Is he trying to get rid of me & I'm making a fool of myself?

[Artemisi]

I met this guy I really hit it off with. I just met him out of the blue, in a bookstore. We got talking and we ended up talking for hours right there and then. He cajoled me into going out for a coffee with him. It was amazing. He asked for my number, we texted back and forth, and he asked me to let him know when I’m next free. I told him Friday. He texted back immediately “that should be great. What sort of time do you have in mind?” I replied that I’m free on Friday from 2pm. That was Tuesday. Since then he’s not been in touch.

Was he just pretending to be interested in me? (I’m kinda insecure).

Hmm. I think he's either playing games or he's met someone else.

I'd text him. I did the same arsily when a guy I was supposed to be going to a Comedy club with that night hadn't text me any of the bloody details. I needed to know, so I text. He text back with a baffled reply saying he'd not heard anything from me but he didn't want to waste the tickets so was on his way by himself and hoping I might show! That was three years ago and he's now my DP so I'm glad I did text and didn't just not say anything out of pride.

A few friends had said their messages had gone 'ignored' by me.

I'm telling you that phone was a piece of shit and loads of texts went missing. I'm not saying it's a common occurance but it does happen. And aside from that, your time is valuable. Personally I like a definitive answer on these things.

Not really stalking but, yeah, just leave it. Let him work a bit!
And if he texts at the last minute to meet up as if he's waited for another offer I'd start playing then and say that you made another plan because you didn't hear from him (all light and breezy, like).
He can't just think you're at his beck and call!
Having said all that, I hope he texts you today and brings you some of these

Text him

Well tomorrow is Friday, expect a text asking where to meet and what time.

Yep. Sorry I'm in Oz. and forgot what day it is here too Well, in that case I think I'd be 'busy'. It's good to set the tone for the future too.

I have had messages on my phone arrive much later, pictures arrive weeks after being sent. He might be thinking you haven't replied to him or he could have lost his phone, does he have any other way to contact you?

I don't like the idea of chasing him either but you could ask him if he got yout last text on ....time and place. If you get no reply he has changed his mind which seems odd in the space of him asking if you can meet up.

Ask him if it's a coffee or food you are meeting for??

My advice to you would be the same as penelopeflintstone.
If it was me in this situation however, I would definitely text

I think its perfectly reasonable for you to send one last text asking him if he's still on -- anyone with any gumption or self-respect would want to take control in planning their weekend.

However if he doesn't reply to that within a couple of hours I'd write it off and if he keeps you hanging for hours or days and then responds I'd still write it off.

Ha ha! Don'tpokethebear!! Maybe me too!!

I'd text him. Texts aren't foolproof. It could be he's replied and you haven't got it or maybe he didn't get your text

I'd give it one more casual text and if no reply then delete his number

I'd text once more too. Really not stalking!

Text him! There's no harm being a bit proactive.

This is just ridiculous now, and feels quite disrespectful

Eh?!! What's disrespectful?

I would message him again.

"Hey, hope your week went well! Are you still up doing something tomorrow ?"

What? Who is being direspectful?

Has he messaged back something disrespectful OP?

Or are you saying him continuing to not reply is disrespectful?

If it were a new female friend you'd met in this way, wouldn't you text, without even thinking about it?

My take on this is that I text if I want to text, because texting will not put off a man who really likes me, and if he doesn't then I've lost nothing anyway. But then my experience is coloured by having lost out on a couple of nice guys because they were shy and communication went wrong. Not all men are the same.

I reckon, treat any possible lovers like you would a friend, and then at least if they are not interested you know it wasn't your fault. But everyone's experience/opinion on this is different. I don't seem to do any better or any worse than anyone else

He should have replied. But he hasn't. I'd be tempted to text in your position but why should you. It's up to him to make the next move. You've suggested a time and he hasn't got back. His loss I'd say.

I agree with posters advising you not to text. He knows that he's being cowardly so you have no reason to feel foolish as it stands. You were having a conversation and then he bailed on it. So in no way are you foolish. Don't give him a second opportunity to be cowardly. leave it.

Id text sometimes it's worth giving people the benefit of the doubt especially with texts it's not like they are a completely reliable form of communication

Get your big girl knickers on and just message him!