Pictures - opinions on these texts please

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Just a small snapshot of what my 'd'p sends his 'friend'. Friend or more? Opinions please - this is a long running problem

Basically the argument was about the same kind of thing. Him texting her, me reading the messages etc etc You get the idea... It's only six months since I had to give him an ultimatum as I went through the same thing with another of his friends previous fuck buddy.

I have only been on anti depressants the last 6/7 months. I was paranoid about this other woman and was making me feel ill. He told me to go and get tablets and thinks that I've asked for counselling because of my 'trust issues'...

Why do you think he's on to you?

Stay strong, you deserve better!

He told you to get tablets and counselling as you have trust issues?! The prick has been gas lighting you big time.

Good luck, and try not to enter into a dialogue with him, he'll just try to manipulate you again.

Do you have friends or family who can stay with you tonight?

OP this just gets worse and worse. So he's convinced you that you have "trust issues" and has encouraged you take medication, when in actual fact your only issue is being lumbered with an abusive arsehole of a partner. He has other women on the boil (I would put money on the fact that he's slept with other people too, I'm sorry) and all the while he's trying to keep you sweet so that you'll fund his studies and holidays? OP he is using you completely. He's not genuine. You are his meal ticket.

Get rid of the twat and your mental health will probably improve too.

There's a big difference between having 'trust issues' and having 'reasons not to trust'.

I popped to my friends and he text wondering where I was... was a bit funny with me...

I posted on here before after I saw a message pop up on his fb from her a few months ago. He told me I was seeing things. I later realised that he had been using Facebook secret messenger, so I had seen it. He told me he hadn't written it and I honestly thought I was going mad. I told him I needed a dr. He told me they'd probably section me if they saw me in that state... Everyone thinks he's perfect though, taking my three kids on etc

So he's purposely making your depression worse by convincing you your seeing things when he knows full well he's LYING!? Wow, what a keeper. You seriously need to get rid, there are plenty of lovely honest men out there that would be willing to take on your kids so don't worry about that.

He's a gaslighting fuck weasel! This is not about you it's about him being a massive arsehole. Once he's gone pack his crap up. You deserve better and so do your kids.

I wouldn't quote his texts or even tell him why he's out. He's the kind of creep who will blame you for looking at his stuff, tell you its in your head, and basically make it your fault. I wouldn't even hear him out. Don't be angry, just calm and unemotional.

This ^^
Keep your dignity and keep him guessing.

Well he can't gaslight you about these messages because you have them. You don't have trust issues, he has bloody fidelity issues.

Your house, your money, your holiday. Kick him out op. You don't have to explain. Change the Disney tickets and see if the bitch who's so happy to laugh behind your back wants to fund his holiday and life instead. Please don't carry on letting him take advantage xx

Yes exactly the above. Don't give him the opportunity to say "trust issues" or "she's mental". Just say it's not working, you don't want to fix it and your stuff is at the door you absolute gaslighting cockwomble

Get rid of him and your life will be so much better what a wankpuffin he is

I hate this man

Honestly op just fuck him off.
What a wanker.

Holy shit

He is an absolute wanker

You are not going to lose your resolve. Keep posting here, we'll get you through tonight.

Have you got his key? If not, can you get the locks changed?

Pack his stuff and dump it outside the front door. Text him "DP, you're great in a lot of ways but you're just not my life partner. When you know, you just know. I'm sure you can appreciate that I just desperately want to be happy. Your stuff is outside. Get rid of it ASAP and don't come back."
^^ This will bells on. ^^

Good grief, he even let you think you were going crazy and encouraged you to go to GP and get pills.
That's the fucking lowest of the low.
What a scumbag.
Gaslighting you!

Good luck getting him gone.
Keep strong and keep posting.
Everyone is here for you.

Your words are keeping me strong! I'm going to do this! Starting to think of the positives. I'm not upset at the moment but I know I'll be in tears later. He leaves at two. I can get the ball rolling then. Told him I need key but had to give a reason. So hard maintaining this poker face, even if he is still in bed. Yet another one of his 'illnesses' caused by 'stress' or caused by me as he would like me and everyone else to know.

Oh I loathe this slug of a man.

he has really done a number on you. Please be cold, hard and clinical with him TODAY!

I am fuming on your behalf!

my dear, we will be here for you when this is done. you will cry, but eventually the tears will stop and you will see how much better life is without him.

I'm willing to put good money on the fact that when he has gone and you have recovered from the shock of having to dump his sorry arse, your depression will lift.

depression is anger/frustration turned inward. HE is the source of your doubting yourself and insecurity. I can't believe what he has done to make you feel worse when all the time he knew what he was doing.

I've just been reading through this thread! I am so sorry OP but you are 100% doing the right thing. What a ass hole. Onwards and upwards! We are all here for you xx

So he goes to work at 2? And you can pack his stuff then? Please don't falter OP. You don't deserve this.