DW's gone away for a few nights...

[HoppyDaddy]

... and I'm glad.

We had the biggest bust up of our relationship at the weekend. It nearly came to me being thrown out.

Time apart will give us time to miss each other again.

There, that's better.

np, i invited her to share takeaway with us. One time she refused, this time she accepted.

I did say in OP that I was silly and naive to actually believe the words DW has been telling me for the last month or so.

np, you're not funny.

no you are not being silly and naive

you are being a man

The End

Ahh, it's a woman's feminine wiles at work! You were supposed to know to do the opposite of what she said was ok. Guess you wont fall for that stunt again HD!

see, i don;t get this 'testing' thing..if you are worried or anxious about your DP, why not just have a conversation, rather than set up a trap for them? or am i being naive ?

Fimbo, the thing is that since the day I met her she's always prided herself in "being straight and not saying what i dont mean".

Apparently that was a lie, too.

was it the time of the month?

[sexist emoticon]

Aha. Sounds like she was trying to walk the 'reasonable' talk, but couldn't quite hack it.
Don't take everything you're always offered is a good maxim.

Anyway, I don't think you sound at all suspicious.

And presumably the CM won't be joining you tonight and tomorrow night for a dvd viewing of, say, Betty Blue?

If so, this is your moment to Think Again

Fio, she doesnt set traps either, allegedly.

The way she handled it all is what made me so angry.

Agree with Lulumama my relationship is to important to play games with. Openess and honesty are the best policys

Hoppy--- your DW has had some sort of lapse of confidence in the relationship, and was not sure how to broach it,so went about it , IMO, the wrong way..it is how you deal with it and move on from it now that is important

im not trying to be funny

OO might be right, actually

ACTUALLY i think what happened was, she was having a bad day about something completely unconnected with all of this but decided to blow her top at this cos it was the first thing that popped in her head

and im serious

cos that what i do

lulumama, the thing is that recently she's been feeling really good about herself. She's going to the gym and is feeling and looking much sexier and more energetic. I'm always telling her how great she is, how sexy she is, how much i love her. She asked "how can i compete with a 22 yr old", I said "there IS no comparison, you are way out of her league".

The whole thing made me so gutted and unhappy as I really didn't see it coming.

I go loop the farkin loop

dh quivers and hides and gets worried if I ask him any questions

what do you want for dinner?
erm what do you want?

do you like these shoes?
erm do you?

OO's message crossed my mind...but i thought i wouldn't blow my feminist credentials.

presumably she was thinking that she was about to go away for a few days, leaving you Alone, was maybe in a bad or insecure (possibly hormonally fuelled) mood and just lost all her sensible genes for a moment?

She doesn't scare me, at all, although she scares lots of other people.

She shouts and bawls and I shout back.

i agree..i don't like it either,i'd be very cross & hurt tbh.

same here olive

"what the fuck is that fucking spoon doing int he fucking knife drawer???????? scream!!!!!!"

or i ask accusing stuff to get a reaction

"did you eat the last biscuit? DID YOU?"

HD, i feel sorry for your cm

whered she go anyway hd?

So what's happened in the last month HD? Has something changed?

FWIW I think she's being childish and your response was entirely justified

Lullabyloo, you'd be hurt with me?

np, she's on 3 nights out after work. It made sense for her to stay at hotel / mates than come home everynight.

np, when DW does the "why are all the fucking pots in the wrong fucking place AGAIN, you are fucking useless". I reply "cos your sister did the washing up last, LOVE!".

That always makes her angry