Is he trying to get rid of me & I'm making a fool of myself?

[Artemisi]

I met this guy I really hit it off with. I just met him out of the blue, in a bookstore. We got talking and we ended up talking for hours right there and then. He cajoled me into going out for a coffee with him. It was amazing. He asked for my number, we texted back and forth, and he asked me to let him know when I’m next free. I told him Friday. He texted back immediately “that should be great. What sort of time do you have in mind?” I replied that I’m free on Friday from 2pm. That was Tuesday. Since then he’s not been in touch.

Was he just pretending to be interested in me? (I’m kinda insecure).

So now he's replied and actually suggested a time and place.

Stop contacting him now! This is so cringe! Seriously OP, follow your instincts. You believed that you shouldn't have to chase around after him, but allowed yourself to be talked out if it.

LOL at my x-post fail! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Great. Have a lovely time!

Hurrah!

You're obviously a lovely person and he thinks so too. I say this with nothing but kindness but just relax a bit. If you like each other it will happen. But overanalysing every text right down to whether he said should, would or could will stress you both so much that there will be no energy left to just enjoy the whole thing. Getting to know someone who turns out to be really special is a magical time and it would be a shame to lose out on that just by stressing about slights that aren't there.

Shouts from the rooftops I was wrong. He did reply. Good. Have a great time.

Hope you have a good time!!

Ah this was entertaining on my lunch break.

Wow - the knots we get ourselves into!

PLEASE tell us how it goes!!!

Also the poster who said that if he texted you would say "nah sorry - busy now" then BLOCK : amazing, that really made me laugh! You must have the willpower of...someone very stubborn

It's my natural personality to overthink everything, create worst case scenarios and even fear I'm somehow 'not good enough.'

actually liking somebody like this makes me feel super vulnerable. I'm fine and not stressed at all when I'm feeling just so-so or somewhat apathetic about a guy

I'd feel the same and wouldn't have wanted to send the chase up text, but probably would have.

Give him this one chance, but any further signs of flakiness and ditch him.

Ah bless ya - I am exactly the same! Once a guy even travelled overseas to see me for the weekend and yet still I was convinced that he was going to show up and think "what a let down".

What are your plans with him???

Artemisi I told you he would be in touch today, have a lovely time

Thank God for that

I know how hard it is and opening yourself up to someone this way of course leaves you vulnerable. But it also leaves you open to something amazing. And this could be it. I really hope it is. Keep us posted, won't you? I feel weirdly vested in this and I really want it to work out for you. I think the romantic in me loves the idea of you meeting in a book store 😍

Well done OP!!!! have a lovely time.

What a palaver over one text!

Have a lovely time.

Ennit - it's sooooooooo "notting hill", dahlings. Or "black books"!!

I have tied myself up in knots on many occasions about whether to double text or not.

So glad you bit the bullet OP! Have a lovely time and keep us updated

We shall be waiting for an update......💞💋

It was advice for the OP, not necessarily what I would do.

If I was angsting as the OP it is what I would do for the following reasons;

The angsting is not normal. It either happens because I'm not ready to be dating or the guy is doing something that is making me anxious.

The being busy then blocking would be because I don't know him, don't owe him an explanation and because I'd need to have my own headspace without dealing with more texts to provoke anxiety.

With the op I think she's not ready to be dating TBH. If you do dating when you are insecure like this then you are likely to end up in a bad relationship.

If I'd had this same conversation I would have followed up with 'what would you like to do?' without giving it a second thought. There wouldn't be a thread about it or any angsting.

Thank goodness! 👍

I agree - one more text.

If he replies - enjoy your date.

If he doesn't - then onwards and upwards.

And for what it's worth, when someone is in and is in 100% you will know.