DW's gone away for a few nights...

[HoppyDaddy]

... and I'm glad.

We had the biggest bust up of our relationship at the weekend. It nearly came to me being thrown out.

Time apart will give us time to miss each other again.

There, that's better.

How long has the childminder been working for you?

It does sound like a case of envy or loss of self-esteem etc from what you've said.

TBH it sounds like she feels a bit insecure in herself. HD, you think she is stunning - but does she feel that way her self. Is her self esteem low?

"It's damaging & eats away at you until you actually feel like doing something to justify all the allegations".

I would certainly agree with this above comment made by Lullabyeloo.

cm been working for us for a couple of months. They both get on well, chat for ages. cm isn't funny, doesnt give me longing looks or anything.

pill is mini pill, she's already seeing doc about it.

Oops many crossed posts there.

Oh yes, testing you and stirring it all up so that you and your DW will split up and they can pounce on you.

I think the two of you do need to go out together. You both seem to go out with friends, and be generous with each other about time to do that - all these hotels and her 3 day stay-away etc, which is good. But what about you two? I agree - don't send her to Paris on her own, book CM or a relative overnight and go together. You can do loads and loads in Paris on a one-nighter.

God, if my DP did that I would never row with him again, ever, ever, ever.

Not until next time, anyway.

Not that I seriously contemplated it, but I did think "I may as well be shagging the cm, if she wont believe otherwise and will chuck me out too".

I was also going to add that heavy and or prolonged bleeding can be caused by fibroids.

hd -'By the way, DW is stunning, the most striking and beautiful woman I have ever seen. She seems to stand out, while trying not to.'
aawww!
wish my dh would piss off.

kittypants, dw refuses to believe it but when I first saw her I actually walked into a pillar because I was too busy going "WOW, Who's THAT?" to myself.

oh HD, don't punish her.

It's a row - they happen and then you sit down and chat and move on.

It does sound like both of you desperately try and maintain your independence whilst trying to have a relationship - it's a hard balance, I know, and it does rely on a lot of trust and I can see you feel that a bit of that has been eroded.

Book a nice restaurant, surprise her and take her out and have a chat. I bet she feels crap about the whole thing.

HD you and dw seem to spend quite a lot of time contemplating on the other shagging other people

or "i might as well be shagging the cm"

very odd and unhealthy

She just called me. We had a lovely little chat about nothing in particular.

I also know that she's frustrated by being the main bread winner and losing out on time with dd. I'm working on that, too.

np, i don't want to shag the cm. It was one of those may as well be hung for a sheep as a lamb moments. Nothing more.

aaawwww hd!!!!show her this thread!!!i thought my dh was being sweet the other day as he said hello flower as he walked through door(for him thats nice!)but it was at the new pot plant i put on doorstep.

yes i realise that HD

but its still odd

Just had a couple of texts. All is well, so far.

I'm on the lookout for tests now. As I didn't have enough to look out for!

np, maybe yes. Maybe I'm in need of growing up.

np - I don't think that's necessarily odd. Especially between a couple who know that they can joke about it without it meaning anything.

if i said that to my dh he would be hurt. but then hes a sensitive soul.

np, we've always made those kinds of jokes. Usually just to mess around. We've always been very open about problems, able to talk about anything and everything. Jokes are just that, jokes.

This really was different on every level.

Looks like Cod missed me spilling my news. Will she ever recover?

HD - ever so glad it's sorted out so far and you are a happier bunny.

Women! women! Can't live with them. Can't live with them.

phew, just read the thread.
Just a random thought here, don't have many nowadays.
Did this start a while ago, has your DW started going to the gym as she feels insecure and the CM thing is just another symptom??? eh ?
Im away back to sleep now.