Is he trying to get rid of me & I'm making a fool of myself?

[Artemisi]

I met this guy I really hit it off with. I just met him out of the blue, in a bookstore. We got talking and we ended up talking for hours right there and then. He cajoled me into going out for a coffee with him. It was amazing. He asked for my number, we texted back and forth, and he asked me to let him know when I’m next free. I told him Friday. He texted back immediately “that should be great. What sort of time do you have in mind?” I replied that I’m free on Friday from 2pm. That was Tuesday. Since then he’s not been in touch.

Was he just pretending to be interested in me? (I’m kinda insecure).

I have an iPhone and had problems lately with not receiving texts , as sometimes they go through ' messenger ' when I had no data I didn't receive replies from friends with IPhones. I was quite upset for a week that people didn't reply to my texts. Then me and DP worked it out. So , problems with texts fi happen .

Had first date with a guy just before Christmas. It was fun. But it was the run up to Christmas, work was busy, and we decided to hold off meeting again until between Christmas and New Year, earmarked a day and decided we'd firm up plans nearer the time. The day dawned and I had had a shitty Christmas with my angst-laden family and just wanted to go back to my flat and lock the door. The night before we were due to meet I was half dreading him texting about it but then he didn't. So I decided not to bother either. I thought fuck it I can't be arsed, he's clearly not interested. Dick.

Got back into work from my Christmas break and he'd sent me an email asking if everything was ok and saying sorry we'd not met up and did I want to do it another time.

Six years in we're married and have two kids. He'd texted me (he showed me it in the thread when we did finally meet for a second date and I was mocking him for being flakey) but for some reason the network didn't work or my phone didn't receive it.

What have you got to lose? One text. And if he doesn't reply, fuck it, delete him and move on. Good luck!

My Dp lost a client due to an undelivered text. She had texted to say could he make sure he was at her place by a certain time (I don't know why/what) he didn't receive it so didn't arrive. She texted him later that morning to tell him she didn't want him working for her (I wasn't sorry but that's a whole other thread). He was perplexed but hey ho. A few days later the original text arrived and he thought she wanted him back (I was totally miffed about thar) and he called her to see what she wanted done.

Of course she had no idea what he was on about until it transpired the it was the original text that had somehow got lost in the ether.

Text/call him you've got nothing to lose.

Life's too short to play games. Shit happens. Text him!

TBH often or not especially on what's app I write a text out get distracted and forgot to press send. Could be a whole host of reasons like iPhone not delivering messages which has happened with ex and me when sorting stuff out for DS. One text won't hurt to confirm if he doesn't reply just delete his number

Why don't you stop playing games and text him.

What if he lost his phone/ dropped it down the toilet and Lost your number. He could be waiting for your text ??

I'm another saying text him.
For whatever reason he may of replied but the text didn't send, you didn't receive etc etc. At least throw it out there one more time and if he doesn't reply again, cut your losses. You have nothing to lose. What's the likelihood of you bumping into him again?

Was it whatsapp or regular text?

I'm with Penelope, don't text its so desperate!

The text has not gone missing ffs

So many posters clutching at straws as usual. It's not their dignity on the line

I'd also text just once more.

I do not understand all this game playing nonsense.

Yes, some people are dicks. If that is the case, he won't reply. Or he will, you'll go out, and you'll have plenty of opportunities to discover that he is a dick.

But he might not be a dick. My texts don't always get sent/received either. Which means I don't always receive them from other people.

I was in this situation but it was HIS message that didn't get received by me. I thought he hadn't replied. He thought the ball was in my court and I hadn't replied.

After a few days he contacted me to ask why I hadn't replied and we realised I'd not got his last message.

Now married to him with 3 children.

It's ALWAYS worth a follow up text to check he got the message

Haven't you already text him twice? Once to say 2pm and once to confirm? If you had I wouldn't text again. Also was it a text or a WhatsApp so you can see if it's been delivered and read?
Who knows why he hasn't replied, but if it's meant to be he will get in contact.

Don't bother texting him, if he wants to meet up he will be in touch - if not then you had a lovely time and move on.

I'd rather not remind soNeone about me as at early stages theeey should not Need to b

Just text him something like (pleAse. Mn make my words sound better) just checking if we meeting today . Dont worry if you busy as ive a female. friend who asking to see me hence why checking we not planned something. Was lovely to meet you and like to see you again if you like to. See im rubblish at words. Tryingto makeit sound like op has plans butseeing him is more important as she enjoyed his company.

Id only do the one more text then forget him, move on.

I wouldn't text him - if he'd wanted to meet up today he'd of text with a time/place.

He wanted Thursday. When you suggested Friday he text back "that should be great" not "would" be great? I don't think he had any intention of meeting up today.

He's most likely one of those blokes that texts out of the blue.

Maybe I'm wrong and he'll text you today?

"Hi! Just checking we are still on for today? If so, how about we meet at x place at 3pm?"

I would go there anyway, take a book, see if he turns up!

I would text one more time. So I could move on quicker. I believe whenever possible to seek closure which could prevent regret at a later date.

I'd text hi:

'Oh hi! It's was lovely meeting you the other day. Are we still going to meet today? It's just that if we're not, I'd like to make other plans in advance'. This way he knows you're not waiting around for him but you're also a thoughtful polite person.

As a PP said just text as if to a friend. A cheery "are we still on for tomorrow?" is not stalking FGS!

Do you think guys worry about appearing over keen? Of course not, because they are expected to do the running.

Be modern! Be honest about what you want and direct about it.

Oh well here goes....im a grown woman who is really upset at the way my mother treats me differently to my older sister. She visits my sis 3 or 4 times a week ( which she has no problem telling me ) Me on the other hand have not had a visit for 14 months!!...my sis asked me to have my mum for Christmas this year. I have point blank refused because the way I see it....if she doesn't know were I live all year round why should she come for Christmas!! I know my sister has spoken to mum about her lack of visiting me but yet nothing has changed!! It's got to the point were I don't really care anymore ( well I must care I suppose or else I wouldn't be here ) . I know I should probably speak to mum myself but I know once I start it will lead to a row and both of us crying and I don't want that

Text him or you will never know and we will never know

I would text him today to ask if he's ok for later, but assume that you won't hear back or that he bails. Then it's a pleasant surprise if you do get a positive reply. But I'd certainly be going into it feeling wary and I'd be on alert for further signs of fuckwittery.
Constant vigilance!
I hope you get the outcome you want OP

I'd simply wait. If he texts simply reply 'oh sorry, have made other plans now!' Then block.

He's either not interested or a bit flakey and does things at the last minute.