Bf said ex is slimmer than me!

[Grooves]

He's said it before and I mentioned him saying it to which his reply was "she is skinnier than you"

I feel like it's a comparison and it's pissed me off! I hate his ex with an absolute passion (lots of drama when we first started dating, she was basically a disrespectful bitch) so for him to say it is like a kick in the teeth. I'd like to add I'm pretty slim, I weigh about 7stone.3 and have a nice tummy, my bmi being 18 (would have my 6 pack back if I went to the gym) but I still feel crap.

Am I being stupid?

Thank you.

He did, yes. he said he wouldn't ever go back and that he's happier with me!

I think I do need to work on my self esteem. Or at least, learn to let go of things.

i want you back, ringing all the time.

That was her to him, not him to her. Wow, I would have left in a second if he'd have been saying that to her.

So I am struggling to understand what it is you are blaming him for at the start of the relationship? She kept ringing and hassling him, but he kept saying no? What should he have done? Maybe if you can explain in a bit more detail we can understand more?

I dunno! If it was me and they hadn't taken what I'd said on board, I'd just block them.

Nothing was gained by messaging all the time! The outcome being she got blocked.

Skinny isn't sexy, who wants a woman with the body of a 10 year old boy? It doesn't actually matter about ex's because they are that, he sounds like he is young and daft, kick him in the goolies if he upsets you x

It sounds like he's much better off out of it.

He's been firm with keeping his ex away. And that's still not good enough for you.

You've mass bitchy comments about his ex (and whilst he may not want in his life, he may still care about), and he's retaliated (how dare he!). This happened a year ago? And your still angry about it?

I'm confused.

This happened a year ago? You slagged off his ex by calling her ugly and you brought it back up? I think you have issues and not just with food.

Weight has nothing to do with it, Op you need to work on your self esteem. Your posts scream of insecurity, if it wasn't her figure it would be her job, car, sense of humor etc.....please try to work on your own self worth!

@girty999

One comment was a year ago, the other this weekend.

Well years ago my boyfriend's ex tried to get him back and I told him he was welcome to her if that's what he wanted. His horrified reaction told me everything I needed to know, it was never mentioned again.

It sounds as though he never convinced you sufficiently at the time, if he did his best however and you keep on picking at it then I understand how it could be an issue. The comparing is really off, from either of you, love isn't based on skinny versus skinnier.

kick him in the goolies if he upsets you x

WTF?

"If it was me and they hadn't taken what I'd said on board, I'd just block them."

But that's just one way of handling this, right? Some men (and some women) feel a sense of responsibility to an ex, even after the love has gone. Sometimes emotional links of care and compassion remain, even after the relationship is emphatically over, particularly if there are things like MH issues in play. It can be very hard to know how to manage these in a way that honours both that sense of responsibility and the claims of the new partner. It sounds as though your DP didn't always get it right, but perhaps the way he acted came from a good and honourable desire to do the right thing at the end of the day?

Yeah suggestions you assault him are hilarious

I'll reiterate what I said before - you sound strangely obsessed with his ex. Unless I'm missing something, I don't see what's happened lately for you to remind him of an argument that took place a year ago and start bringing up the ex again.

Let. It. Go.

@lanouvelleheloise

That's what he said. I don't think he does now, he said he pitied her and the way she was acting. He has admitted he didn't get it right and should have some things a lot different. I do appreciate the fact he knows things should have happened differently.

@wonderlime

He called me her name and it pissed me off so an argument ensued.

Wow. Can you imagine if all the 'bag of bones' and 'who wants a women with the body of a 10 year old boy' comments where replaced with 'who wants a fat blob as a gf' and 'fat people are gross' comments. Everyone would be going mad! But we are allowed to body shame skinny women? Just wow...

You don't sound very mature OP. Maybe he needs to LTB?

The ex's name...... understood.

Is this Hollyoaks?

Since when did saying someone is skinny act as a compliment?

Some men (and some women) feel a sense of responsibility to an ex, even after the love has gone. Sometimes emotional links of care and compassion remain, even after the relationship is emphatically over

Hmm... some men and women feel guilty about ending a relationship and try to make themselves feel better by 'being there' for the ex, despite not wanting to be with them. This doesn't help the ex move on & is often entirely self-indulgent. Equally, some men and women like having someone around who is still in love with them as it's good for their ego. They may like the feeling of having two people wanting them at once and even fighting over them. Care for ex-partners can remain, but you normally need cold turkey no contact for a while if feelings remain on one side, until you can be friends again.

I think he was a little too soft with her, I think she always thought she could message whenever she wanted and he wasn't as assertive! And when he was, she probably didn't pay it any attention.

When he blocked her she didn't take that into consideration as she turned up uninvited. If I got blocked, I'd be too mortified to ever wanna see them! The embarrassment.

Tell him to go back to her then. He doesn't sound very appealing.

Stick

Bag of bones

Eat a pie

All we need now is the "real woman" analogy and we'll have the full bingo

Laugh it off and tell him your ex has a bigger dick 😂😂