He's hit me

[kafia]

Again and I thought it was going to stop.
I don't know what to do I am numb. He's so, so angry and is just throwing stuff around. I have come out of the room but I just don't know what to do I am frozen.

Double check you have put in the right number kafia 0808 2000 247 then
try again, you will eventually get through that number is 24/7

Yes it just says to leave a message because they are all busy I'm not sure what to do next I don't think he's going to ever come back and I'm scared

Leave a message asking for a call back, no need to go into too much detail for the voicemail if your not feeling up to it, just give your number and ask for a call back asap.

Have you locked the door using the technique previous posters mentioned to make sure he can't get back in tonight?

Oh Kafia! I'm so so sorry about your daughter.
But please don't ever feel that is a reason to stay with him.

You've been through pain that most other people could bot begin imagine. You deserve some happiness. But this vile excuse for a 'man' will not bring that.

I don't understand the key thing

If you have a lock where you lock the inside with a key rather then just a turning knob, you can put your key and turn it half way around, so they key can't be pushed out and someone else with a key can't use theirs, because the key is in, so would stop him gaining access via the door.

He is making your life a misery, you just need the support to make your way without him.
If you think about it, if you do what you've always done then you'll be stuck in the same old situation. If you do something different, things can start to change.

How are things regarding family & friends. Do you still have you parents or any siblings, have you got friends in your area? Xx

Kafia two women a week die at the hands of their husbands/partners because these women couldn't (or thought they couldn't ) live without them...but their abusers could live without their victims because they killed them! PLEASE make this the day that changes the rest of your life..no man^^ is worth all the pain and fear that you're going through and no decent man would ever lay his hands on a person he professes to love. IF he was abusive to you while your DD was alive that must have made her scared and miserable too. It takes strength and determination to leave your abuser and with us here you will walk away while you are still physically able to do so.
Open your eyes ..while you still can I beg you.

For your sake, I sincerely hope that you are right and that he won't ever come back.

Call that number again any way

How are you this morning kafia, have women's aid called you back?

I don't know what he's going to do next I am just tired women's aid are looking for a refuge but I can't leave here

Can you leave your key in the lock so if he comes back he can't get in and surprise you?

Try to trust women's aid-they've helped loads of women in situations just like yours.

For tonight, I'd find some mindless tv and try and get some sleep.

I am going to try to see one of my mums old friends and see if she can help me I don't know where else to go

How did you get on op? Are you ok?