Friend with benefits wants to 'f**k me forever'

[Diditmyway]

I'm so confused, we only have a sex only relationship, which has been on and off for almost two years now, but he says stuff like this a lot, also has said he loves having sex with me more than anything and he would do anything with me (sex related). We were having sex once and he was saying my name over and over and he told me he loved me but it's only sex?

I'm not surprised your son isn't happy about being introduced to your lover when he can see it's just a sex arrangement. I'm sure he'd rather see his mum in a fulfilling relationship.
Nothing wrong with what you're doing but your son doesn't need to know.
The only cause for concern is that you're in too deep. Have a talk with him away from the bedroom, and sober about what you both want and if it doesn't match up, cut your losses.

FWB/ Fuck Buddy whatever you deem it.
What do you want from this?
If he went on a date/saw someone else as he's perfectly entitled to, as you're not in a relationship, how would you feel?
If the answer is angry, jealous etc you're in too deep and you'll get hurt.
Before you say "he'd be jealous if I did too" the men IME in FWB often trot that out to keep the woman reeled in, or if they do get jealous it's more ego than emotion.
If you're happy with your current status quo why are you posting, if not as pp say have an honest conversation and take it from there. Good luck.

I was just posting to see what other people thought, Im pretty sure he doesn't want a relationship with me, he has even said if he gets a girlfriend he would still see me. I understand that Im too old for him to have as a gf, he should be with someone younger. I think the mother and son thing is because I have a son not much younger than him, he has met my son and his friends at my home and he told me he liked them knowing what we were doing.
I am going to take some of the advice on this and try to meet someone else, I have tried to end things before with him by changing my number but he always finds a way to get in touch with me. But yeah i will just enjoy it for now and not read too much into it, so thanks for the advice

Oh jeez

Just speak to him and see what he wants

If he doesn't want a relationship you need to walk asau

Away*

That's not good, him enjoying your son knowing, it's like a competition thing with him. He probably does want to Fuck you forever, play Mommy with you and feel superior to your son, whilst he has a wife and children at home.

You and your son deserve better.

ROOKIE MISTAKE never ever admit to anything vaguely kinky on mumsnet.

That's very disrespectful of your son :/
Don't put up with that fgs

I mean, towards your son!

What do you mean put up with it, Beadie ?

Op gets off on it. Allegedly.

Just so you know - I see nothing shameful about your fantasy and think the fact you have a DS is entirely relevant.

I do think you will end up getting hurt though x

Irrelevant sorry! Duh!

You sound quite invested in this.
If he walks away tomorrow then you sound like it will hurt.
Involving your son is daft though. He doesn't need to know about it as it isn't going anywhere.

He is keeping you hooked by telling you what he can see you want to hear. He will dump you the moment he is in a relationship with someone he really cares about.

Why not end it and be with someone who really cares about you?

He sounds like a right catch - happy that your son knows he's shagging you, would carry on shagging you even if he had a girlfriend? What a prize . It's very obvious you are way more invested emotionally than him, and so eventually will be hurt badly. Save yourself the grief and go and find someone who respects you more!

OMG your poor son. Very disrespectful to him and quite toxic that you could do this to him.

My son knows hardly anything about it, he has his own life, a job and a gf and is barely at home now? The mother and son stuff has nothing to do with my son for me, I just fancy this man so much, erm sorry, it's nice to feel like that about someone and maybe because I'm getting older ha.

You said your son 'doesn't like it tbh'.
Nothing wrong with seeing someone younger than you but mother and son fantasies when you have a son a similar age is pretty weird. IMO anyway.
Plus the way you clearly feel about this guy is going to get you hurt.

I would be really concerned if a guy old enough too be my dad, suggested a father and daughter roleplay. I'm sure most on MN would call him a dirty bastard for it.

The comment how he likes the fact your son knows is very strange aswell. This all just sounds so strange.

She is 11 years older than him and there are 8 years between him and her son.

What exactly is it that you confused about? Seriously, everything is crystal clear regarding this arrangement. Strange and disturbing set up if this is genuine. Feel very very sorry for your son. You and your 'fb' sound like you 'deserve' each other very much. You really need to wise up if you are not astute enough to work out what his intentions are.

6 years, so the same generation.

Many 39 year old woman are pregnant with their first child.

I was 18 when I had my first son so what? And not where I live are women waiting till the age of 39 sorry

I was defending you OP.