Anyone left their DP/DH knowing it was for the best but still being in love with them?

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How did you get through it? Was it really for the best?

glow in the dark.... now there's an idea!

could make for many a comical moment in the bedroom

I wish you lived closer - we could have got a few bottles of wine in tonight and put the world to rights!! I bet could have solved every problem on mumsnet!

hi mel

just trying to catch up and take my mind off dh being out

how are you?

Awhhh that is so lovely. I can feel the love

Tell him 'no thank you, I am watching CSI tonight then if you ever slip up again i will know how to do you in without getting caught'

Oh what a lovely thought, i wish i lived closer too. It would be a great night! You would be sending DH off the the pub every night if i was a neighbour

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you ok mls? i understand the clingy thing been like that myself but not told dh just got stroppy when he came in from work. had time to look at me and realised i have done things totally wrong too and without realising pushed dh away. just hope we can work our way through it now. i could do with having your patience and understanding and iohw then id be superwoman!!

I certainly would!

Hi Dior

How are you? Was the Relate session a success?

lol Dior!

I'll do that!!

lol he'll come in all excited and I'll be the one who's passed out after all the wine!

MLS not clingy, she is 'lurve' sick

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Mmmm, she sounds good. Maybe DH not so sure because it's too near the bone, he is actually going to have to face his issues, men don't like that!

mel I understand that - sometimes it's hard to talk or explain how we really feel so we end up pushing them away more.

that's why when I'm feeling insecure or clingy at the moment I'm trying to send nice messages so that I get reassurance back, rather than be stroppy and then he'll get fed up and be glad he's away from me!

this way at least he'll look forward to coming home! (i hope!)

Dior it's great news that at least he's going

He may not really want to, but once he's there he hasn't got much choice other than to listen and talk - so hopefully some of it will sink in!

at you already having a glass of wine

Right, off to do bath and bed time...

If I can still see/type later on (after all that wine!) I might see you later!

If I don't manage to get on I hope everyone has a nice weekend

xx

Not much for me to add here really except that ALL my relationships have been similar in some way to the OP.

I want to thank you for making me aware - next step is getting rid of my miserable git and then working out what it is about me that attracts these losers who seem so wonderful at first.

Best of luck IOHW.. I will look in again to follow your progress with interest xx

Thank you SCP

Wishing you luck too. I have only had 2 realtionships and both of them have been very similar.
Let me know when you work out what it is that draws you to such men, i would be interested to know.

Take care xx

morning all

Good morning melminx nice to see a smiley face. How are you? Is he home yet?

no he had a quote to do that was miles away so wouldnt have got here till gone 11 so i said to leave it. he offered to come over just go to bed a cuggle but i want to talk first. hoping we can get together today. how are you?

am regretting not letting him come round last night but felt if i did everything was on his terms

Awh, thats nice. I hope you manage to get to talk to him. Get this all sorted out once and for all.

I'm ok thank you. DD gone to seaside today with grandparents so have got a day to myself. (D)P working on his mates house. I'm going to do nothing today!!

lucky you. tried phoning dh but phone off so probably still asleep. but day is passing hia a 30-40 minute drive away and i thought we could take kids out. want him to wake up and call! but aday with out kids so sooooooo much better!

You must always try to never cut your nose off to spite your face You didn't let him come round but now you are the one with regrets. Well, that bits done now and today is another day. You can talk to him like a strong 'i know what i want' woman but without being confrontational. Try to keep it to how all this has made you feel rather than directing the blame at him.
It's all a big game really, you just got to know how to play it