The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Go Sober For October?

[Mouseface]

Hello, 'tis me, Mouseface, welcome to the Bus, aka Gerarld.

We're a bus full of various Babes, from those who are as dry the Sahara, those who drink in moderation, those who binge drink and can go for weeks without a drop and then fall arse over tit (pardon the french!) straight off the bus and into the sidecar, and then we have Babes who try every single day to give up.

The thing is, we all do 'this' ONE DAY AT A TIME and with passion too. You have to WANT to stop with every fibre of your being.

And that's what this bus is about. We support each other. No matter how many times you fall of the Bus, we'll always be here to scoop you back up and listen.

So, come and join us. Lurk, or grab a seat, make sure you're comfy and enjoy the journey as we talk about the dreaded drink, plus everything from how expensive Tena Lady's are, to what's in the slow cooker!

We don't judge, this isn't a competition, it's our lives.

And if you'd like to read the last thread, HERE IT IS

Plus, if you'd like to see where the Bus started out, you can RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon xx

baked what's up?

venus you ok?

Ok

Had wine. :(

Hey Bakedbeans - tomorrow's another day. Hope you are tucked up sleeping it off now.
I'm still managing af monday to Thursday and have cut down quite a bit (but not as much as I would like ) at the weekends.

DH is winding me up at the mo. Because he is not doing well at cutting down. We've been getting on much better but he's pissed again tonight....and I'm irritated.

I am trying very hard to focus on sorting myself out and tell myself over and over there's no point nagging, it has to come from him, but it annoys me anyway

Morning Babes
How you doing Beans? Be kind to yourself today, stay hydrated and eat sweet things. Every time you fancy a drink, have a delicious soft drink, there are loads to choose from. Lime & tonic, AF San Miguel (only ever seen it in Tescos), pink lemonade, green bottle cordials with fizzy water, the list is endless or a good cuppa
Hoolies how are you lovely? I hope all went well yeasterday
Hold sounds like you had a lovely time with your grandkids, exhausting but worth all that exerted energy Why not try to stay off the booze until Saturday, give yourself a little challenge
I so wish I could afford not to work 🙄
Have a good day one and all x

Morning all
baked don't beat yourself up about yesterday - clamber right back on the bus and follow spannas brilliant advice

I went to the meeting yesterday and it was brilliant. It was so amazing to be in a room full of people who you know are not judging you and understand.
Tomorrow there is an alcohol group and a pre detox group. Part of me feels angry because this is exactly what I’ve been trying to access for weeks and getting nowhere.
However, the bad news is that I did something absolutely monumentally stupid a couple of months ago. My boss told me that she could smell alcohol on my breath do I just totally panicked and made up a huge lie - it was something that actually happened to me as a teenager but I said it had happened to DD so my boss made a referral to social services.
The children were seen by a social worker yesterday so now my DH knows about this lie that I told.
I can’t see any way back from this, I really can’t. On paper, it looks despicable but I never thought it would have any repercussions, it was just something I said in a moment of panic to try to get myself off the hook.
But I think I’ve ruined my whole life. I don’t think DH or DD will ever forgive me. But it wasn’t malicious, it wasn’t premeditated, I just panicked. I thought I was going to lose my job. My whole life has completely fallen apart in the space of a couple of months.
I went to see my GP on Monday because they’ve been notified about everything that’s happened. I was watching a thing about the menopause a few days ago and there were lots of women talking about feeling like they were going crazy or having wild mood swings.
She’s prescribed me HRT which I collect today.
But I don’t see a way back from this right now. I’ve only seen my children for a couple of hours in the last month. There is no point anymore. I’m just a sad middle aged pisshead. I’m no great loss to the world.

MsHooliesCardigan
Baby steps, that's what it takes and two forward , one back is fine. You are doing so well. Don't give up. You are quite the inspiration.
Lux
For my treat, I've bought two Bomb cosmetic advent calendars, one for November, one for December.
spanna41
I'm jealous of your wonderful beach. Hope everything is going ok for you. Your work sounds like idiots. Sorry to see you have to go through all that.

Waves at everyone
I wrote a long post and replied to you all and bloody hit the back button, not post and lost it all! Sorry! Here's one of the new calves to make up for it.

So I've finally kicked this virus into submission apart from a nagging cough. On the plus side, I've been AF for 16 days.

Mint look at that baby - he's just sooooo cute so glad to hear that you're feeling so much better. I'm jealous of your country side setting - my dream would be a house with land leading down to the sea. I am very lucky living this close to the sea and thank the universe every day

Hoolies you poor love. I completely understand why you lied - it's like being a rabbit in the headlights! Can you come clean with your boss and tell her how bad things are and then fess to ss? could that work? Time is a great healer (cliche, I know) your family will forgive you - you are her mum and no-one can ever take that away If she can see that you are doing all that you can, she will forgive you, that I promise, you'll look back on this time in years to come with a genuine understanding between you. I know you can't see it now but she will understand eventually. keep going babe you're doing really well

MsHoolies

How's your day been Baked?

