Anyone left their DP/DH knowing it was for the best but still being in love with them?

[Ifonlyhewould]

How did you get through it? Was it really for the best?

Yes, it does feel odd. I feel like a proper grown up i'm that used to doing as i'm told of having him make all the decisions it feels good to be doing something for myself.

How are you doing/feeling?

IOHW Your on the start of a path to a better place. I'm fine thanks for asking, my situation different now as the anger/ hurt etc pretty much gone so i have begun to see why it happened and what we can change. As they say hindsight is a wonderful thing. x

Thats good news lilyloo. Yes hindsight is wonderful but so is the capacity to be able to forgive and move on. It takes a very special person xx

IOHW - am just catching up on your thread and wanted to say well done for opening your own bank account. Small steps to independence and imagining a life you control but steps are what get us places

Thank you Cashandcarry sounds a bit naff but ive started keeping a journal of my feelings too, just 'downloading' everything thats going on in my head as well as in my life does actually help. I'm sleeping better too. I'm feeling a real change in myself

that's great iohw! (whenever i type iohw i think of isle of wight for some reason...)

so glad you're getting the ball rolling.

iohw. im so pleased that you are feeling better in yourself. keep smiling x

Thank uou warthog and melminx

Im even thinking of giving ebay a try and selling some stuff. It would all help the 'running away' fund.

How are you today melminx?

You're being so positive IOHW - you should be dead proud of yourself

You'll have to let us know how the ebay thing goes. I've got tons of junk I want to get rid of but ebay frightens me!

I think the journal thing is a great idea. Really helps to put your thoughts in perspective. If I was organised enough, I would do that but tend to use MN to sort out the jumble in my head

Morning IOHW Great idea for 'running away' fund. You sound as if you are getting really organised. How are things with him is it still the same or has he noticed you getting stronger ?

iohw ebay is great for getting rid of stuff i did a mega clear out couple yrs back and with what i made we took kids and mum off to euro disney!

not sure today on how i feel still mixed up !

ebay scares the pants off me too cashandcarry but needs must might 'accidently' slip his record collection on too, just to see what happens

Hi lilyloo, i'm doing my best to keep out of his way, i feel different and i don't really want him to notice because thats when he will step up his pace, he turns on the charm and starts being nice when he notices i'm 'drifting' away, then i usually think 'oh, he must love me, everythings going to be ok' thats when i let my guard down and get sucked in even deeper. I'm trying to keep my distance so that doesn't happen.

IOHW it's so good that you're thinking that clearly. You sound much stronger than you did even just a few days ago. If you feel yourself waivering at any point make sure you re-read all of this to re-gain that strength - you're doing great and you'll be so happy when you work through all of this. Then we can go for that drink!

Thank you MLS i really look forward to that!

LOL at record collection. Your sense of humour is fab. Looks like your already one step ahead of him. Glad to see you so much more sure of the direction your going. I up for that drink too to celebrate your new life ! ( Might have to be a virtual one though not sure where you all are !)

After my driving to london antics last weekend it doesn't matter where we all are - I'll pick you all up!!

Agree about your sense of humour being brilliant IOHW!! Honestly could not stop laughing at your last post on my thread! Fantastic!

That would be great lilyloo! I'm in west yorkshire.

I always have had a wicked sense of humour, i used to love to laugh. Just forgot what it was like! he has absolutely no sense of humour at all, i mean NONE! never laughs unless it's at someone else's downfall. Sad!

Wey Hey!! We go a lift!! We will hold you to that MLS!!

mls might have to get mini bus we could pick up lot's more like minded people between now and then. what will we advertise the meet up as ? dw's/dp's of pratts meet up ? IOHW over to you on that one sure you got another great one liner !

It's wasted on him then IOHW. I not too far, Rossendale, often over at Leeds anyway visiting in laws.

S.I.P. Trip!

Survivors In Progress!

Ah we're not all too far away from each other then.

I'll get onto organising a coach!

Something to look forward to then IOHW !

P.S SIP trip sounds good 'stupid , inconsiderate, pillocks !

im forever away im in kent!