Not sure if this is the right place - DH insists I have a psychiatric disorder

[soulsearch1ng]

Not sure if I should maybe post in mental health.

Things have been difficult with DH for a while. Not sure if it is me of him.

He insists I have a mental/psychiatric illness/disorder and asked me to seek help and told me I must get a formal diagnosis - otherwise he will leave me and the DC as he cannot cope with me anymore.

I really don't think there is anything 'wrong'. Friends never mention anything. I have worked all my life and never had issues at work. My family think I am normal.

Is it still possible that I have something going on that needs treatment? I am starting to doubt myself

You don't need a MH assessment. I'm sure that's simply a plan to manipulate you even further down the line.

Next time he tries to tell you to do some jobs, tell him you're relaxing.

If he threatens to leave, just tell him to do what he feels necessary.

Once he realises you aren't scared of him leaving he'll stop it.

You are not fat.
You don't have MH issues, apart from the stress of being married to an abuser, who is eroding your self esteem and making you doubt yourself.

Well done for posting here and realising that he is the problem.

well done soulsearch , rooting for you. You can do this.

You can get out of this relationship and do this Soulsearch good luck.

I was you 16 years ago, I found a miraculous cure for my mental health problem - a divorce!

Best of luck with your plan to get out, you can do this

Well done soulsearch - are there people you can call on for support in real life too?

Based on your posts it doesn't sound as though you have any kind of disorder. It does sound as though he is seeking to manipulate and further crush your self esteem so that you become increasingly more dependant on him.

I do wonder if he's thought it through though, if you go to the GP and they say you're fine where does that leave his grand plan?

Well done for planning. Do see your GP and get a record of the abuse in case he tries to present you as mentally unstable later on. Ditto your HV if you have one. Both can be excellent sources of support and may be able to offer counselling. Our local borough does a monthly One Stop shop session for victims of domestic abuse so they can get all sorts of advice under one roof.

Very good luck to you and take care, these men seem to sniff out a wind change.

I would guess he's saying that OP has a mental illness as in "you're mental, you are!" - using the common misconception that mental illness is shameful as another stick to hit her with (perhaps camouflaged in more intelligent-sounding language). Or as in "they will give me custody of the children" or some other threat. Basically making her not want to get counselling, perhaps even because it would reveal the real cause of her problems.