Not bad thanks spanna. Hope you’re ok.

No wine in the house so off to bed with my book and cuppa soon.

Sounds good Baked
all ok here, just got back from chauffeuring DD2 from gymnastics I
I put my tribunal appeal letter in the post today so they should receive it tomorrow - they've messed with the wrong babe on this one So we'll see what happens next
Knackered and got a headache, off to walk skinny dog......
How's is everyone? Ma you ok lovely?

Just off to bed at the end of day 3, hoping I start feeling better soon!
Hope everyone's ok.
Night all.

Ahhhhhhhhh -puts head in oven and screams for England!!!!!-
My DH is the most amazing musician and can do whatever you want in the world but tonight has decided to incessantly play / play along to massively annoying American you tube videos of "5o'clock somewhere"

Apparently it has a chord missing, so we have to listen to squeaky Doris...

So tomorrow is a special day in the calendar. Still not drinking, but not drinking on celebration days is harder.

46 days and counting.

DH came home a week ago with a bottle of wine he received as a gift. Usually I would have opened it the same day (and of course finished it!) but it's still sitting there at the back of the cupboard, whispering to me in its silver-tongued, witchy voice. And it's staying there.

Doris I can feel some headphones coming on sounds hideous!

Dystopian 46 Days is AWESOME Well Done Could you put that cheeky bottle of wine in the garden shed? I hope you've planned some delicious treats for yourself tomorrow - refreshing AF drinks (mocktails, maybe?) and some yummy food! At first it does feel really odd not drinking on birthdays, celebrations, weddings, in pubs, at festivals BUT once you're cracked it - it's a really good feeling and quite funny. Whilst others are getting hammered you can stand back and watch it happen, remembering the days when that was you. Give yourself a huge pat on the back, plan for and enjoy yourself tomorrow x

Pom poms from me too dystopian. Brilliant achievement.
doris sounds painful! Can you banish him to the shed?
mshoolie how are you doing? I think about you a lot.
Morning to everyone else, day 4 here, feeling a bit better, sleeping much better but still feeling hungover when I wake up - so unfair! ODAAT, but am thinking that I'll try for the whole week, that'll be a huge achievement for me.

Slings that hangover feeling is the most unfair thing, isn't it - it will pass, I think it's something to do with the body craving sugar, in my case I think I was just permanently pissed (by topping up every evening, day in day out) and it took approx 7 days to feel clear headed and wake up with a bit of vavavoom when I could finally sleep properly. The other one for me was this metal taste in my mouth for around 2 weeks, drove me mad Try not to project too far ahead with your AF journey, go one day at a time, at the beginning (when I was trying to moderate) I would say 'right I'm going to not drink during the week, then I said the weekend too' and it set me up to monumentally fail. I ended up back drinking on a daily basis
Keep going Slings you're getting a momentum going

Hi babes my ears are now restored lol!
I have a question - DP asked me why I drink too much - and I couldn't answer
I honestly don't know why I do it - I can make excuses and say things like it helps me cope etc except I know that it doesn't so that can't really be a valid reason can it?
Do any of us know why we do it?
And if there's no reason for doing it then why is it so bloody hard to stop?

Doris
Its hot,sunny,summer,cold,dark,winter.
To celebrate ,commiserate,feeling good,feeling shit.
There was always a reason to drink -thats addiction /the wine witch
Day 110 for me

110 days! That's amazing pink

That's the thing though isn't it - none of those things are really reasons just that we make them into excuses and it all spirals out of control

Thanks Doris
Its a way of life for me now.
Life is so much better in all aspects.
I get up ,run about like a youngster and I cant imagine doing any of the things I do with a hangover.
We have saved so much money as well and can now make choices we thought we didnt have .
The future looks very bright and I truly feel happy

I am going to speak to the sw this afternoon and try to do some damage limitation.
There have been some amazing developments here - I went to the drug and alcohol place and went to 2 groups.
One of the staff came and spoke to me and said that they want to give me an emergency detox ASAP and then admit me to rehab which can be for up to 12 weeks.
Although it’s an amazing offer because it certainly isn’t cheap, I do have some reservations.
I have already been away from the children for a month. I’m not sure how work will take me being off that long. I know I won’t get ‘into trouble’ but it feels a bit shit for my colleagues.
Also because I can’t be treated in the trust that I work for, I will be further from home than I would like.
It’s also going to be really hard for DH on his one with the DC.
However I would be mad not to do this but I’m also a bit scared and wonder if I’m just making excuses.