I sent ex DP a video where DD 3 is playing in a t shirt and nothing else. He has reported me to a family friend who is a solicitor.

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I left DP in January this year and moved five hours away. Since then I try and send photos and/ or videos daily for him to still feel a part of her life.

Today at bedtime DD began to play a game with her soft toys and was really engaged and chatty. I thought it was a sweet moment. I recorded about 45 seconds worth and sent it to him.

About four hours later he sent me a text telling me never to record her semi nude again and has reported me to a solicitor who has "documented" the incident.

I am not on any social media and the video was only and would only ever be sent to him. When I was recording I didn't really notice that she had no knickers on. I was paying attention to her game and never directly focused on her lower half. Having watched it back there are about 9 seconds where you can see her vagina or bottom when she lifts her arms and her t shirt is pulled up.

I feel that he has over reacted and surely a simple message from him along the lines of " this makes me feel uncomfortable, please don't do it again" would have been suffice. I feel really hurt that he felt that this was necessary. There is no SS involvement with our family and I am not sure how to handle this when I speak to him tomorrow.

What do you think?

He's being an idiot.
Don't send any more photos etc though. he'll just be looking for the next reason to criticise you.

I'm a family solicitor and if a friend sent me that video I'd think they were a knob.
Especially on a bank holiday weekend.

Don't send him anything else ever again

Is he trying to cover his own arse (pun intended) so to speak. The only thing reasonable here is that he's worried about being convicted for child pornography.
Anyway, stop sending him anything.
I personally would be a bit uncomfortable to receive such of a relative or friends child but would in no way consider reporting and it's my hangup about privacy.

No wonder he's your ex. What a twat.

I would stop the photos and videos completely. Just stick to arranged contact times.

Stop with the photos and videos immediately. If he wants to see her he can physically do it.

I would tell him you're greatly concerned that he has shared the image with his friend for a start! What a hypocrite!

There is no such thing as 'reporting' to a solicitor. Hes being silly. Don't send texts to an ex.

You sent a video of a child to its father.
Father thinks its sexual , makes you wonder whats in his mind, but HE then forwards it to a third party.
If he was really concerned he'd have told the police or Social services or NSPCC. No he forwarded it to a pal.

Never send him anything again.
If he wants pictures or videos he can take them himself during contact.

For what it's worth I have pictures of my kids as toddlers in the bath, playing in the garden , on the beach, all semi nude. Im sure every parent has. The difference is only your ex has thought to send these pictures to friends.

No way would a solicitor give him the time of day never mind on a bank him (presume you are in England)

Tell him he is disgusting for thinking that about his own child and not to worry you won't bother his delicate sensibilities with any more photos or videos.

Keep the txt and video for future reference.

He is trying to wind you up ignorant man.

What an idiot. Seriously. My exH did stuff like this at first...reporting you to my solicitor! That's not even a thing. They think they're in some kind of crime drama when you first split with them and think they can 'build a case against you' which is nonsense. Thinks he can frighten you with a solicitor as if they're like God or something!

I wouldn't reply at all.

This isn't meant to goad, but, if the shoe was on the other foot, would you have a problem with it ?

If he sent you the same video clip, what would you think ? (Not getting into a discussion about visitation rights.)

Or similar genuinely innocent video clip ? For example dancing in front of the t.v. in just a t-shirt or even naked ?

He might have a genuine concern that the film could fall into the wrong hands.

Agree with the others. Just be careful because you have misused the word 'vagina' - that definately wouldn't have been seen. Ignore the threats.

Erm... surely by 'sharing' this video with a friend of his is a far worse crime (if that's what you can call it?) than you've committed? He's sharing videos of your child outside of your family? Just because the person is qualified as a solicitor really they hold no more moral or legal standing than anyone else in the community. FGS they could specialise in conveyancing! Really, it's no different than a qualified chef for example.. and no, they can't 'hold' videos or images of your child without your consent. Unless there is an ongoing case and this is used as evidence etc..

Last video/ picture he would be sent off me too! What a knob. I'd start as you mean to go on here she's only 3 you don't want another 15 years of his shit do you!

Just be careful because you have misused the word 'vagina'

Eh ?

Toearly
Who on earth would feel bad about a video of thier own child playing?
I have loads of videos and photos of my kids nude and semi nude. Only me and thier dad see them why on earth would we feel uncomfortable about it?

How on earth could it 'fall into the wrong hands'? HE is the one who claims he has passed it on to another person not op.
Pot and kettle?

Also please google GDPR rules.. the data protection rules are changing next year whereby we have a legal right to ask companies what data and personal information is being stored about us by companies. So, legitimately you would be able to ask the firm of solicitors what exactly they have on file. Your Ex is talking complete and utter bollocks. Complete tripe... even if he had sent it to a solicitor please remember a solicitor can bring no charges/allegations/make judgements etc about you. It's the same as if he had sent it to another qualified 'whatever'... jeez.. what a dick.

Do we really need, still, to learn the proper names of our ladyparts?

He is so concerned that a video of his chatting daughter would fall in the wrong hands that he passed it to a friend.

He's thick.

Yes vagina is the wrong word.

You don't report things to solicitors, he is insane!

top sending pictures and videos altogether. Keep contact to the bare minimum, don't engage at all.

He has blown it. His need to be an asshole to you is greater than his need to be a decent co parent.

Vagina: the passage babies come down

Vulva : the external bits including labia and clitoris.

I imagine all that shows on this video is the mons pubis. Not even the whole vulva. Certainly not the vagina!

Totally agree with stop sending him anything. If he wants things on a legal footing where anything you say may be used in evidence against you, then that means contact over necessity only. A shame you can't co parent in a friendly way, but his decision to be a twat.

You can get a solicitor to document the weather or the last time you brushed your teeth, it's irrelevant and he's telling you purely to make you feel threatened. Presumably the solicitor advised him that a concern would need to go to social services or the police, and that this obviously wasn't worth bothering with. Neither police or SS would be interested about this.

There's any number of solicitors on this thread including me. Tell him we have all documented that he's really too stupid to be allowed.