Monster in law

[Rainsbow]

I hate her. Just full stop. Everything she does is bloody annoying, rude, irritating, exasperating etc etc. I've managed to avoid seeing her and speaking to her since December. Dp and I are getting married soon so obviously she'll be there and I dread it. Dp has met up with his folks several times and just excuses me going too. Not sure what the point of this is but I worry about it big time. His parents are potentially coming here next month (they live 100miles away) and I really think I'm going to book into a hotel. On the contrary, I get on so so well with my own mum, I see her every day.

[Rainsbow]

I'm leaving this thread. I came here for support. What a horrible atmosphere.

[Joysmum]

I don't blame you Rsinsbow.

I wouldn't expect my dh to put up with my parents being shitty to him just as yours doesn't.

Some people have very low standards and think their opinion is worth more than your dh's. You could always ask him if he thinks his mothers comments are thoughess or designed to hurt and whether he's really ok with you being nc. My dh doesn't really have much in common with my family, I don't want him to be somewhere he doesn't want to be so I'm ok that he never sees my mob. I don't see that as selfish, life's too short. Take care

[springydaffs]

I think you've got the wrong end of the stick, End. My comment was addressed to op if you look again.

[Ragwort]

I came here for support.

You just wanted everyone to agree with you and couldn't see the wider picture or any possibility that you might be in the wrong just as much as your MIL.

[CatsAndCandles]

Completely understand why you'd want to leave this thread. Life's hard enough without all this. I'll just add one thing which might help.

I was recently in a restaurant being served by an appallingly rude waiter and getting more and more upset. Then I realised that he was just like Basil Fawlty!! It made the world of difference to my experience!

I know it's not easy but it could help.

All the best, OP.