Follow up thread

[CantRememberHoliday]

I recently had a thread in 'sex' that I asked to be removed as I feel I gave a lot of information on it.

I wanted to start this thread so it could be a little less outing and so people who had supported me weren't 'ghosted'

For people who didn't read the previous thread:
I was raped 5 weeks ago whilst on holiday and I've just got into uni (bit of a strange combo )

I'd like to thank everyone for the support they've given me! Sometimes, at 18, I feel like an adult and other times I just feel so out of my depth.

Well done! Great results!

Well done, that's great and a good indicator that you are getting things on an even keel. I know it's inevitable at your age, but you really don't have to rush through life, friends, relationships and stuff. Just enjoy a little and relax.

Thank you! I feel like I’m coming through the hardest part somewhat and getting things together again. The first term of uni was a bit of a blur and I found it hard to keep on top of everything. This term has been much better and I’ve found a good balance between studying and having fun. I have the most amazing friends/flatmates in the world that have put up with me getting upset and supported me through everything and I don’t speak to my old friends anymore.

Well done! You can do this. You are proving it with each step you take. Best advice I was ever given when I was not much older than you are now was “Get sad or get angry, but don’t get bitter coz that will destroy you from the inside”. It’s gotten me through a lot of stuff over the years.

KOKO

Thank you for the kind words and advice everyone

Some things are so hard
I’ve been chatting to a lad who lives in the village nearby to uni but haven’t met up for a date as I’m home for Easter. Turns out we have a mutual acquaintance/friend and his friend told him, whilst at the pub last night, lots of horrible things about me including that everyone on the campus knows me and I’m a hoe I’d brush that off but I can tell the lad I’ve been speaking to wasn’t happy that I was slightly annoyed/upset by it. He’s told me to calm down and now gone off to bed. It’s ruined, isn’t it?

Why do I have to let stupid things upset me? It’s just the fact I haven’t done anything sexual at all and certainly not with anyone at uni!! People know me because I’m sociable and I try so hard to be nice to everyone. I thought I’d found a nice lad (I obviously don’t know him too well as we haven’t met up) but I feel like that’s ruined now

That lad sounds unpleasant, I would be upset by it OP. Lots of people would.

Let him go off to bed. He can huff off to bed til heart's content, idiot. I wouldn't be interested in any post easter dates that's for sure.

He did say that it didn’t matter and he didn’t care either way. But I care because I genuinely do my best to make people happy and I thought most people would have positive things to say about me. It just seems like he can’t undsrstand why it is upsetting me.

I think it stems from the fact that my acquaintance/his friend (the and person that was saying nasty things) tried to get me to sleep with him quite a few times and I rejected him. I may be wrong but I thought he might have been angry, not that I’m anything special to be upset over

I met him and wasted my time as he ghosted me after 3 meet ups

I don’t think many people will follow this thread anymore but just want to say I passed my second set of exams! With 76% being my lowest module score and 87% my highest

And I’ve met the best friends ever at university

Aw that’s so wonderful, glad things are getting back on track for you!

Ignore what people say about you, it’s hard but that’s what I’ve trained myself to do now , all I care about are the opinions of my nearest and dearest .

Well done again! Xxx

Well you're obviously one of life's winners OP.

You've had a hard time and come through with flying colours. Congratulations!

Thank you so much, both of you! xx

Oh OP I'm so pleased for you.
I can't believe it was so long ago you first posted.
I hope you block those vile 'friends' now you have something else.
Well done on passing.
You sound so lovely.
So keep going and stay strong.

Thank you!
I don’t speak to my old friends anymore as I have all the real friends I need at university. It does mean I don’t have a lot of different things to do at home but I’m just focusing on relaxing and taking some time before I start my next year

Just wanted to update the thread although I’m not sure if anyone will still read this.

I’m currently in my second year of uni and feeling much happier in myself. I have pets here with me which help with any anxiety/feelings of loneliness and my friends say they’ve noticed a massive difference in me. I no longer associate myself with the ‘friends’ I had at home and I’m also in my first relationship.

I told my boyfriend what happened to me on that holiday and it was the right decision. He always asks permission before trying anything new and respects me (can read my facial expressions perfectly too) yet doesn’t make me feel broken/like a victim all the time.
It’s early days, we’ve been together officially for a month but it took 6 months before that to become anything, and we’re taking it pretty slow but I feel like I’ve overcome a lot.

It sounds like you are doing really well- good luck for the future!