Anyone left their DP/DH knowing it was for the best but still being in love with them?

[Ifonlyhewould]

How did you get through it? Was it really for the best?

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no just texting but it still hurts like helll

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says me but why text her. i cant trust him again

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i can forgive but i'll never trust him so whats the point.

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our marriage has been rocky this year and fro a while before that but the past 5-6 weeks have been the best. he started texting her in jan. been hard his business partner ran off with loads of money had to borrow money left right and centre still might lose house. but no excuse to text her. just feel sick and in so much pain.

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melminx I'm so sorry to hear this after we 'chatted' last week on my thread and things seemed to be getting so much better for you.

Don't make any rash decisions. Give yourself time to think. Do you want to start another thread, or CAT me, and we'll do everything we can to help?

I know what you're going through and it's truly awful. But stay strong. You will get through this. Whatever you decide.

IOHW how are you doing today?

xx

started new thread i think cant see from crying

I am so sorry melminx. i think the advice you have had from everyone else is good. Don't do anything rash, just take some time out to think things through. Thinking of you and sending you a huge hug! x

Hi MLS

I am ok. thank you for asking. I'm feeling a bit like i would like to just run away and hide in a corner for a while, just me and my brain! But i will be ok. I know where i'm heading.
How are you? X

I'm glad you're ok. I'd like to run away too though! I'm doing ok. Dh is doing everything he can to reassure me at the moment so I can't ask for any more! (Just yet )

thanks iohw just cant stop crying want to crawl away

Bless you i am so pleased things are working out for you, i love to read your posts, they really give me hope, not in the way of my relationship but as a person, you exude so much strength and compassion and through all of this you have maintained such dignity. The world should have more MLS's [smie]

Don't crawl away melminx, we are here for you. We will see you through. You can come out of this the other side and be stronger and happier, hard to believe right now i know but it can be done. It's a case of being honest with yourself about what you want. If you want your husband and your marriage then, it will take great strength on your part, but you can do it.
Has this situation gone any further than texting>

that should have been a MLS

no it hasnt

i want him but i want trust and honesty too why isnt he calling to beg forgiveness only got his word his told her to get lost

will pop over to your thread. MLS is posting there too x

hello ioew just to send you some more positive vibes to help you on your way to a better life.keep strong and resolute in what you want to do.

Awh thank you mummylin
i'm doing ok, still determined and looking forward!! I opened another bank account yesterday in hope of snaffleing and squirreling some of the housekeeping. Theres not much else i can do at the moment so it feels good to be doing something positive.

Just wanted to pop in this aft and check how you doing iohw. Can't keep up with all these OP'S am truly at how many women are suffering in similair circumstances. So much so have started an OP to vent my . Keep you will get there. I know it may not seem so but you in a good place in that you have made your decision and as you have said yourself it's onwards and upwards.

Hi lilyloo

I totally agree re the other threads. So amny women with so much in common! And have you noticed too, that however different our situations are we are experiencing the same feelings.

Thank you for thinking of me. I'm feeling a lot calmer within (that might be the pills ) i feel quite detatched from my situation actually, well from him anyway, which is helping, i don't feel quite as threatened by him now i know i'm making plans for my own future. He suddenly seems like quite an insignificant man.

Well done you esp on that last sentence, pills or not you are being so very brave . Good idea on the bank account. It must be quite odd in that you have made this life changing decision yet everything on the outside is relatively 'normal'.