DRY 18

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Link to old thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2841743-DRY-17

@Whatsthisbear thank you, you are my first test...and I didn't think about not breathing.
@Musti, I feel for you. Water and you will feel better soon.
Will soon see if my trial bolding and tagging works...

Whoops, oh well, practice makes perfect.. will be better next time.

Thanks guys. Just had a MacDonalds and some paracetamol so feeling much better. Now that I no longer drink in the week I have to learn to pace myself when I do drink! The amount I drunk last night wouldn't normally have given me a hangover so my tolerance has gone down.

Date was ok but won't be seeing him again as I wasn't attracted to him in real life.

@Nowstrong sorry I didn’t specify the two different actions. if you are just wanting bold no @ just beginning & end but if you want someone to get a notification they are tagged just @ in front of their name no need for So when you typed Musti you needed either @ or * not both. I’m sure someone could explain it better but you got me in bold -yay!

Musti ahh that’s a shame the spark wasn’t there, glad the McD’s sorted you out.

Thanks. Just been cooking and for a second I thought about popping open the prosecco! But I'm not going to :)

HI everyone. Drank and drank too much on Sunday. Feeling much better on day 2 than I did yesterday.

Thank you for the details @Whatsthisbear! I think I have it nailed…
Feeling determined as well as motivated. My really big test will be when my family (of pretty heavy drinkers) come to stay later this month. Not there yet, so will try to keep focused on my day to day sober self.
Re the Sober Diaries, I do admire her for putting it all "out there", even if it is a bit "can't think of an appropriate word in English" eventually. But I will keep it on my phone to listen to it regularly when I'm lacking will-power (for want of a better word). Words seem to be evading my mind today.
Oh well….
I hope that you all have a nice day.

Glad that you feel better YeahCorvid!

@yeahcorvid I also feel so much better today. I ate all the food yesterday, didn't do my workout or take my dog out on a long walk. What a waste. Definitely need to learn to curb my drinking on the days I do drink. I think I'll drink a pint of water between each glass of prosecco (I'll be running to the loo too much to drink too haha).

What's everyone's long term plans with this? Are you thinking of becoming totally af or cutting down?

@nowstrong - will your family push you into drinking or be quite happy for you not to drink even if they are drinking?

I have no idea Musti I might have to use the health card... I do in fact have some blood pressure problems (the joy of getting older) and I DO need to lose weight to get my BP down, plus walking kilometers daily, they definitively would not force me to drink, but I have no idea how the "new teetotal and healthy" me will be perceived. Oh well, as long as I'm the same mad old me, it should be OK...

Sorry didn't answer your first question. Cutting down to nearly zero would be ideal for me. A drink from time to time. But that's always the question isn't it? Can I do that? I think that if I lose the habit of grabbing a glass to relax I might be OK. Have taken up walking bîg time, plus drawing again to relax.

That's great @nowstrong. Taking up activities that are healthy and interesting instead of drinking.

For me, as long as I don't drink at home then it'll be fine as at the most I go out is twice a week, but usually just once. I'll miss being able to have some wine with nice dinners but I'm enjoying all the benefits of not drinking too much, so it's worth the sacrifice. I'm moving house soon so I'm trying to work as much as I can now so I can take some time off, but I'll be looking at doing more hobbies like you are, instead of oassuvdky drinking and watching tv. I love drawing, sewing, knitting etc

Nowstrong yep, you’ve cracked the @* . Would they bring alcohol with them when they visit or buy it whilst staying with you? I think I would struggle to resist if I had people staying that were drinking, I’m sure I would end up joining in. I don’t suppose there is a chance they would stay and not drink?

Yeahcorvid oh dear, were you working yesterday whilst feeling rotten? Has your work issue been sorted? Glad you are a little better today.

Musti I would love to be totally AF forever but don’t imagine I will be so I would settle for not pouring excess alcohol down my neck each time I drink. If I could get to the point where I am happy with just one or two drinks I could live with that.

