilliant. Reflect on your positive achievements from now! When we go through tough times I think reaching for the booze becomes the only answer as that's what many of us have always done and is our coping mechanism. But then things happen because we were drinking and the problems become worse so we reach for more booze...it's a vicious cycle.
Today is going to be my third alcohol free day. I woke up so glad I didn't drink last night and have just picked up some snacks for tonight to keep my mind away from wine.
Just posting here has helped me so much as have no one to talk to about it in rl. I kind of feel if I say on here that I'm nor going to drink each day then I've made a commitment and I must stick to it! Hugs to others who are struggling at the moment x

Had an all day binge yesterday. Felt so crap today I couldn’t go to college. Now feel useless and guilty. Aiming for a booze free day today! X

tangfastics how is it today? Life Can be hard and we do fuck up some times. Be kind to yourself today. Can you lock on to one positive thing. Today I am going to shave my legs!!!!

I am fucking so many things through drink including my health and I don’t think I can talk about it.

Hi Chukys..hope you're feeling a bit better now. You're most definitely not useless and all you're guilty of is making a slip up. The main thing is you are going to try not to drink today Yesterday is gone. Today is a fresh start. I'm getting the thoughts of buying wine right now for later, hence why I've come on here again.
Still, I like the locking onto one positive thing today. Mine is I'm going to watch Bake Off final later (and remember it!). You sound down and hope you're ok? X

stillearnin talk on here if it helps, there is zero judgement. I posted this quote a while back as it helps me so much so hoping it might help others too

"I drank to forget the person drinking had made me become"

Thank you real I’m currently trying to figure out why I do it. annabel I shaved my legs!!

Also still AF despite having to talk to the police about my dd

Hello all.
Well done still, AF in a stressful situation takes some doing.
Day 2 (again) here, I'm going for 4 AF days a week, managed it last week and moderated over the weekend. It seems a bit easier this week.

Real that's a great quote. I really don't like the person I am when I drink.

Sounds as if you are going through a tough time still so it is even more impressive that you have stayed af. And as for shaving your legs in nearly November, well that is going above and beyond, real gold star worthy!!

Keep on keeping on, one day at a time x

Me too slings that quote really sobered me up (in all senses of the word) well done on your moderating, glad you are finding it a bit easier this week

Stillearnin yay!! I watched The Great British Bake Off...completely sober! We're getting there! So, are you going to show your newly smooth legs off? Mine could pass for a forest! I found eating lots last night took away any evening cravings for alcohol. Normally I wouldn't bother with food until I'd sunk three quarters of a bottle of wine but i had tortilla chips, dips, hummous, cheese, a couple of mini sausage rolls and some garlic bread in front of the TV last night (a greedy pig I know) and by nine pm really didn't mildly fancy wine at all.
Today will be day 4 so plan is to have a decent lunch and afternoon snack (maybe cake) to stop the early afternoon cravings.
I read everyone's posts here and although I might not always respond know I'm thinking of you all. I love the tips and quotes too.
It helps just to know I'm not alone in the struggle to be AF. X

Hi all - so glad to have found this thread. My husband and I are both having a sober month for the first time in over a decade of heavy drinking. Trigger was a week in France where there wasn’t a recycling bin in the cottage, so the bottles just got lined up by the back door, and saw it was way way too long a line after 6 days 😬. We’ve been drinking 1.5 bottles a day between us for years, and it definitely was a ‘relationship with alcohol’ situation - I didn’t (don’t 😳) want to go to a social event if couldn’t drink, very twitchy if there wasn’t wine in the house, too many sluggish mornings and stupid drunk rows. So this is Day 4 in our sober month. Had a crappy headache for the first these days but it seems to have gone today, thank god! Am hoping to give and receive some Mumsnet group support with those on the same bus, hopefully change the pattern forever 🙃

Hi onlyInBerkshire I've just started posting here after my wine problem crept in again over the past couple of weeks (after a substantial period of sobriety). The trigger was my dd catching me on Friday night, drunk and just opening a new bottle. She was disgusted with me..quite rightly so...and has only just started speaking to me again. I was so ashamed, and still am. I've struggled on and off with drinking for far too long now.
I'm glad you're here

Thanks Annabelle 🙃 We took all alcohol out to a box at the back of the garage on the weekend, so as not to open the fridge and have temptation smack you in the face - scary how empty the fridge was once we’d taken it all out l

Morning babes - just popping by to wave at everyone, welcome the newbies and hope you're all doing ok. I managed - no actually ENJOYED - an af night last night - but OMG the dreams I'm having since cutting down! Some nights I actually feel like I've been awake all night in another world! Does anyone else get this?
Anyhow I have decided that my goal for November is to not get drunk - I need to be realistic with myself so can't promise I'll be af all month (having failed miserably for sober October), however if I can get back to just enjoying a couple of drinks now and then with plenty of af days inbetween then I'll be a happy Doris!

Yay! Made it without the bottle last night!!! Go me!

Yay go chucky !!

OnlyInBerkshire Good move! Out of sight out of mind! How've you found being AF so far? I've found my anxiety has been so much better today after not drinking for three evenings, although sleep has become a problem. But not having the guilty feeling/having to hide empty bottles/trembling hands/dry mouth/feeling like death warmed up is a pay off worth more than a bit of sleeplessness . I'm just taking this one day at a time as don't want to set myself any long term goals of not drinking at the minute or I'll just get overwhelmed by the scary thought of no more wine!
ChuckyIt's a fab feeling of achievement isn't it to get through a day / evening with no alcohol
MsHoolieI hope you're ok.My thoughts are with you