Anyone left their DP/DH knowing it was for the best but still being in love with them?

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How did you get through it? Was it really for the best?

hi

a few texts have been exchanged nothing nasty though which is a good sign. He did a really nice thing for me earlier i couldnt get my phone to dial out so i texted him to call the dentist for me and he did immediately. Only just got back from dentist and i have an abcess under the filling so explains the pain!!! Got nasty antibiotics to take as im allergic to penicillan i get all those vile smelling ones but if it gets rid of pain yey!! Any more painkillers and i'll be on the verge of an overdose!

Im just taking the tim eout for me and kids giving us both some breathing space. Been out with my rl friend and she is adamant he'll be back but before he does i need him to realise the way i feel the way i do not be like well i said sorry and thats it. so time apart is a good thing for now. Although an offer to babysit kids so i can go to bed would be very much appreciated but cant expect a man to be intelligent enough to think of that! .

Iohw still checking out your freezer??

mls hope alls well with you?

Thats good news Mel, both about DH and getting antibiotics for tooth. For what its worth I think you are doing exactly the right thing taking time out for yourself and children, it will do you the world of good. Then, when DH does come back you will be all calm, rational and ready to state your case

Yes, am still checking out the freezer i'm loving it!! x

sounds good mel, you sound like you're doing exactly the right thing

iohw how are you?

i'm doing ok. i think!

xx

Hello you guys

Sorry I've been such a loser lately and not logged on much. I've been feeling a bit poo but the sun's out so I feel better today

I missed your troubles Melminx but I'm glad that you're sorting everything out with DH - good luck and keep us posted!

IOHW - chest freezer - what a die hard romantic, eh?

MLS - how lovely to see you darling

I'm so behind on everyone's news. Off to pick up DD now but will log on later and catch up xx

hi cnc!

haven't been on too much myself tbh. doc has signed me off for another couple of weeks and its soooooo hard looking after ds full time! give me work any day

Hi MLS i'm ok thanks. I'm not one to complain

So, how are you really? It's ok if you prefer not to go into that, I totally understand

Have you decided about the job yet? If I was a gambling girl my money would be on you staying put xx

Forget that MLS. Have just caught up with your thread and got all the info i need!!

yes staying put! although have just spoken to them and they're asking if there's anything they can do in terms of changing my working hours etc and if so, would I change my mind.... arggghhhhh! it's too hard!!

and yes i'm ok. worried about dh. but nothing new there!

Well there's always space in my freezer if you should need it

(assuming you have read Lilyloo's post further down the thread)

Maybe it's not such a bad idea to stay put at the old job whilst you have all this goin gon with DH. You are going to end up cracking up!!!! xx

I totally agree!

Unless I am moving for my 'perfect role' which makes me excited and happy and on top of the world, then I'll stay put. I'm happy and secure where I am and I need a bit of that right now!

Thank you for the freezer offer - I may just take you up on it!

Hi Lily, no, no chainsaw yet. Ive put in a request for 3 bags of compost and a new hoe. Ive been thinking that I need to get my essential needs sorted out before the chainsaw comes into the picture and, as i'm taking all my frustrations out on the garden at the moment the compost seems fitting. Ive found an old saw in the garage, its a bit rusty but i'm sure it will do the job should an 'emergency' arise

Good morning to everyone else too. Hope everyone is well and doing ok..... considering!! xx

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Hi Ginnedupmummy, i'm so sorry that your DH proved you right. I think you are doing the best thing by banning him from home at least until he has sobered up. I was wondering, have you ever sought advice from anyone, advice for yourself that is and how to handle this situation and what to do for the best for you. It must be sooooo frustrating for you, you put your trust in him time and time again only to have him ruin it. Plus the fact it's totally out of your control. I really do feel for you. The trouble is there is absolutely nothing you can do to force him to stop drinking. He has to want to do that for himself (you know all this already of course ) I suppose its a case of putting up and shutting up, getting on with your life the best way you can or, asking him to leave and getting on with your own life. But, if you do decide to go it alone he probably won't leave you alone so you are going to have to be very strong or be prepared to keep taking him back. I really do wish I had a solution for you. xx

PS. There's always rom for your DH in my freezer. Ive reserved a space for MLS's DH too but if we chop em up small enough we should fit em all in Mmmm, maybe i should request a mincer!!

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Hi Ginnedupmummy

I was thinking about you last night and logged on this morning to suggest that maybe you should take a leaf out of my book then i read that you are doing! Good for you! It is certainly working for me. I feel a whole lot better for it. That was good advice from your counseller. Thats what Ive deduced from my situation, i can't control it but I have changed the way I react to it. xx

Hi Ginnedupmummy. I've just seen this and wanted to say you're doing brilliant. It must be so difficult to not contact him when he's off on a bender - but by withdrawing yourself and not allowing him to be around you and the kids, you're making him deal with the consequences of his actions. I think you're dead brave and I hope your attitude makes him wake up to what he's missing out on

I have just caught up on all the shenanigans with your chest freezer IOHW Talk of chopping up your men and hiding them in the freezer, it's all very Desperate Housewives! Got room for one more

I mean, of course, that you're doing brilliantly

I'm going to get a mincer Cashncarry, we can fit loads more in then xx

I don't know whether to laugh or vomit...

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Wey Hey!! Way to gooooo!

Just a little tip, make sure while you are giving him the cold shoulder that you don't have a sulky face on, just go about your business, smiling, laughung even singing! That gets em even more worried {grin]