Anyone left their DP/DH knowing it was for the best but still being in love with them?

[Ifonlyhewould]

How did you get through it? Was it really for the best?

melminx it's no trouble we can get the coach to do a detour to pick you up! or meet somewhere in the middle!

thats cool i dont drink so will happily drive anywhere!

Maybe we could do a SIP tour for the weekend and just get a party bus. (Sorry am getting bit lost now on all these threads)

Don't know if she'd be interested but think getting to Ernest may prove slightly more difficult !

Unless we all head over to a hotel near where Ernest lives

I'm sure all the dh's will be happy to have the dcs for a few days whilst we go on a party bus to Europe!!

Of course he would SIP party bus here i come !

Might be cheaper and a lot less hassle just to book a flight and meet in Costa del Sol

Enough people to hire a ship, Caribbean cruise anyone?

OH, now you're talking

im in!

any one around?

I'm in too! Whatever you plan I'll be there at the front.... Mentally packing my suitcase right now!

I quite like the idea of a convoy of bright red double decker buses. MLS, if you want to drive you can wear a uniform complete with cap. I quite fancy being a 'clippie', i could take orders for drinks cos of course we will have a bar on each bus.
Any volunteer drivers for the other buses?

non drinker so i'll drive

iohw its great to see your humour smiling through ,you seem to be so positive at the moment ,long may it continue,I have only just caught up with todays thread as i have been busy and i for one think your gonna be just fine.

Good morning IOHW!

How's my favourite MNer today!

I'm liking the plans for the trip away. I love how a nice quiet drink to celebrate our happy futures has turned into a convoy of bright red double decker buses to the Costa del Sol

How are things?

Morning IOHW glad to see we didn't generate to anything unrealistic yesterday. Of course a Carribean Cruise would be fine How you feeling today ?

Good morning friends!!

I'm on a mission to cheer you all up today!! Gosh, i turn my back for one minute and the board is full of blue faces!! Whats going on!! It must be withdrawl symptoms, you can't cope with being left alone with DH's now can you? You would rather be on here. After the 'highs' and the laughs you have on here, being stuck in front of the tele with a DH is such an anticlimax! No matter how big the tattoo area!!

I'm ok guys, thank you for asking. Ive put £5 in my 'running away' account!!

£5 is better than £4! It all matters!

I know, I think we're left on our own for an evening and it all goes wrong again! I think we're missing your humour too much when stuck with boring dh's!

(You're right, no matter how big the tatoo area, sometimes it just makes no difference )

well after seeing all the blue faces this morning i think i take back what i said yesterday about wishing i had the same problems you guys have. The constant 'ups' and 'downs' are killers! At least when i manage to leave i will be done with all that [fingers crossed]

I still think you are all amazing. And you... are soooo amazing! All the lovely things you are doing for DH, to make your relationship feel special. Just make sure that you are not the one doing all the giving. That you are not 'buying' him back with all the nice stuff. Take a step back every now and then and let him make some effort. Never forget that you are not grateful he chose you over fluff, he should be grateful that you chose your relationship over everything else!!!
I would say you can certainly be forgiven for having 'a moment' just remember to be kind to yourself. Don't go wearing yourself out trying to be the perfect partner.
We have a drink to look forward to!

I know what you're saying. He did say last night after my melt down that he feels like the luckiest person in the world that I've given him the chance to put things right and he will do whatever it takes.

May take a step back like you say and let him organnise some nice plans for Easter weekend and I'll just stop worrying about everything and try to enjoy being looked after!

thats more like it! You have to have faith and confidence in your relationship, try really hard not to let the past spoil the future. I really do know thats easier said than done, i really do, but when you are sat 'thinking' about things, thats exactly what it is, your mind thinking thoughts which are propbably not very pleasant and which are really hurtful to you. This is where you have to try really hard to turn them off, retrain the brain to think nice things.

I'm so pleased your DH has realised how lucky he his. I bet he is feeling like the luckiest most happiest man in the world xx

I hope so

And I'll try to do what you say. Can't promise anything just yet but I'll try!

Thats all i ask

iohw weldone for making a start on the running away fund. just through these messages you seem so much brighter for having made up your mind to go.