DW's gone away for a few nights...

[HoppyDaddy]

... and I'm glad.

We had the biggest bust up of our relationship at the weekend. It nearly came to me being thrown out.

Time apart will give us time to miss each other again.

There, that's better.

Your wife reminds me of myself in an old relationship. Basically, in my eyes, he was absolutely magnetic and I was besotted with him and had constant thoughts that I would lose him to someone else or he would cheat on me. I was overly jealous and paranoid..BUT... he never knew that because for all the world I was this amazing chilled-out chick who would tell him to go out with his mates, stay over, go on lads weekends - I was missus liberal and accomodating. IT WAS ALL AN ACT OF COURSE!! It was almost as if I was pushing him away in a bid to pre-empt him doing something and me not knowing - to take away the pain of waiting for him to do it to me IYSWIM? It was a way of protecting myself from the suprise of being hurt. It was ridiculous and made no sense whatsoever but I think this maybe your wife's position also. I also used to talk to my ex about him fancying other people as if I was totally cool about it. I even used to give him a good seeing to before he went for a night out so he wouldn't get off with anyone else! Totally insanity!

I think that you having a woman around has kind of made your wife's mask of bravado slip as she may feel her self-perpetuated prophecy is coming true. (though it's not).

I know you're married but I'm not sure it's such a healthy relationship - I'm also not sure she can change whilst you're together - and oh, her stunning friend? That's a ruse to see if you rise to the bait also. (and prove your undying love etc)

Been there. Done that!! Good luck tho, hope it works out.

Blimey, minkybiscuit, that's what I was thinking.

Not sure much can be done so I'll just carry on being mr wonderful!

Have read the thread and you know what?

I don't think HD would be getting advice like "It's her hormones" and "Take her out for dinner" if HD was a woman and his DW was the DH.

And actually, I would punish her. She's behaved appallingly!

sexism cuts both ways, and HD is getting a raw deal.

colditz, thanks for your defence .

I reckon it's one of the downsides to having a firey wife. The benefits do outweigh it, though.

i'm with you colditz. applies to both sides.