I sent ex DP a video where DD 3 is playing in a t shirt and nothing else. He has reported me to a family friend who is a solicitor.

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I left DP in January this year and moved five hours away. Since then I try and send photos and/ or videos daily for him to still feel a part of her life.

Today at bedtime DD began to play a game with her soft toys and was really engaged and chatty. I thought it was a sweet moment. I recorded about 45 seconds worth and sent it to him.

About four hours later he sent me a text telling me never to record her semi nude again and has reported me to a solicitor who has "documented" the incident.

I am not on any social media and the video was only and would only ever be sent to him. When I was recording I didn't really notice that she had no knickers on. I was paying attention to her game and never directly focused on her lower half. Having watched it back there are about 9 seconds where you can see her vagina or bottom when she lifts her arms and her t shirt is pulled up.

I feel that he has over reacted and surely a simple message from him along the lines of " this makes me feel uncomfortable, please don't do it again" would have been suffice. I feel really hurt that he felt that this was necessary. There is no SS involvement with our family and I am not sure how to handle this when I speak to him tomorrow.

What do you think?

I think your ex is insane and I'd stop sending him these little glimpses into her/your life

I think it won't go anywhere. There must be a dozen pics of me nude as a toddler. It's not sexual, it's natural. Don't worry, he's an arse hole.

He's being an arse, don't send him any more pictures or videos of your dd to him in future.

Agree with what catinthecorner said. Definitely stop sending him any further videos or anything you don't have to really, it's up to him to want to be in her life

Thank you for your quick responses and sorry for posting the thread twice!

It is just playing on my mind and I can't sleep. I am not expecting it to go anywhere with the solicitor. I just feel so annoyed and wasn't sure if I was the one who had things out of perspective.

What Clem said. Never send him anything again.

Don't speak to him tomorrow. I would stop contacting him entirely and simply text him that he has clearly made the decision that contact between you will now be on a legal basis. You were trying to include him in her life and he has been a complete arsehole. Would I fuck be sending him daily photos now. I wouldn't send him anything.

Bet he hasn't sent it to a solicitor - that's bullshit.

Solicitors 'documenting' family videos on a Bank Holiday Monday? Really?

How much effort does he make re contact with his daughter btw?

I would tell him he is being completely ridiculous it was just a cute moment in family life for her parents to share not for anyone else to see (which would only happen if he were to share the footage).

I would also tell him he clearly doesn't want to share in ordinary family life so you are going to stop sending him daily photos/videos.

He's obviously just trying to score points - is he trying to get custody?

Did he send the footage to the "friend" if so then he's worse than anyone in the situation and if not, then where's his proof of your actions (however innocent they were)

He's full of shit.

But I do agree with him. Recording or photographing children naked is naive at best.

The child wasn't naked.

Partially naked.

My ex PIL threatened with calling Social Services when I sent them the photo of my naked just born DC been weighed at the hospital - because it was pornographic . I made clear to them that it had been privately shared with them by email and not made public in social media but that was the last photo I ever sent to them. Their loss.

He's clearly just game playing and point scoring.I bet his friend was really happy to get dragged into that on a bank holiday!

Do you have to speak to him tomorrow? Just say as he's clearly so uncomfortable with pictures being privately shared then you'll stop doing that.

Jeez, definitely stop sending him photos - what an odd reaction from a parent. It makes me wonder what he's been watching to make sexual associations with a 3 year old.

Plus, as PPs have mentioned, it sounds like he's judging your parenting and is clearly keeping records of everything you send as 'evidence', so I'd be careful as to what you share with him going forward.

Make sure you keep a copy of the video so you can show it to your solicitor if it ever does become an issue, along with his communications to you about it.

There no such thing as "reporting" something to a solicitor. If he genuinely thought that the photo was pornographic then by sending it to anyone except the police would be a crime, so it's clearly just bs he's made up to upset you (and it's worked). He's trying to punish you for moving away, don't let him.

Don't send him any more clips

^what Angelfish said.

Don't let it worry you, he's is clearly out to upset you. It's (hopefully) backfired on him; stop sending him stuff. If he want sot see your child, let him make the effort.

How can some people agree with this !!??? What is wrong with you!?
I love my DS little bottom and would totally take pics and vids. I have loads. Call the bloody police

Also I'm sorry this has made you feel so bad. I hope it doesn't continue. I would treat him with the contempt he deserves tomorrow x

No more photos or videos then, and make sure any communication is considered and to the point.

A solicitor would put that on file but think that his reporting it is a complete nonsense.

Your ex is a prick.

You can't 'report' anything to a solicitor for goodness sake. What is he trying to do? Frighten you into thinking he will apply for residence? He's mad. Just never send him anything again. Ugh.