Mystery earrings

[MarilynMonsoon]

Not sure where else to get advice for this.

DP works away sometimes, we've not had trust issues before and I'm usually happy to wave him off. He was in a hotel for two night midweek this week and nothing out of the ordinary behaviour wise prior to that.

Was going through some of his packing to tidy up/sort laundry - not snooping I have to add, I've never felt he might be doing anything behind my back, but in his wash bag I found a pair of earrings that aren't mine. They are not a gift because I don't have pierced ears.

Since his return he's been affectionate and normal if a bit glued to his phone, but he does a lot of work on it so again not out of the ordinary.

I feel really confused, I've never had a reason not to trust him but I can't shake the sight of those earrings. Returned them to bag but took a pic on my phone. What do I do?

I also think he will try to come crawling back to the relationship.

He's abandoned the fine line of sons with his OW fantasy (clearly because she doesn't want that) and has found himself homeless instead. Down to earth with a bump.

So he will want to come back and rekindle things with you. And he is so deluded that he thinks you still want him back. He thinks it will be easy. A bit of crying, blaming her, she totally reeled him in, he was a fool, doesn't want to throw away what you both had. Everything back to normal after a couple of days.

Well what a fantastic dad hes going to make

I wonder what the ow will make of his claims to want children with her after 4 months?? Laughter i expect & then hasty retreat

He wants the house so he can move her in & begin insemination 😷😷😷

I know you lot love these quick develop real time threads but perhaps you should refrain from your vile comments like Boleynski and Russian Bint.

I have seen Russian women on here in baby names threads and its not fucking funny.

He is the guilty party so leave your racism behind.

He is worse than her but she's still knowingly shagging someone else's partner.

Doesn't justify racism schnitzel.

Russian is not a race.

Xenophobia then!

Prejudice then or down right childish rudeness.

Had you said Asian or African bint you'd be banned.

Russian is not a race.

That makes it ok? Some are as bad as he is.

Oh yes Hmm - and any unkindness towards the OW on this thread will pale into insignificance compared to what he'll spout now he's being spurned by her.

I agree FreeNiki. There's no excuse for race or nationality based prejudice, it's unacceptable and offensive whether you're talking about Russians or Nigerians, anybody making derogatory comments about the latter would have been banned already.

Not wanting to fan flames but genuinely confused as to why you feel it is racism/xenophobia
The woman is Russian

No one has spoken offensively of Russian people in general (however I've been skimming and may have missed this)

I've seen other threads where the OW has been given a descriptive nickname

So if I called someone on here a Scottish bitch or Welsh bitch, or annoying Yankee bitch, that would be ok.

Loving the soap opera thread though arent you all. Shakes head.

Because scottish and Welsh arent races either.

Marilyn, keep going! I have just reread the thread and can see your strength growing! X

I have had three friends who have "lost" their husbands to another woman. Two of the three women who were having an affair with the husbands were Russian women. That is quite a high percentage. Neither of the two Russian relationships lasted. The third (non Russian) is still in the relationship.

No one has spoken offensively of Russian people in general (however I've been skimming and may have missed this)

So why mention her nationality at all?

Niki, bint is used a lot around here. A quick search shows it has been used 135 times since the start of the year alone. Maybe ask MNHQ to delete those references? And the thousands that occurred before that of course.

And the Anna Boleynski thing was in response to the OP's reference to the OW as Anne Boleyn because her partner said that she could give her a son. It was just a way of referring to the Russian Anne Boleyn. If she were Scottish, it would be like calling her Annie MacBoleyn. A little jokey play on words and not derogatory at all.

You'd really have hated the French Martini thread.

Unfortunately the OW was the same nationality as the OP so not much outrage to be had there.

Just waiting for everybody to start 'reporting for duty'.

Marilyn keep strong - you are an awesome gutsy woman who had a very lucky escape. He came to you as someone who had been cheated on. Now he is a cheater and believe me once a cheater always a cheater. What a weak pathetic specimen he is. As soon as he is thwarted or can't get his own way he starts vomiting his disgusting tirade against you. He will start stamping his feet and holding his breath like a tantrumming toddler next. Believe me he will very soon realise just wtf he has done. Worse for him will be when he realises (and there will be plenty of friends, family and colleagues of will tell him so) that he didn't lose you - he threw the lovely life he had with you away and can't get it back. As another poster said it is all well and good to be wined and dined (the comment about candlelight just cracked me up!!) and swigging back the fizz - just wait until someone has to get up out of bed to buy toilet rolls and tea towels. I can just see this woman gazing fondly at his soiled boxers and shirts thinking I must do his laundry and get his favourite dinner ready for him. Just wait until they have to start buying curtains and carpets for their love nest.....does she know his next move will be to get her to POAS and making haste to Mothercare??? No feisty young woman wants a damaged man and especially one who, unbeknown to her has designs on her ovaries. Can you imagine his chat up line ....."I'm looking for a son - note he said SON - what happens if she (a la Anne Boleyn) has a daughter... so do your stuff". His friend does not seem exactly pleased to help him either, I bet he was dumbfounded when Fuckface turned up whinging on his doorstep. This will end up in disaster for ex partner while (hopefully soon) you will realise just how lucky you are not to have to put up with this cheating disgusting excuse for a man. Stay strong!!

Oh, it has already started, TheStoic.

The usual suspects piling in late in a thread to berate everyone.

For erm, something.

I know this is totally missing the point but I don't get the Anne Boleyn joke? Anne didn't give Henry any sons only a girl. Jane Seymour gave him the son.

Can someone please explain, I feel dumb.

Ann Boleyn replaced the first Wife of Henry VIII.....

I think the reference is because Henry supposedly divorced Catherine of Aragon because she couldn't give him a son and he hoped Anne would.

Or something.

Henry VIII divorced Katharine of Aragon because she hadn't given him a surviving son and he believed Anne would. She didn't and ended up on the block.