Day 14 today. I gave up for 2 months a couple of years ago but since then this is the longest I’ve not had a drink, I thing the guys who collect our recycling are confused

@Whatsthisbear : Yep! Cracked that one (at last or at least)
We seem to have an unwritten rule that means I provide when they stay, and vice versa. They will be saving (hopefully) when I go and stay next time.
I had to check up thread to see how many days dry, or beached -whale- , I am now. One week!! Yeah!! Also did a really good walk at lunch time, so I'm on a high. Hope I don't crash dive down too soon.
Enjoy the rest of the day! x

Need more training with the -strikethrough- though...

Nowstrong strike through is a nightmare on iPad/phone, don’t know about other devices. You have to go into settings and turn off predictive text because you need to do 2 dashes beginning and end of what you want to strike through but with predictive on it makes the 2 dashes merge into one long dash! I tried it but the it kept turning my capital I into an A? Instead which was far more annoying than not being able to strike through. If you scroll down now to the bottom of your screen below the ‘post message’ button do you not see a smileys list and the “emphasis” instructions?

I clearly spend far too much time on MN

Apparently, so do I...

Just checking in. It was exactly one month ago today I last had a drink (2nd September)

Due to I'll health (arthritis) I can't say I'm feeling loads better but there are definate and obvious positives.... main one being 9lb weigtloss!! I have another 3st to go but I'm concentrating on the smaller goals at the moment.

Medication for my arthritis the catalyst for me to finally stop drinking isn't working yet but I need to give it 3 months before moving to the next level of medication.... so I'm hoping for at least 3 sober months.

Emotionally I'm in quite a different place though. I still have health issues, my baby is still disabled and life is still a never ending merry-go-round of looking after the three kids and all it encompasses but I'm so proud of facing it all sober!!

Haven't had a non pregnant period of sobriety this long since I have been old enough to drink or even before I was of legal age

I've always failed Dry Jan in the 3rd week. So feeling very pleased with myself.

@crunchymum congratulations on both 1 month's sobriety as well as 9lbs weightloss. Hope the medicine starts kicking in soon. Does weightloss also help with the pain?

Didn't drink today but had I not decided not to drink unless out out, I would have popped to my friend's for a glass or 3 of wine after we took the dogs out for a walk. Have got to change the mindset that alcohol is such a treat because it isn't. Plenty of other things. I just had some really nice chocolate :)

Crunchymum brilliant! A whole month & a bonus of weight loss, hope the medication helps soon.

Musti you have hit the nail on the head, it’s changing the mindset.

Well done Crunchymum! A month! Seems like ages still to go for me. Last night I did very well though. I poured myself a glass of wine. Sniffed it. Changed my mind and miser me poured it back into the bottle. Made myself a celebratory herb tea and forgot all about the need to drink.
Woke up this morning with giant eyebags though. Being SO healthy and still getting the bad bits. At least you don't get a hangover with herb tea, just a major need to get to the loo as soon as you wake up. What amazes me is that with all the "toxins" I am eliminating I still have so much left under my eyes. Will check "miracle auto facial massages" to see if that will help.
Hope you all have a great day! x

Wow Nowstrong that takes some will power- we’ll done! If you find a cure for eye bags do share

@nowstrong - wow! That's progress. Fab that you then forgot the need to drink. Regarding puffy eyes - maybe it's because you're sleeping more because your quality if sleep is better? Do they go down as the day goes? Also, maybe it's your buddy detoxifying or something but you should be able to see the positive effects of not drinking soon.

After my drinking on Sunday, I could definitely see the effects of it on my face on Monday (puffy eyes and could see lines).

I promise that if I find one, I will share the cure. Am so pleased that I can at last stick to this "dry" palava and to be able to share it here. I have tried so many times, but this time I seem to be more motivated. Just hope that it lasts and that when I fall off the wagon it won't hurt too much..