Anyone left their DP/DH knowing it was for the best but still being in love with them?

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How did you get through it? Was it really for the best?

def agree with the head in the clouds and the glass of wine girls, been a tough week this week need some mnet time tonight me thinks, always good for light relief

Hello Ladies!

Just popped on to tell you whats hppened to me this morning!

DD were up and off early to garden centre for compost and tomato plants. Weve got very into gardening lately, very theraputic!

We didn't see DP, he was showering or whatever in his room. We stayed at Garden Centre for breakfast so DP has already left for his day at the races which is fab!

But ive just opened the garage to find a new chest freezer! Ive wanted one for ages. I love cooking and baking and wanted one so that I could do batches and freeze it, makes life easier on a day to day basis. (more time to MN )

I can't believe it!! I thought my plea had fallen on deaf ears and had given up hope of ever getting one. He has definately noticed something is going on with me

I wish I had asked for a Porsche now

I hope you all have a lovely weekend. DD is at the ready, armed with her trowel and wellies so must go! XX

afternnon all. its a beautiful dau and all ican do is cry dh gone and its over .

AWh Mel, no. what happened? I thought hings were going ok.

Im sending big hugs XXX

so did i but client his working for sent a text last night hi what you up to x i replied watching tv with me she replied who's mel x i said my wife no more texts so asked him who she was he said nothing in it i told him to leave. i love him to death but ny trust is gone. spoke to her and she said nothing in it so did her hubby but my trust is shattered as is my heart.

Awh Mel. Please don't take this the wrong way but, do you think there's a little bit of a chance that you may have overreacted? You love him very much. Can't you work through this with him?

I think that you are so scared of getting hurt that at the slightest little thing you push him away. Or ask him to leave. But then you end up broken hearted anyway. Me thinks we need to work on your self estemm my love xx

what self asteem. my friends tell me im a stunner but i feel ugly and worthless. Maybe i did over react but im sick of these women texting him and why is he letting them. i cant take it anymore. she is going through marriage troubles so its fair to wreck someone else?

i honestly cant see a way past this anymore i start to trust and then more texts are found i just cant live like it

was 11 at night she texted

sad thing is i dont even have any one to phone and talk to and cry to

If she has a husband why was she texting yours?

Have you spoken to her husband? I just wonderd as you say he says there's nothing in it
Where has your DH gone to? When did he go? Did he put up a fight or was he happy to go?

spoke to her hubby he doesnt think anythings in it. he didnt want to go no even as he went said it doesnt have to be over but is acting like a complete shite today ignoring me so im not contacting him now. think his at his sisters

no advice melminx just wanted to give you {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}.

He's probably feeling a bit p**d off himself to be honest. He's been kicked out again and as far as he is concerned it's over nothing.

The thing is Mel, him getting the texts could be completely innocent. It was a message he received so he had no control over that. But because it made you feel insecure you kicked him out again. I think if you really want to be with him you are going to have to try to overcome this problem. It's not really his fault that you feel jealous and insecure when he gets a text.

Whats the alternative? To divorce him and spend the rest of your life alone because you don't want to get hurt.

I bet you are hating me right now but I remember the last time!!

he grabbed me to like he wanted to hit me thats why i threw him out

maybe they were innocent and i severly over reacted but didnt like being threatened brought back too many painful memories from my first partner

So what are you going to do? What do you want to happen now? Have you decided it's over? xx

i honestly dont know on auto pilot till kids go to bed then i'll crumble into a mess

Please don't do that mel

Just see it as a little break for now. You have some space, some time to think and get your head sorted. Get the kids to bed, have a soak in the bath then watch some tele. Be kind to yourself.

Just try to keep calm and rational about everything. Everything will be ok, trust me xxx

i do need time away from him. decision time for real now as to whether i want this marriage or not. right now i dont but i will give myself time to calm and make a calmer choice thanks iohw x

Melminx i really hope you have chance to think things through when you have calmed down. IOHW at chest freezer i can't believe he is really taking note of the new you, keep it up what's next on the list as thinking porsche might be jumping the gun slightly

cant think of anything other than ripping my tooth out think i have an infection under new filling face looking like elephant man by the second!

Feel for you Mel as if you need toothache on top of all this !

Good morning Ladies

I hope things are looking a bit better for you today Mel I hope you don't think I was being harsh and insensitive yesterday, It wasn't my intention if it came acroos that way. Thinking of you xx

Hi Lily I'm wondering if it's the new norks that have impressed him, maybe he was planning to trade me a peep for the freezer

PS inresponse to your thread - YES! At that time of the month I could go from loving in him hating him, couldn't stand the sight of him, the smell of him, nothing of him!! I thought it was just me