#3 He IS having an affair

[worldupsidedown]

Ok, here we go for round #3 in which we know DH is having an affair, and does not give a flying fuckof 25 years inc 19 years of marriage or respect for his LW and DD and now we try to establish what the hell thinks he's going to do next and hopefully learn about the YOWHLTF while trying to keep a calm and dignified posture

Thinking of you world

Stay strong. You can do this. Let him talk. He'll hang himself sooner or later

Hope things went ok for you OP.

If you have decided to give it another go with him then that's FINE - it's your life, no one elses. There will be people on here telling you to LTB but only you will know what's right for you.

Don't be embarrassed, have courage that you will make the correct decision for you, even if it's just for now.

Thinking of you

Hope you are ok xx

Signing in to new fred x

Hope you are ok this morning World xx

Hope all ok World

Teabay says everything I want to say.

💐

I hope you are ok. Teababy has summed things up perfectly.

Thinking of you World. Hope you're o

Well said Teabag. Waves of love to you world.

Deep breath

We here do I start? My head was exhausted, that's why I didn't post

Hope you got the answers you were looking for.

You don't have to say antything world. Just know we are here if you need us. Hope you are ok x

I hope you are ok.

^This.
Also hope you managed to get some sleep.

You don't have to say anything, if you don't want to, if it's not helpful for you.
You don't owe posters here anything.
Take care of yourself.

☕ coffee. Back to bed🙂
The first chat is the most emotionally and phsically exhausting. I somehow after that felt quite numb and immune to more info like he couldnt shock/hurt me any further... found my rage after that...

Cross posted. ^This meant for daily post.
Take care world.

Mama is right. You don't have to post at all unless you think it will help you.

I am so angry for you, i can't believe that after 20 years of marriage, he has soittle respect for you that he treats you so coldly!

You have this world, you are so strong, nevef doubt your ability to get through this and out the other side, because you absolutely will. You are setting an amazing example to your daughter by not just letting him get away with this and letting him walk all over you

You are doing so well. But please try to encourage your daughter to respect her dad and still have a relationship with him. You've mentioned the last two years and deep down perhaps you knew things weren't right and she may have picked up on that too.

In my experience divorce is like a bereavement and I say that as someone who ended my marriage and wanted a divorce.

You will go through all the stages of anger, despair, a deep sense of loss, grieving for what you have lost and what your future would have been like etc.

It's horrific trying to be civil on the same household and ultimately it destroys you as the tension is unbearable. I'd encourage him to leave ASAP.

Give yourself space to process. Echo the above. Only post if it helps you. Take care.