My fiance won't communicate, storms off

[RoboGirl]

I'm planning on getting married next June, but I'm worried about this behaviour.

My fiance has a terrible temper, and when he gets in any way upset (e.g. if I ask him to do the dishes or suggest that perhaps he could stop sulking over something), he will fly into a rage and storm out of the house. He has just done this at my soon-to-be inlaws house, leaving me here with his family. I am so humiliated to have them know that I am treated like that. It's so awful having to sit here and explain when they ask "where's fiance?", having to say that he stormed out and left me here.

He got back and has refused to talk to me. I was in floods of tears. I think his family convinced him to come and talk to me, but it was an exercise in threat and humiliation. He kept raising his voice, which I found very humiliating in front of his family. Then he threatens to walk off every few seconds. So we can't have a conversation/I can't tell him how I'm feeling because he's constantly standing at the door, and as soon as I say anything trying to stand up for myself (like I don't deserve to be treated like this), he storms off again, leaving me here on my own.

I have asked him to get counselling to control his temper, but he refuses to admit that he has a problem. I find his constant threats to walk off mean that we can't communicate. It is very bullying and threatening.

I just feel so humiliated. I'm sat here in the bedroom of his family's house unable to go anywhere because he is downstairs with them laughing away, and I don't want him to make another scene in front of them.

Don't marry him. I did. I regret it.

Reading the post about someone cherishing you without trampling on your feelings made me well up too .

Don't marry him ,
find a bloke who will make you laugh and feel loved not humiliated !
hes a jerk

I hope you don't have children already :-( He isn't going to be a good husband or father. Run.

A leopard doesn't change his spots, this is something deep rooted in his personality, it doesn't sound to me like counselling would work.

When I've lost my temper with my wife, I've always been in tears later and apologised profusely, because I really did love her, this would be reciprocated , (sadly not so much this last year, we've separated, still love each other, just not in love any more) But seriously if he was upset, he would tell you, be able to calm down, and talk about things reasonably.

Being open, honest, and calm are the bedrock of a long term relationship, yes there are times when folks don't get on, but you shouldn't have to be dealing with a stroppy anxious teenager all the time, and be in fear of bringing up issues that need discussing.

If he has any love or respect for you, he should recognise this has driven you away and needs to sort out his anxiety and anger issues big time.

But seriously I agree with all the other posters here, I'd let him go and you'll one day find the guy that really will care for you, make you feel safe, loved and special all the time.