Bf said ex is slimmer than me!

[Grooves]

He's said it before and I mentioned him saying it to which his reply was "she is skinnier than you"

I feel like it's a comparison and it's pissed me off! I hate his ex with an absolute passion (lots of drama when we first started dating, she was basically a disrespectful bitch) so for him to say it is like a kick in the teeth. I'd like to add I'm pretty slim, I weigh about 7stone.3 and have a nice tummy, my bmi being 18 (would have my 6 pack back if I went to the gym) but I still feel crap.

Am I being stupid?

How old are you OP?

Skinnier does not equal better or more attractive. Why do you think it does?

With regards to second post about his ex being around when we first started dating, It has caused a lot of arguments and resentment. And I hate to admit, probably feel insecure.

There was no overlap but they were still friend, he didn't want her back and she lied and said said didn't want him back.

He then met me and she decided she did want him back. There was lots of texts "I want you back" ringing all the time, messages about what I had that she didn't. If he ignored her she'd text non-stop. It got to me as I felt anxious.

He did block her and after a month she turned up claiming to have moved on.

That has been the catalyst for our arguments, it happened a while agai and she is no longer on the scene but ive found it hard to move on from. I've managed to forgive him, but I do still think about it, and when I'm pms, I zone in on it more so than any other time.

Sounds like you all need a good meal to me.

You need to say "and that matters because...?"

And then dump him because he's a twat.

The convo was on the ex as he called me her name!

As I don't like his ex, this caused an argument to which she got brought up and things that have happened in the past got mentioned, one being that she's skinnier than me.

Oh my life...

I remember the days of worrying about such things, I'm so glad am over it now! Op just forget about such crap and move on. He sounds like a juvenile twat and you are stooping to his level by wasting more then 5 seconds worrying about it.

I hate that something so stupid upsets me! I actually waste my time thinking about things I can't change when I know there's more to life.

@timis 😂😂

Why does it matter if she's skinnier than you? You already sound very skinny/underweight and that's not a good thing.

The whole bringing up the ex thing would piss me off tho and he sounds like a bit of a twat so just dump him. You sound like teenagers if you're still arguing about this.

If that's the case Grooves then you need a man that doesn't say stupid comments for you to waste time worrying about.

If he's using it to make you feel jealous or insecure then he is out of order.

I'd you're 7st 3 and she's skinnier than you I doubt very much it's a compliment. He's obviously a wind up merchant. Tell him you don't appreciate the comparisons and to stop.

But why did he say it?
Doesn't make sense for him to just say that.

The first time he said it he was drunk and not to stick up for him, I was the one in the wrong.

The whole having the ex around at the beginning has caused an insecurity which I hate, I hate that I feel like this.

You are 7 st 3 and you are worried that someone is skinnier than you.

You have bigger issues than your boyfriend.

Sounds like you were asking him at some point.
If he's saying it to make you feel insecure I'd be out like a shit.

'Shot'

I didn't ask, it was a retaliation.

Do you have food issues Grooves?

It sounds as though your partner is the type whose ego is flattered by having you compete for his affections. Which is degrading for you. Don't play his game. Your problem is your partner, and nothing to do with his ex.

The disrespectful comment is disrespectful!
Dearie me.

I'd be out like a shit. that analogy still works

OP you sound v young, stop obsessing over this and work on your own self esteem and boundaries - then you won't care what he says.