Bf said ex is slimmer than me!

[Grooves]

He's said it before and I mentioned him saying it to which his reply was "she is skinnier than you"

I feel like it's a comparison and it's pissed me off! I hate his ex with an absolute passion (lots of drama when we first started dating, she was basically a disrespectful bitch) so for him to say it is like a kick in the teeth. I'd like to add I'm pretty slim, I weigh about 7stone.3 and have a nice tummy, my bmi being 18 (would have my 6 pack back if I went to the gym) but I still feel crap.

Am I being stupid?

It doesn't sound like this relationship brings you much happiness. Have you considered ending it?

Did she turn up at his house recently, even after he had bLocked her, and it is over a year since their relationship ended is that correct?
Well if your bf has seriously blocked her and made it clear that the relationship is over then this is not on.
It's completely ott on her part and I'd be well passed off if I were you.
If on the other hand he had been encouraging her to contact him by not disengaging from her, then he is in the wrong.
The comments about being skinnier than you sound like tbey were said on a matter of fact way and you need to get over that.
Of course their will be people more intelligent, funnier, prettier than you, that is life.

@emilybrontescorset

She turned up after being blocked, she used the excuse of "I've moved on so can we be friends" he told her it was down to me and if I wasn't happy about it, she would be blocked again. This was a month after he blocked her.

They've been broken up two years soon.

She is blocked now and has been for a good while!

With regards to encouraging texting, I dunno, I wouldn't say so, he had shown me what she would say and it was very much her. He wouldn't reply and she would be messaging none stop. If he replied (I'm busy) she would take that as he wanted to talk and then text none stop again!

He did tell her to back off and if it was me, being ignored would have made me back off a lot sooner. She doesn't think the same way.

Hang on, are you saying the ex is in your life now and wanting him back, or is all of this referring to what happened a year ago?

the skinny remark was a year ago.

Sol, very true. But women body shaming skinny women seems to still be perfectly acceptable to many women on MN.

Show me a thread where fat women are called whales, bags of fat or told to eat a salad? You won't find any. They would be rightly ripped to shreads.

I get that the skinny comment was a year ago, but I'm not sure about when the last contact with the ex was. It doesn't actually sound like she's been around for the past year?

I mention it because you are exerting A LOT of energy into his ex when she doesn't even seem to be in the picture. Any current problems you have are with your DP and no one else.

It happened 9month ago.

I don't exert a lot of energy all the time, it tends to be around a certain time in the month.

and yes, I do appreciate the problem (or when it arises) is with him and I. And tbh, more myself than him.

'Skinnier'≠ 'More attractive'.

Straight men like curves.

Yep bonnie.

And men who like thin girls are all a bunch of pooftahs !

and yes, I do appreciate the problem (or when it arises) is with him and I. And tbh, more myself than him.

This your issue and your issue alone.

onionknight yup.

Oh Bonnie

Holly I agree. Skinny shaming is the 'acceptable' face of body shaming.

I think it makes many women feel better about themselves to try and make other women feel shit about themselves.

straight men like curves ? Should be amended to some straight men like their women soft and curvy and some like their women to be toned and slim In fact, having spoken to my 18 year old son about it, it would seem that many don't really mind, but don't find extremes in either direction particularly attractive.